She has to go back.
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I have the same kind of father (my house, my rules)... I don't think anyone's saying to argue with him (if he's like my dad, that makes him dig in his heels deeper and get angry). Does he know how much she means to you? Can your mom talk to him on your behalf? Will he discuss the situation in a reasonable manner? Is there an analogy that would work? Maybe compare Pepper to a shy toddler, with about the same level of understanding. Your dad wouldn't continually scare a shy little kid, would he? Maybe ask him for a little more patience...
thanks guys. It's really hard. I cried for a while then put her in the car and drove to the park and walked around with her for about a half hour, just her and me.
She's going back to Auggie's breeder, so... if the right home for her doesn't come along, she can come back to me when I find a place of my own. This is even harder because I actually know I'm not the best home for her, she would do better in a quieter house, maybe as an only dog or at least with another dog who is not so obnoxious and pushy like Auggie is. There was actually another dog I really wanted about a year back and I never could get stuff in order, and now he lives with somebody else. He LOVES the girl who owns him now and she loves him, but I am sad that I never made it work so he could come here. I feel like the same thing will happen with Pepper. But it's probably for the best because I am not her "perfect" home.
My mom wasn't there to hear what my dad said when he said she was tired of her and she has to go, so at first she was saying Pepper should stay, don't worry yet, she won't be going... Then I told her exactly what my dad said and she gets it now. There is no changing his mind on this. He is done.
She also said maybe I can still play with her and stuff. When I take her back I will have to talk to Auggie's breeder about trying to figure something out. She is REALLY bonded to me which is what we were saying had to happen a loooooong time ago (I'm talking before she ever even came to visit) but I'm not sure if working with her for an hour once or twice a week is going to work out. We will just have to see what we can figure out. I still have doubts she will ever be a good trial dog, anyway, but I at least wanted to play with her...
She's going back to Auggie's breeder, so... if the right home for her doesn't come along, she can come back to me when I find a place of my own. This is even harder because I actually know I'm not the best home for her, she would do better in a quieter house, maybe as an only dog or at least with another dog who is not so obnoxious and pushy like Auggie is. There was actually another dog I really wanted about a year back and I never could get stuff in order, and now he lives with somebody else. He LOVES the girl who owns him now and she loves him, but I am sad that I never made it work so he could come here. I feel like the same thing will happen with Pepper. But it's probably for the best because I am not her "perfect" home.
My mom wasn't there to hear what my dad said when he said she was tired of her and she has to go, so at first she was saying Pepper should stay, don't worry yet, she won't be going... Then I told her exactly what my dad said and she gets it now. There is no changing his mind on this. He is done.
She also said maybe I can still play with her and stuff. When I take her back I will have to talk to Auggie's breeder about trying to figure something out. She is REALLY bonded to me which is what we were saying had to happen a loooooong time ago (I'm talking before she ever even came to visit) but I'm not sure if working with her for an hour once or twice a week is going to work out. We will just have to see what we can figure out. I still have doubts she will ever be a good trial dog, anyway, but I at least wanted to play with her...
Is there a reason your dad feels she has to pay attention to him? Cider is 'everyones' dog. She happily lays with all family members to nap and be petted. Smudge is a momma's boy. He seeks me out if I'm in the bathroom to check on me.. Strangers approach and he often doesn't give them the time of day.. He's attached to me and doesn't care about others.. No one in my house is offended by that..
Did he try randomly tossing treats? Not even approaching her to hand them to her, but randomly tossing them in her direction while he walks by or sits on the couch.
I have a dad who does something similar. Duncan doesn't want dad to pat him all the time, he just wants to sniff Dad. But my dad always whips around and reaches for him, and Duncan takes off in surprise, and Dad FOLLOWS. Like, NO! Just let him sniff you. If Duncan wants a patting he will sit in front of you.
I'm so sorry.
I have a dad who does something similar. Duncan doesn't want dad to pat him all the time, he just wants to sniff Dad. But my dad always whips around and reaches for him, and Duncan takes off in surprise, and Dad FOLLOWS. Like, NO! Just let him sniff you. If Duncan wants a patting he will sit in front of you.
I'm so sorry.
Yeah, we tried that... he just doesn't get it. If he gets an inch from her he tries to take a mile and starts calling her and telling her "come here!" And when I tell him to stop he gets pissed off.
As to if there's a reason he thinks she has to pay attention to him, it doesn't matter if there is one or not. He flat out said he doesn't want a dog in his house that he has to ignore, so she goes.
As to if there's a reason he thinks she has to pay attention to him, it doesn't matter if there is one or not. He flat out said he doesn't want a dog in his house that he has to ignore, so she goes.
I'm so sorry Beanie 
I'm not going to tell you to try to defy him or threaten to disown him or anything like that. I know how it is. He's your father... you do love him even if he's being unreasonable (or I assume you do LOL) and it is his house, his rules and you seem to understand and respect that even if it is unfair
It sounds like maybe this might be better for Pepper. If he can't just ignore her then having him pestering her all the time is only going to make her issues worse and that's not fair to her either.
I know this must be incredibly hard for you I'm so sorry
I'm not going to tell you to try to defy him or threaten to disown him or anything like that. I know how it is. He's your father... you do love him even if he's being unreasonable (or I assume you do LOL) and it is his house, his rules and you seem to understand and respect that even if it is unfair
It sounds like maybe this might be better for Pepper. If he can't just ignore her then having him pestering her all the time is only going to make her issues worse and that's not fair to her either.
I know this must be incredibly hard for you
I'm so sorry