At what age

[noludoru]

Okay, Coop, I want you to be MY mom. I know what would happen if I asked for birth control, and it certainly would not be a talk about how responsible I am for making good decisions about my health, and it wouldn't really be a supportive discussion at all. LMAO.

Liz, you are so a member of the club now. Woo! We can call it Virgins By Choice, or something equally tacky!

 

[txcandice]

Wow, I was only 14 when I lost mine (It was barely in January, but I'm 15 now), he was 16 (and already had two kids) and pressured me into it. I guess you can say I regret it, it didn't feel right, and I don't even really talk to him anymore. I used to be on a bad path, sneaking out, getting into troule etc. until July 2nd, when I snuck out with someone I had barely knew and only talked to over the phone. Well, I was drugged and raped and I've been going through alot lately with that (Constant interviews, testifying, questioning etc.) Sad thing is I dont know how to get a hold of him or where to find him, so the case may go cold.

Thats one of the reasons Im getting into Juniors/Agility and my parents are actually with me on it. I believe it could give me a mission in life and turn things around.

 

[ACooper]

Okay, Coop, I want you to be MY mom. I know what would happen if I asked for birth control, and it certainly would not be a talk about how responsible I am for making good decisions about my health, and it wouldn't really be a supportive discussion at all. LMAO.

Liz, you are so a member of the club now. Woo! We can call it Virgins By Choice, or something equally tacky!

It's taken me awhile to explain this to Kevin (dad) but he of all people KNOWS saying "don't do it" doesn't work. He grew up with strict parents and managed to have a baby on the way at age 18/19. Kids will do what they will do, it's our job to guide them into doing it RESPONSIBLY.

Unexpected pregnancy is not just a teen issue, if you learn to be responsible about it from the beginning it makes life much easier.

And I have a name suggestion for your "group"

How about VAMPS? :rofl1:
Virgin
Assembly
Members
Proud
&
Strong

ETA: Definition for VAMP!

Main Entry: 3vamp
Function: noun
Etymology: short for vampire
Date: circa 1911
: a woman who uses her charm or wiles to seduce and exploit men

 

[Laurelin]

LOL! I like it!

I don't have to deal with the BC thing at all. I am prescribed it for my PCOS.

 

[drmom777]

I also talk routinely to my kids about sex, birth control, etc. With the girls it isn't so bad, but with the boys I make sure I am in a car at highway speed, and then start "the talk" so they can't get away. My biggest problem is my sons' friends asking me sex questions. Evidently their parents won't discuss it with them, so they ask me all their crazy questions . Both John and Ricky evidently told their friends I talk about this stuff because I am a doctor. I keep waiting to get an irate call from some parent

And you should hear some of the questions. OMG where do they get this stuff.

 

[ACooper]

I also talk routinely to my kids about sex, birth control, etc. With the girls it isn't so bad, but with the boys I make sure I am in a car at highway speed, and then start "the talk" so they can't get away. My biggest problem is my sons' friends asking me sex questions. Evidently their parents won't discuss it with them, so they ask me all their crazy questions . Both John and Ricky evidently told their friends I talk about this stuff because I am a doctor. I keep waiting to get an irate call from some parent

And you should hear some of the questions. OMG where do they get this stuff.

OMG! *is glad I am not alone* I am no doctor, but I don't mind talking........but I am afraid I will get that call someday too! I really DO try to encourage them to bring it up with their parents tho, I think so many parents WOULD talk if the kids brought it up............they just don't know where to begin, LOL

Let that be a lesson kids! TRY to bring it up to your parents and see what happens!

 

[wcladymacbeth]

I was 18 and... some regrets. I went through a... phase... in college. But I escaped without any STDs which is nice. Unlike my best friend who went through a similar phase last year and got chlamydia, was treated with the wrong antibiotic, and now she is PREGNANT with the infection.

Chlamydia, gonorrhea, trichomonas, and herpes are very prevalent, ladies. And most of the time these infections are WAY worse for women than men. Men often don't even know they have them. So please be safe and wear protection even if the guy SAYS he doesn't have anything and everything looks pretty normal on him.

 

[noludoru]

It's taken me awhile to explain this to Kevin (dad) but he of all people KNOWS saying "don't do it" doesn't work. He grew up with strict parents and managed to have a baby on the way at age 18/19. Kids will do what they will do, it's our job to guide them into doing it RESPONSIBLY.

Unexpected pregnancy is not just a teen issue, if you learn to be responsible about it from the beginning it makes life much easier.

And I have a name suggestion for your "group"

How about VAMPS? :rofl1:
Virgin
Assembly
Members
Proud
&
Strong

ETA: Definition for VAMP!
Main Entry: 3vamp
Function: noun
Etymology: short for vampire
Date: circa 1911
: a woman who uses her charm or wiles to seduce and exploit men

Yeah, but most parents are so behind on that. They think if they tell you to wait till you're married and avoid the subject it'll all go away. It wont, not for most teens.

And I like that.... the VAMP thing.. it's got my vote.

 

[bubbatd]

TX.... I'm just so glad that you didn't get pregnant at that age !!!! I was open talking to my kids , but all they said was " gross Mom ! " Now they say I never talked to them about sex ! Guess they thought they knew everything . !!! I never talked about the pill to the girls . I felt back then I was giving them permission . Hey , we're talking 40 years ago !!

 

[bubbatd]

Just saw your post !!!! I like VAMPS !!! Can I be a Charter Member ????

