I think it's probably like Labs...no matter how many Lab owners tell me how smart, great and awesome their dogs are, I'm
never, ever going to have one in my house
:rofl1: I'm gonna pee, that's so funny.
I'm meh on the matter. I used to not like kids at all, then I did some babysitting for some really lovely young boys (2 and 4 when I started) and I really enjoyed them... but not enough to make me want my own, entirely. I'm good with kids and I like them, neutral to the idea of having them.
AFA people losing their identities, I've seen it and it's weird - and one of the things that turns me off of motherhood. Then again, I've seen women who keep on keepin' on in dog sports, and even involve their kids when the kids are old enough, and I think that's baller.
Also, what's all this talk of "losing your name" when you get married, ladies?! You don't have to change your name if you don't want to. I certainly won't be if I ever tie the knot.
Anyway, I get that for some people, having a surprise child was life changing in a positive way, and that's great. You know what? Having an independent but easily motivated dog has changed me a as dog person - for the better. I'm a better trainer and a better handler for it, but that doesn't mean I go around telling people they really need to go out and get a self-interested, hard ass of a dog, because, no really, REALLY, it will make them "better." Sorry for another dog analogy, but look where we are, after all, lol.
We have to respect the choices that are right for other people. Kids, no kids, Labs, corgi, coolies, mastiffs... LOL.
I think I could be fulfilled and happy without ever having children, or hell, even getting married. At this point, I'm very content on that front, no desire to even date right now, to be honest. That might change. Who knows?