For me, when I was in school, my best friend was a female... but nearly all my other friends were male. After I left school, I had fewer and fewer female friends. Best friends became men. Right now, most of my friends are male - funny enough, the few female friends I have are other women with mostly male friends. I think the same thing that causes us to have primarily male friends also drives us together. Because sometimes you really want a FEMALE friend, not a male friend.
It's not because of my interests. I love makeup. Hair and fashion fascinate me. Pink is my favorite color. Yes, I like sports (a lot) and video games and cars and comic books. But that's not it.
It's because of my personality. How I relate to other people, how I interact with other people.
Let's put it this way: over the course of my life I have had three different gay men tell me they inexplicably find themselves attracted to me even though they absolutely don't want to have sex with a woman. I am apparently THAT MUCH like a guy that even gay men are attracted to my personality.
(Which is, by the way, not a flattering thing to hear.)
When you are "one of the guys" they don't see you as a dating option. Are you somebody they would sleep with? Of course, because men will pretty much sleep with any woman. But you aren't dating material. Because you're a bro. And also at the same time NO OTHER MAN is good enough for you either. So they hate every guy you ever date, but they won't date you either. And meanwhile girls hate you because in their minds you're friends with primarily men as a ploy to get more men to sleep with you.
Yep.
It's awesome.
Definitely something to brag about.
And feel superior about.
Got a big f***in' ego about it.
Might as well have a dick.
At least if I did I could date one of those gay men apparently.
It's not because of my interests. I love makeup. Hair and fashion fascinate me. Pink is my favorite color. Yes, I like sports (a lot) and video games and cars and comic books. But that's not it.
It's because of my personality. How I relate to other people, how I interact with other people.
Let's put it this way: over the course of my life I have had three different gay men tell me they inexplicably find themselves attracted to me even though they absolutely don't want to have sex with a woman. I am apparently THAT MUCH like a guy that even gay men are attracted to my personality.
(Which is, by the way, not a flattering thing to hear.)
When you are "one of the guys" they don't see you as a dating option. Are you somebody they would sleep with? Of course, because men will pretty much sleep with any woman. But you aren't dating material. Because you're a bro. And also at the same time NO OTHER MAN is good enough for you either. So they hate every guy you ever date, but they won't date you either. And meanwhile girls hate you because in their minds you're friends with primarily men as a ploy to get more men to sleep with you.
Yep.
It's awesome.
Definitely something to brag about.
And feel superior about.
Got a big f***in' ego about it.
Might as well have a dick.
At least if I did I could date one of those gay men apparently.