At what age

[milos_mommy]

If this thread is inappropriate feel free to delete it...I'm going to try and keep it clean(ish) and I hope everyone else can do so.

At what age did you lose your virginity, and how did/do you feel about it?


I had sex for the first time yesterday (I'm 18). Most girls I know who lost their virginity at age 15 or 16 describe it very differently. Everyone I know says the first time isn't good...it was for me. Most girls say afterwards they feel differently about themselves and their relationship, and I honestly didn't. I didn't feel any differently about myself or my boyfriend then I did three days ago. Lying there afterwards just felt kind of right, I guess like this whole relationship has. I've always thought 16 or 17 was a normal age to have sex but now I'm really, really glad I waited. I'm not in love with my boyfriend, but I feel like I have the potential to fall in love with him...It just feels right. It's hard to explain. After we went to dinner and to two of our friend's houses, and it felt the same as it has for the past couple of weeks.

I'm just wondering if those of you who waited until you were older felt better about it than those who were younger.

 

[Squishy22]

I was 17 and wish I had waited, only because the guy who took my virginity pressured me into it. I never wanted to do it. But you live and you learn.

The second time I had sex was with a guy I was in love with. I was almost 18 at the time. I did not regret having sex with him. We were together for 2 years.

I didn't feel any different after losing my virginity either.

I think its more about the connection you have with the guy than age. But I also think anything below 17 is a bit too young no matter what the connection.

 

[Paige]

I was raped as a child so loosing it was horrific. Hence why I probably have such a bitter taste about it still to this day.

If that's too much information you may delete it.

 

[smkie]

9, i was raped as well.

 

[Nechochwen]

I'm losing it RIGHT NOW! (laptops ftw!)










Haha, not really. I lost mine at 17 (Yes zoom, you do know her, but I'm not telling which one )

I didn't feel any different afterwards, but apparently she did. Last I knew of her, she had turned into a raging druggie slut who will sleep with anyone.

 

[bubbatd]

I was 18 and engaged . He was my one and only . I was glad I waited .

 

[vanillasugar]

I was 19. I was originally intending to wait until we were married, but we had been together almost two years at that point and I realized that I loved him the same way I would if we got married right then, and it really made no sense to wait any longer. He's my one and only. I knew it then and I still do

And FYI, since I know someone will wonder, my reasons for waiting were non-religious. I felt that it was an important and special thing that deserved to be given to and shared with only one person in my life. Marriage was originally my way of "knowing" that the person was THE person. Turns out I didn't need the ring to be committed to him forever (and vice versa). We'll get married, but now it's on OUR time, and sex isn't an issue.

 

[dr2little]

I was late as well...19 and engaged. Here's the worst part...











I seem to have GOTTEN IT BACK in my late 40's..:yikes::rofl1:(don't know how I feel about that....choose a smiley)

 

[bubbatd]

Got what back ?? Your virginity !? LOL!!!!

 

[dr2little]

Got what back ?? Your virginity !? LOL!!!!

Yup, how sad is that??? Workin on it Grammy.........workin on it....

 

[bubbatd]

Been there , done that !!!!

 

[Pam111]

I was 17. I ended up marrying the guy (though we divorced), so I don't feel that it was a mistake

 

[RedyreRottweilers]

Why would you want to have sex with someone you are not in love with?

If YOU are reading this, and you are a virgin, please understand that sex should be something special between 2 people who love each other and are committed in a relationship.

Sex is DIFFERENT for men than for women. Men assume no risk of pregnancy, nor the resulting child, when they have sex in a non committed relationship. If you are not married, the male partner can abandon you, and leave you pregnant with a child to support.

(My apologies to the men who might read this, this is commentary mainly about very young men)

If you want to know how most men view sex, just go out to the barnyard. Men are driven to seek out sex by a biological need and drive common to ALL male animals. Most men will say and do almost anything to have sex with you.

