Chug... I believe I have been rather sympathic to your desire to do what is right for your dog and asking advice from this forum. But, I also believe you overstepped when you confronted Saji.... she, as well as most, if not all of us, love our pets. We welcome them into our hearts, familes and homes.
I am married, have a child, 3 parrots, a deformed cat and a fish..... They are part of my family and are treated as such. As time goes on, things change, we now know more about animal behavior and psychology and what makes them tick. Back in the "olden days" animals were treated poorly, evidence now proves that they are more then just "animals" that can be tied to a tree and thrown a bone once in a while. I am NOT saying you do that, by your pictures, your dogs looks beautiful and healthy... but that does not mean that us animal people are disfunctional because we love our pets. Your dog may be more loyal to you than your wife..please get my meaning....I am sure your wife is great, but a human will dance on your grave more than your dog will. So, this is really NOT about your wife, just an example. Stats show more divorce every year is going up, but your dog is your loyal comp. forever.
Like I said, you came here looking for help, which shows you want that. Everyone has their own life (just like you), and we all choose what we want. Bottom line, you came here with a problem, and we are trying to help. You may not agree with all the answers you get, but at least you get a variety of options to choose from.
Amy