At what age
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Don't hate it, you're not alone. 
It's frustrating yes, but there are many many avenues you can explore to help get yourself to where you want to be. One of the phrases I use the most at my parties is "Even good girls deserve to have great sex!" It's the most natural part of life and being as you're married, you've literally got a license to do/try whatever you want, even by church standards. PM if you want to talk.
It's frustrating yes, but there are many many avenues you can explore to help get yourself to where you want to be. One of the phrases I use the most at my parties is "Even good girls deserve to have great sex!" It's the most natural part of life and being as you're married, you've literally got a license to do/try whatever you want, even by church standards. PM if you want to talk.
I was 15, and it was with a great friend that I trusted very much. We were not in a relationship, and never were afterwards either. I know that's kind of unorthodox for some, but it was a decision that fit who I am and the type of personality I have. It was a great experience; I have no regrets whatsoever, and would do it the same way over again if I went back in time.
My approach of being able to separate "love" emotions and physical connection is not one for everyone, but *shrugs*. Don't get me wrong - having sex with someone you're in love with is a totally different experience, and the ONLY worthy experience for some, it just wasn't always absolutely necessary for me, in all situations.
As for age . . . I agree that now, at 24, 15 seems really young, but I felt at the time, and still do now, that that's when I was ready. Like I said; I have no regrets in any aspect.
I'm not advocating my approach for anyone who's thinking of having sex for the first time - just recounting my experience.
But no matter who you are, how old you are, or under what circumstances you decide to have sex, BE CAREFUL and be safe.
My approach of being able to separate "love" emotions and physical connection is not one for everyone, but *shrugs*. Don't get me wrong - having sex with someone you're in love with is a totally different experience, and the ONLY worthy experience for some, it just wasn't always absolutely necessary for me, in all situations.
As for age . . . I agree that now, at 24, 15 seems really young, but I felt at the time, and still do now, that that's when I was ready. Like I said; I have no regrets in any aspect.
I'm not advocating my approach for anyone who's thinking of having sex for the first time - just recounting my experience.
But no matter who you are, how old you are, or under what circumstances you decide to have sex, BE CAREFUL and be safe.
Be very careful Parents, the statitics are a tragedy. LIttle girls and boys. THe mentally and physically challanged are at an even greater risk. IF it didn't happen to you, you are so lucky.
I have gone on with my life i understand the pain, but i know what love is too. So i ok. AT least i think so.
I have gone on with my life i understand the pain, but i know what love is too. So i ok. AT least i think so.
Okay, I haven't had sex (Laurelin, we need to make a club or something. I think I'm the only one of my friends who is a virgin by choice.. it's kind of.. sad) but I just wanted to chime in here and say that some of you, especially Zoomie, have made awesome posts. Actually pretty much everyone has made awesome posts in this thread. *group hug*
Make it special Nolodu that is the way it is suppose to be. THe right person at the right time. That is what i am trying to impress on my gradaughter. WHat a beautiful thing that must be for sure i will never know. WHen i read when did you lose your virginity, it is an instant flashback. JUst the way it is, i wish i didn't remember any of it.
I'm so sorry, Smkie... (((((HUGS))))) For me, well, I don't see sex in my future for quite a while. It's so far back on the horizon that it's invisible. Right now I'm basking in avoidance of romance. After seeing my friends relationships I've realized that unless I a) find a truly exceptional guy or b) find one a lot older than myself, the maturity and depth in the relationship will be lacking. So I'll just wait until I feel like having a real relationship with someone, and go from there - for now I don't, and that makes things easy.
ETA: Okay, LOL, we're making a club. *ponders possible names*
ETA: Okay, LOL, we're making a club. *ponders possible names*
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It still messes with me a lot. The guy was baby sitting me. My biological mom's NOW xboyfriend. Not that SHE broke up with him, mind you. He dumped her years after I told on him.
I have a lot of trust issues, and it took me a long time to be ready to have sex. I was lucky and Aaron understood and didn't push. I'm sorry you went through it too. Isn't it like one in every three women has been raped? Or is the statistic higher now?
Sorry for the thread jack.
I have a lot of trust issues, and it took me a long time to be ready to have sex. I was lucky and Aaron understood and didn't push. I'm sorry you went through it too. Isn't it like one in every three women has been raped? Or is the statistic higher now?
Sorry for the thread jack.
I was eighteen, and it was a date rape, and worse, I was stupid enough and had low enough self esteem that I then proceeded to date him for several months. With the result that, I am sure if you asked him about it today, he would claim I was a willing participant. I was his best friends girlfriend, too.
For Cinderella and Smkie, I just don't know how you deal with that. It was bad enough at eighteen.
For Cinderella and Smkie, I just don't know how you deal with that. It was bad enough at eighteen.
I wish more girls would understand the importance of sex, and how wonderful it really is when you wait to be with someone you truly love.
My step-sister is my polar opposite, she made a GOAL to lose her virginity BEFORE SHE WENT INTO HIGH SCHOOL. She's 18 now, been through dozens of guys, and has serious self esteem issues.
It's not "just sex". If you think about it, it has so much to do with your sence of self respect and self worth. Holding on to it an sharing it with someone who TRULY means something to you is just so wonderful, and at the same time, empowering.
That's one of the many reasons why rape is so terrible, and I'm so very sorry to those members here who have had to experience that trauma.
My step-sister is my polar opposite, she made a GOAL to lose her virginity BEFORE SHE WENT INTO HIGH SCHOOL. She's 18 now, been through dozens of guys, and has serious self esteem issues.
It's not "just sex". If you think about it, it has so much to do with your sence of self respect and self worth. Holding on to it an sharing it with someone who TRULY means something to you is just so wonderful, and at the same time, empowering.
That's one of the many reasons why rape is so terrible, and I'm so very sorry to those members here who have had to experience that trauma.
I am so sorry for the ones who were raped. (((HUGS)))
I had oral sex with an ex boyfriend, but it was forced and he ended up abusing me physically and emotionally. And me being me with the low self esteem, I stayed with him about a month after it happened but he threatened my dad and I's relationship so I left him.
Okay anyways back on topic.
I had sex with Charla after we had been together for 6 months, and I was 16.
It was an amazing experience, and I have no regrets.
I had oral sex with an ex boyfriend, but it was forced and he ended up abusing me physically and emotionally. And me being me with the low self esteem, I stayed with him about a month after it happened but he threatened my dad and I's relationship so I left him.
Okay anyways back on topic.
I had sex with Charla after we had been together for 6 months, and I was 16.
It was an amazing experience, and I have no regrets.