 

[Tankstar]

I was 18, almost 19. no regrets. I was with him for about a year. loved each other alot. but had to break up becuase we really couldnt work out the relationship with such a huge distance (being a 8 hour drive away. I wouldnt move and neither would he, it would have been much to complicated to do so. (since I am in Canada, and he was in the states) But either way i dont regret it one bit. We still talk once in a while to see how each other are doing ect. I was the last of my friends. And glad i waited until I did. All my friends by age 16 were already having sex. And I wouldnt budge. No guy could talk me in to it lol And I dated guys who were known for talking girls in to things, oh the bad boys haha. I guess Im just unbreakable and stick to my guns lol

 

[corgi_love]

I did a lot of stupid things when I was growing up starting at 15. I got into stupid stuff, stuff I was forced to do, etc etc.. It was bad. I think I was just craving attention, not caring who from or how they treated me.

But when I weight it all next to Travis, nothing really matters. So when I think of when it actually mattered, I lost my virginity when I was 17 No regrets because I love him.

 

[vomdominus]

I actually ended up waiting till I was 21, but only because I'm very orally fixated if you catch my drift. I started doing that at 14 though. Waiting was fine with me, because I value my money, and I was terrified of potential child support, and there was no way in hell I wanted to give up my "freedom" (typical high school male thing, eh?) for a kid at the time.

Hell, most of the time I'll still go for oral over normal if given the choice. lol

edit- ok, I'll admit, it also had something to do with a slight feeling of doing something right and honorable by stopping at third base. lol

 

[txcandice]

TX.... I'm just so glad that you didn't get pregnant at that age !!!! I was open talking to my kids , but all they said was " gross Mom ! " Now they say I never talked to them about sex ! Guess they thought they knew everything . !!! I never talked about the pill to the girls . I felt back then I was giving them permission . Hey , we're talking 40 years ago !!

Yeah, luckily. Though I had a couple scares. lol, Its akward talking to my parents about it, although they pretty much know everything that goes/went on (my mom somehow finds out everything). She tries to bring it up, but I either stay quiet or change the subject, though all she really says is stuff like "use protection!" I think my dad thinks its a bit akward too. He will just leave the room. >_>

 

[GipsyQueen]

I'm sorry for everyone who has had such bad experiences.

I was 17 my overwhelming thoughts afterwards were "Was that it????" Can't really say I regret it but I'm not proud of it either.

Just a little off topic over the past few months me and 10 (now 11 year old) daughter have been having the facts of life chats.

I'm a great believer in being as honest as I can with my kids. For instance I don't just say drugs are BAD I've explained how drugs can make you feel and explained why people might begin to take them then I've explained what they do to you (watching Amy Whinehouse and Ozzy Ozbourne gives a pretty good indication!)

Anyway I was explaining how people might have sex for pleasure rather than having sex for babies and what peer pressure is etc etc.

She says "Well how old have you got to be" so I says 16 and before I could say but I'd rather you not be 16 she screws her pretty little nose up and says "Eeewww no I don't want to be doing that at 16 will it be alright if I wait till I'm over 20 or something?"

Her Dad said I should have told her to wait til shes 36!! lol

Yes, like Nolu said, coming from a family, where you 'just don't talk about it' THANK YOU for being honest. My mom has talked to me about it, but it ALWAYS turns out more akword than it really has to be, because we never even had 'the talk'.
I'm 17, and I haven't had sex. I have a Boyfriend, who I love very much, but I told I'm not ready, which he excepts. I love him even more for excepting that, even though he is 20 and has had sex before (We had a long talk the other night) and we trust eachother, that I just did not feel ready for that step. I have a friend who lost her virginity after being together with a guy for 2 days, she says she doesn't regret it, but I just didn't feel like I wanted to, after being together with him for 3 1/2 months.
Anyways, I don't think, now that after we talked, we even talked about what we would do if I got pregnant, I feel much more comfertable with the situation and I would have a problem with it.

 

[youhavenoidea]

Anyone take a MANS virginity? For me its two. Interesting experiences to say the least. haha. They were quite awkward... without going into detail.

Haha, I broke one in. Wasn't an experience I was keen on repeating.

 

[Southpaw]

I'm 17, still haven't... and don't plan to for a loooong time.

 

[mrose_s]

18, still havn't, I probably would have by now if I was back home but I havn't seen any of my friends in over 18 months, honestly to me, doesn't seem like such a huge deal, I'm not waiting for anything in particular, I've been fine with the idea for a couple of years now but it just hasn't happened, will happen when it happens I'm not too fazed.

I am surprised aswell at the amount of people that have been raped, I'm so sorry that happened. I remember one night I was hanging out with this guy I barely knew, he was really... forward. Gropey and stuff. I got home as soon as I could and felt so physically dirty. Honestly, that guy scared the crap out of me, at first he seemed so normal but after a while he just freaked me out a lot and I made sure I was never in such a vulnerable position with him again, it also made me much more careful of who I was hanging out with, and when I got a new phone there was a select few that did not get my new number.

 

[jess2416]

I was 17 and it was nothing special... just did it to be doing it, literally lol

 

[Baxter'smybaby]

I too talk with my "kids" --now 18, and 21 yo young men--about being safe, responsible, etc. I don't know the details of their escapades...although I imagine there have been some! I was usually the one to bring up the topic--usually in humor, but to open the door for questions or discussions. I hope it has made them responsible guys.
As for me, I met my future husband when I was 18--he is my one and only. I waited awhile, and was very glad that I did. I have a hard time with the thought of having sex without an emotional and trusting commitment from the other person. That is not a judgement on anyone--it is just me.