I choose my friends based on their character, who I am when I'm with them, their passions, their hearts.. not their genitals.
I am NOT going to say "Oh gosh girls are such drama queens! I get along with guys so much better" because that is such an awful stereotype and does women NO FAVORS. The very idea that you are this rare and special gem and that most women are bitchy little priss queens who only care about purses and boys does women and you no favors. Next time you have someone (a man or otherwise) make assumptions about you because you are a girl.. THINK ABOUT where those assumptions came from and what you are doing by continuing to preach their validity every time you say things about "most girls."
You are MOST GIRLS. Regardless of what tvs and movies would have you believe.
I have the friends I have because they are individuals who I happen to adore lol not because I think they are inherently better or worse because they are male or female.
I am not interested in being in a romantic relationship with someone who doesn't trust me or like me around members of the opposite sex like I am some kind of animal who can't control her actions.
My boyfriend could have a damned slumber party with his best friend (who is a girl) and I wouldn't care. I trust him lol I know he is more than a walking penis.
The idea of "Oh I trust him, but I DO NOT trust her" makes no sense to me. It takes two to tango. Even if she did throw herself at him.. he would have a choice. I trust him to make the right choice regardless of outside factors/people. That's life. I can't stick him in a bubble and hide him away lol whats the point of a relationship if there is no trust?
My best friend is a guy. Always has been. Boyfriends that can't accept him and can't accept our friendship haven't lasted because frankly, I have no interest in having a boyfriend that doesn't trust me.
Of course there is compromise! As with all relationships
My best friend doesn't barge into my apartment without knocking or calling anymore lol and we have rules about the days/times in which I've gotta focus on the boyfriend and he can give me some space.
It's a very close friendship. I am in a very close romantic relationship. Of course there are rough patches and compromises and awkwardness sometimes. That doesn't mean it can't work
it has and does!
My best friend and my boyfriend aren't friends. I mean, they know each other and are fine with each other but certainly aren't buddies. They accept that they have me in common and both love me.. so we make it work.
They are both my best friend, just in different ways. It's like comparing a brother to a husband I guess lol of course the relationship is special, strong, unique.. but its different.
If anything, I feel that my relationship with my best friend is almost, I dunno, more precious.. because it isn't intimate.
My boyfriend and I, our relationship is based off so much, I love him. but there is more than just how much I love him holding us together. There is sex.
With my best friend and I. Sex/physical intimacy isn't there to be the glue/band aid lol we are so close because we put in the work, everything we share..talking, interests, just hanging out.. all of that are feelings that were earned by time, priorities, sacrifice, true honest friendship. There is nothing romantic to help things along, no physical drives, no "love is blind" lol
My boyfriend means so much to me. He is my rock, my best friend, the best sex ever, so many firsts, he gives me butterflies and makes my knees weak. I look at him from across the dinner table and see so many things.. maybe even the father of my kids! lol
but Tyler is my person.
I wish there was another way to describe it.
If I killed someone, I'd call him to hide the body lol
I'm crying, I want him there. He makes me laugh so hard that things come out of my nose and I can sit around with him all day and just do NOTHING.
Sometimes I honestly feel like we know what each other is thinking.
My biggest piece of advice? It's the same with ANY relationship where you have a best friend lol honestly & communication. Sorry there are no short cuts. Compromise and kindness help too.
Your romantic partner doesn't have to be your world. Don't let ANYONE make you feel like that is the only way to be.
You have every right and should have friends, other people, other interests, that doesn't mean that you love him/her any less.
Oh and I'm 20. Height of the sexual hormones and BEHOLD still hold it together around a boy!! *GASP* It's almost like I have a brain!