Well to be honest, I had sex before marriage..... A LOT. In fact too much. I was always "satisfied" with my sex life but it seemed it was nothing but a sex life.
Now that I am married and with someone that I truly love with every fiber of my being.... I TRULY wish I had waited.
Sex with someone I really didn't care that much about was terrible compared to being with my husband. it may sound cheesy but it's true. I am confident, sexual, uninhibited and clear minded when I am with my husband and it really made me realize how terrible the sex was before. Wondering if they liked the way I looked or if I was "good enough" for them. The relationships were PURELY based on physical needs and attraction.
Now that the sex is based on something much deeper and more meaningful it is better than I could have EVER imagined. I know he loved me before the sex and I ALWAYS know that he will love me after. It is simply amazing what a difference being with someone you love and trust with all your heart and soul can make.
it is personal choice but I would be sure I was doing it for the right reasons if I knew then what I know now.
Grammy, I couldn't agree more.
i used to be one of those people that thought marriage was just a piece of paper and that love was really a physical attraction. it is SO much more. it almost makes me sad to hear people say things like that because I find it really cheapens the image of marriage. Marriage is NOT just a piece of paper. it is a lifelong commitment (even though some people have decided to stomp all over that commitment because they wanted the tax breaks or whatever). if you think of it as just a piece of paper then YES your marriage is doomed to fail. I had only been with my husband for about a year when we got married but I KNEW he was the one and I still know he is the one. Everyday i am amazed that I found such a caring, loving, respectful, gracious, giving man to spend my life with. We have been through more hard times in our first year of marriage than most couples endure in their entire relationships. But we were ALWAYS there for each other no matter how stressful things were or how far apart we had to be. Marriage does not have to be religious. Marriage is a wonderful thing when it is entered into with someone you share a deep connection with. People take it for granted these days and that is very sad