Personally, I find it far easier to bond with baby animals. My first rabbit is kind of an a**, not at all interested in interacting, but I adore him because I got him as a baby. Hannah is sweet, cuddly, and lurves people, but it took me a while to bond with her and I very much wanted to give her back a few times (and even emailed her previous owner about taking her back). I remember not calling her by her new name because I couldn't deal with things and didn't want to keep her - I called her Merlin so long, despite knowing she would be Hannah, that to this day we mostly call her The Mer (in the most affectionate way possible). I think that's normal for many people. Baby animals are helpless and you expect them to be a ton of work, but it can be so much harder with an adult.
It was hard when we got Watson and I had no free time or sleep, but I adored him immediately, again because he was a baby. It's not fair to expect and adult dog to tug at our heart strings so quickly.
Stick it out for a while. Spend time with just her. I think it will work out. And if it really doesn't you will have given it a good try. But relax into the idea that it will be really not settled or ideal for a bit. Honestly, I have wanted to strangle Watson sometimes when we have been in a new place. He can be so obnoxious. But I know that's not him and he will be normal in a day or week, so I let it go. Just think of your new girl like that - she is adjusting and like any dog she will be annoying at first, you just don't have that bond with her yet where you trust things will turn out ok.
Eta: Hannah still bosses Otto around like crazy, and is a huge b*tch to him, but I also see them snuggle and enjoy each other so much. Watson's best dog friend growls at him constantly and they are adorable together. It is hard at first to see your baby get bossed around, but they learn to interact in their own way, and you learn to love the sassy personality.
It was hard when we got Watson and I had no free time or sleep, but I adored him immediately, again because he was a baby. It's not fair to expect and adult dog to tug at our heart strings so quickly.
Stick it out for a while. Spend time with just her. I think it will work out. And if it really doesn't you will have given it a good try. But relax into the idea that it will be really not settled or ideal for a bit. Honestly, I have wanted to strangle Watson sometimes when we have been in a new place. He can be so obnoxious. But I know that's not him and he will be normal in a day or week, so I let it go. Just think of your new girl like that - she is adjusting and like any dog she will be annoying at first, you just don't have that bond with her yet where you trust things will turn out ok.
Eta: Hannah still bosses Otto around like crazy, and is a huge b*tch to him, but I also see them snuggle and enjoy each other so much. Watson's best dog friend growls at him constantly and they are adorable together. It is hard at first to see your baby get bossed around, but they learn to interact in their own way, and you learn to love the sassy personality.