If you choose to have sex, please protect yourself as well as you can by making sure your male partner PROPERLY uses a condom. Unplanned pregnancies and STDs are no laughing matter, and penicillin does not cure everything any more.

I was 18, and the man was a worthless cad whom I should never have wasted that special moment on.

 

[CharlieDog]

I was nearly eighteen, and I am glad that I waited for the right guy. I wanted to wait until marriage (not for a religious reason though) but the time was just right. I have never, and will never regret it. I am still with him, and we've been together for nearly three years now, which isn't that long in the grand scheme of things. We always use protection, every time, even though this is a committed, serious relationship and we are engaged. I am too young to have kids right now.

We were both virgins at the time, and I can honestly say that it was a good first time. No fireworks, lol, but it was special and we both feel that it was the right time. I was never pressured into it, and neither was he.

 

[Laurelin]

I still haven't.

 

[Backward_Cinderella]

I was raped when I was four. It was horrible.
But when I had sex willingly for the first time, I was seventeen, almost eighteen (I was a week away, I think). It was with Aaron, and we were already engaged. I didn't feel differently toward him or about myself afterward, and I don't regret it for a moment.

 

[Zoom]

Necho, I knew you kept that harem around for a reason...

I was 18 and it was a wonderful experience for me. I was madly in love with the guy and we were together for almost 6 years after that. It really is something special to be shared, even if you have no religious associations with it. I know too many girls who weren't ready and slept with the guy anyway and regretted it immediately. I actually talked one girl out of doing something stupid like that by telling how awesome it is when you fully love and trust the person you're with. It really does make a difference, the level of trust between the two people.

For the record though, girls, it's always better to wait. We mature a bit later than the guys do in this particular department, so having sex before 17-18 at the earliest is actually gypping yourself out of a better experience. I won't get too graphic, but it's true. And don't buy into the "blue balls" excuse he's pressuring you. He's had them before, he'll have them again and it won't kill him. Girls have their own version of "blue balls" and you don't see us using lame excuses.

Never do anything you feel pushed or pressured into doing. The potential consequences just aren't worth it.

 

[bubbatd]

^^^^ agree !

 

[sparks19]

I was 16.

and I really don't recall feeling any differently lol

for the record... it IS SO much better with someone you love and trust but I can't say that I really regret my decision to do it earlier. Don't regret the past... it helped make you who you are today

 

[Miakoda]

Wow. I'm amazed at the number of women who have been raped.

I've never spoken about it on a message board before (& I've only spoken about it to 2 people in my life.....), but I was also raped.

I was a virgin (I had planned on waiting until I was married) and in college and it was by what I thought was a friend of mine. God it was awful. I remember going back to my dormroom and puking for hours. After lying on the bathroom floor for what felt like hours, I finally drove myself to the hospital ER fearing the worst. It was the hardest thing to do...to walk up to that desk and tell them what had happened. Next thing I knew I was in an exam room with a nurse, a counselor and a policeman. I don't think I'd ever felt so low.....so violated......so **** angry.....so dirty.....and so ashamed of myself. And the kicker? I was a member of the soccer team and he of the baseball team. I had to see that asshole for many days while he pretended nothing happened. If I could go back now, I would've given the police his name but instead I held back knowing that any trial would most likely end up with him getting cut loose and my character assasinated (that's what the defense attorney would do his best to do).

Sorry for going off-topic, but after that I was a mental case on the inside while trying to still be myself on the outside. But I then met someone else a few months later and after only 2 weeks of knowing each other, I had sex with him. I honestly felt that I had nothing to hold back anymore and I was trying to ease the pain of what had happened by taking control of my own sex life. I am now married to that guy (we've been together now for 10 years & married for 4). But I wish to this day I had waited until I was married anyways. (& I still have issues regarding sex......I guess to me at this point I view it more as a procreational activity vs. one to really enjoy)

Sorry if I went too far off topic.