Discussion in 'The Fire Hydrant' started by ~Jessie~, Apr 6, 2012.
Just like the poll says!
Hell no. Never. Absolutely not.
Ryan feels the same
Tim and I started in the same boat as PW (above).... but recently we've both been shifting towards somewhere in the FAR, FAR future we'd like to have kids.
I said kinda sorta - DH and I are planning for a single kid but not for a few more years. Right now I have days where I can't wait and days where I'm not sure if 3 years is enough remaining "just us" time. LOL
I'm... really not sure if I do. I NEVER wanted kids growing up. I started considering the idea a few years ago went through a period of really wanting them, but I'm not sure if it's something I entirely ACTUALLY want. I ended up pregnant a couple of years ago when we wanted a baby, and miscarried... it really, really made me think!
Ian doesn't really want them either, at least not until we're in our thirties. We still have a LOT of things we want to accomplish beforehand!
So, I voted "undecided, but leaning towards yes" as I'm sure we will have at least one child in the future. There is always time for a child, but we'll never get back the "us" time if we have one before we're entirely ready and commited!
I voted Heck NO.
^^ yeah that.
I've said I didn't want kids since I was 13. I'm almost 25 now and have been begging Drs. to let me get my tubes tied for years.. they still won't do it!
Jin doesn't want kids. Ever. Never. So it wasn't a discussion topic. The opposite of having kids to appease your SO.
I like kids, but I'm pretty sure I don't want to be a mother.
So, meh. Chicken fried rice?
I am pretty sure by this point I will not have my own... I used to not want them at all.
My better half is not wanting to be a parent either...
...If we change our minds we would foster or adopt.
I'm undecided but leaning towards no.
Is it possible? Sure. I suppose if my partner really wanted kids and I felt I was at a point in my life where I had done all I wanted to do and felt selfless enough to take on children and was financially comfortable enough where I could raise them with what I feel is the best that they can have, then yea.
but I wouldn't mind not having them honestly...
in the far future
I never wanted kids growing up. Now I can't imagine my life without hannah. We have been wishy washyfor quite a while about a second child. Now we are pretty certain we aren't going to have a second child of our own and may be looking into a different option as we would like a second child but don't really want to start over with a newborn
I said undecided leaning towards yes even though I'm more undecided leaning neither way. I have never had the kid urge, but I am in love with my 2 year old nephew, he's the coolest little guy.
If I do decide to try, it'll be when I'm over 35 so it may or may not work out.
We're financially ready and have a stable home life, but I'm just not... ready for a lifestyle change for something I'm not 100% I want. The last thing I'd want is to regret having a child. There is so much that I would miss and so much I haven't experienced yet. I love traveling internationally with my husband. I know you can still do that with a child, but you can't really pub crawl in Ireland or go ziplining in Central America with a young child!
And then, there's the teenage stage where there is a good chance that your child will want nothing to do with you! Thinking about that makes me not want a child at all! LOL.
Nope. And it's surprisingly hard to find a good guy who doesn't want kids. =/ I actually had a guy VERY EARLY ON in our relationship, like not even "dating," just getting to know each other, try to start a fight with me about it. Um, WTF? That's not going to woo me, pal. X_X
I guess the older I get maybe guys will get all resigned to not having kids so it will work out? Hahaha.
My sister is 33 and she wants kids and I don't think it's going to happen. She wanted like a menagerie when she was younger (FIVE TO SEVEN KIDS)... these days I think she'll be lucky to have one. Her husband doesn't seem to think they can afford to have a kid so I guess has put the kibosh on it. I think by the time he thinks they are "ready" it will be really hard for them to get pregnant. =/
My poor mom, she wants grandkids more than anything. I told her I could get another puppy and she glared at me LOL. but I COULD get another puppy...
I answered "undecided, but leaning towards yes". I love kids (hello - education major, of course I do!) and I probably WILL have kids in the far, far future. I want to be graduated from college and have my career started... oh and I kind of have to be married, LOL. Considering that I'm not even dating anyone.. it'll be a while haha.
Now whether I choose to have them biologically or adopt, I'm not sure.
If I do have kids, I want like 4-6 of them though. LOL My sister wants a HUGE family... like 10 kids. I think my parents will have plenty of grandchildren eventually, it may just take a while for them to get them
For what it's worth I really like kids. A lot. I just don't have any desire to have ones of my own so far. I think I'll make a really amazing aunt
Not ruling out having my own but since my answer has been "not today" for the last decade, chances are it will be the same tomorrow
I said "I kind of sorta want kids". Ideally, yeah, I DO want kids. I see myself being a really good mother someday but it's not something I'm even THINKING about now (being 21 and single). I know some people who, at 18, had their whole lives planned on "I'm going to have kid #1 then, and then kid #2 two years later... etc etc" and I've just NEVER thought that way, I've never fantasized about a glamorous wedding or anything either. I've never had that desire to have a kid but just know that someday I will, if that makes sense.
I also live with my 4 year old sister and before that, was living with my now 8 year old brother. So I've been a second mother to all of my siblings already and personally, I like being able to pass them back off to the 'rents when they get on my nerves.
Honestly? I'm perfectly happy with Jackson at the moment. He fulfills my "motherly instinct" if you will and I am content with that. In 10 years, I'll be 31 and he'll HOPEFULLY still be around at 13 (Lord willing as my grandma used to say) and I can't say I necessarily want kids before that anyways so hopefully Jackson stays my baby.
But I guess I'm more of a "I'll deal with that when it comes around..." type person and don't really think or plan about it.