What Do YOU Think?

[M&M's Mommy]

M&M...this was directed to you I just like to try and understand people's views as much as possible to make sure im not misinterpreting them!

thanks

Oh, when was it posted? I must have missed it somehow, or didn't know it was directed to me

i dont believe in God and neither does my bf, knowing this, when i get married, would you view my marriage differently than your own?

No, a marriage is a marriage is a marriage. I would not view it any different than my own. Marriage, like I said, is a sacred vow between two people who love each other, and that they publicly vow to be together for the rest of their lives. (You will always need at least one witness when you get married, no matter where). I don't know about other denominations, but the Catholic church accepts marriages of ALL denominations, or non-religious, only civil one, as valid. That means the "what God has jointed together, lets no one put asunder" stand true, does not matter in what church (or city hall) one gets married at. Also, one who doesn't belive in God does not mean God is not there to witness it

 

[~Jessie~]

I have another question for you as well... There are many people who are together, living together for a long time but have decided not to get married. Do you think that it is wrong for them to have sex, even when they have been living together and have made the committment?

 

[Renee750il]

I have a question as well . . .

Why do so many need the opinions of others to validate their own choices?

 

[M&M's Mommy]

I have another question for you as well... There are many people who are together, living together for a long time but have decided not to get married. Do you think that it is wrong for them to have sex, even when they have been living together and have made the committment?

Thanks for asking the question . Yes, I think it's wrong. If they claim they love each other so much, then why not get married to publicly announce their togetherness and validate their love - in front of God and man??. I could not see why people who truly love each other, have stayed together for a long time do not want to make the committment of a lifetime together.

The only reason that I can think of is without being married, one can always "break up" and does not have to deal with all the formality. It gives one an easier way out of the relationship. Is there any other reasons?

 

[M&M's Mommy]

I have a question as well . . .

Why do so many need the opinions of others to validate their own choices?

I dont' think they ask questions to valid their own choices, it's just because I'm from a very different school of thoughts, they're curious to find out if I'm from earth or elsewhere :lol-sign:

 

[~Jessie~]

My fiancee and I are getting married once we get out of college... I do believe that marriage is a way to symbolize your love, religious or not

 

[~Jessie~]

^^^ Thanks for answering, M&M. I really like seeing things from all viewpoints, whether I agree or not.
I know what I believe in It is just interesting to see what others think. Different strokes for different folks.

 

[jess2416]

If they claim they love each other so much, then why not get married to publicly announce their togetherness - in front of God and man??. I could not see why people who truly love each other, have stayed together for a long time do not want to make the committment of a lifetime together.

Why ????? you can have commitments with out that piece of paper...

But back to the original topic..

yep I like sex and its great, and no im not marrying anyone...and no Im not planning on having children....as yes I think having a "friend" is great, and I like having no strings attached sexual relationships...

Hooray for me, maybe I'll get some this weekend, or is it next weekend

 

[Buddy'sParents]

I dont' think they ask questions to valid their own choices, it's just because I'm from a very different school of thoughts, they're curious to find out if I'm from earth or elsewhere :lol-sign:

So you ARE an alien!?!

 

[M&M's Mommy]

^^^ Thanks for answering, M&M. I really like seeing things from all viewpoints, whether I agree or not.
I know what I believe in It is just interesting to see what others think. Different strokes for different folks.

You're very welcome. I learn from each and everyone around me everyday, too. It's the only way to grow. If everyone is the same, the world would be really, really boring - like the garden of only one type of flowers..

 

[Dreeza]

You're very welcome. I learn from each and everyone around me everyday, too. It's the only way to grow. If everyone is the same, the world would be really, really boring - like the garden of only one type of flowers..

Very well said

Thanks too, for answering the question.

 

[~Jessie~]

^^^Completely agreed

 

[Renee750il]

It's not necessarily the questions to you - doesn't center around those at all, really. Some of those are just curiosity. It's a recurring theme.

Looking to others for our opinions or validations leaves us empty, without inner resources. Our ability to make choices grows with each one we make, whether it one that makes our Path easier or one that makes that Path more difficult. It is still our choice - our Path, and our Learning. If we look to others to make those choices for us we are at best stagnant and complaiscent - at worst, regressing and enslaving ourselves.

 

[M&M's Mommy]

So you ARE an alien!?!

Heehee.. it depends. At least on this thread, if the majority are from earth, then I must be from a farrrrr away planet hehehe.

 

[M&M's Mommy]

Why ????? you can have commitments with out that piece of paper...

If you keep saying "marriage is just a piece of paper" and I keep saying it is not, we could go on for years and still we're going nowhere . Lets say we agree to disagree??

 

[jess2416]

If you keep saying "marriage is just a piece of paper" and I keep saying it is not, we could go on for years and still we're going nowhere . Lets say we agree to disagree??

Well, quit saying it then....but ok

 

[M&M's Mommy]

Well, quit saying it then....but ok

No, you quit first j/k.

 

[GSDluver4lyfe]

If sex is to reproduce, why are you having sex out of the fertile period then?

No offense, but it sounds a little bit paradoxical don't you think?

So, sex before marriage? Absolutely! You learn so much about someone when you have sex, that I really think it's actually a good thing to know if you're compatible before getting married... I've heard of so many couples who broke up because things were not working in bed... That and I can't imagine getting married to someone I don't know all I can about. Not to give too much information, but what if the guy doesn't care to please anyone but himself? What if he's a perv? You won't be able to know until you try, and it would suck to find out after being married... It just says so much about the person... IMO. Not that I find marriage to be such a big deal anymore, but divorces suck.

That, and, well, usually the first time sucks, and I would find it a real downer on a honeymoon personally.

More seriously, I think it should be everyone's choice... It doesn't shock me if a 15 year old has sex, as long as she's 100% sure it's what she wants, and not just to please her boyfriend, and that she's reasonable about it.

Honestly, I just don't think that sex is such a big deal, as long as it's done responsibly. I don't think it's degrading, and I do find it sexist to say it is for girls, but that it's never mentionned for guys. It's something natural, and girls have hormons, too.

And no, I didn't have sex at 15 - I was 19, with what I thought was the right guy at the time, although I admit I was mostly curious about what all the fuss was about, too.

I dont see the big deal about sex either...

 

[Buddy'sParents]

Heehee.. it depends. At least on this thread, if the majority are from earth, then I must be from a farrrrr away planet hehehe.

Ahh, Mars, then. Ok.

 

[M&M's Mommy]

Ahh, Mars, then. Ok.

Venus. My husband is from Mars . We're just a typical couple, eh?