"l love you"
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In my current relationship, I was the one to say it first... One of the only times I've been so sure of my feelings that I could say it without knowing for sure how he felt. We'd only known each other for 3-4 months, but in that time we'd become the best of friends.
Normally I wait for them to say it or hint at it. I don't like saying anything prematurely, because I know if the tables were turned and they were showering me with "I love you, baby" after only a couple months, I'd be horrified.
Normally I wait for them to say it or hint at it. I don't like saying anything prematurely, because I know if the tables were turned and they were showering me with "I love you, baby" after only a couple months, I'd be horrified.
Max (SO) said it first to me. We had been together for about 2 months, and it was to soon for me to say it back. 'I love you' are big words in a tiny sentence and I wasn't sure what to say at first. I wasn't ready, because I knew I loved him - I just wasn't ready to admit it to myself or others (if thats understandable?). Of course not saying anything is akward and unfair so I just ended up kissing him. (We were at the airport and I was leaving for 4 weeks) While I was away it gave me time to think and realize that I did love him and I was ready to say 'I love you' when I came back. I think the first sentence I said when coming out of the gate was 'I love you too' So that was 3 months into our relationship.
BUT we were friends - good friends before hand and had know eachother for about 3 years prior.
BUT we were friends - good friends before hand and had know eachother for about 3 years prior.
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Just wanted to say...I've said "I love you" to two different people. One is the man I'm going to marry and one is someone I did not love, and whom probably knew I didn't love him. He had said it first and we both knew he didn't mean it. I was only 15 when this happened.
I was in also in love with one other person, before Zach. I never told him I loved him. I don't regret it, I never did. I knew if I did it wouldn't have changed anything.
Your questions:
Do you say it first in (new) relationships? Always wait for the other person to say it first?I've never said it first...but not on purpose. I think if I did love someone I wouldn't say it right away though, I'd want to know they felt the same.
Do you subscribe to the school of thought that suggests one should ALWAYS wait for the man to say it first? psh no.
How long do you think you should be with a person before the "L-Bomb" is dropped? How soon is too soon?Too soon is before you love them, however long that takes.
Zach said it early. Maybe three weeks into our relationship. He meant it, I know he meant it. He says he loved me about two weeks into dating me...we were friends for about a month prior though.
I didn't say it back until the next day. I did love him, and I love him when he said it to me the first time, but it seemed too early and I wanted to make sure.
I was in also in love with one other person, before Zach. I never told him I loved him. I don't regret it, I never did. I knew if I did it wouldn't have changed anything.
Your questions:
Do you say it first in (new) relationships? Always wait for the other person to say it first?I've never said it first...but not on purpose. I think if I did love someone I wouldn't say it right away though, I'd want to know they felt the same.
Do you subscribe to the school of thought that suggests one should ALWAYS wait for the man to say it first? psh no.
How long do you think you should be with a person before the "L-Bomb" is dropped? How soon is too soon?Too soon is before you love them, however long that takes.
Zach said it early. Maybe three weeks into our relationship. He meant it, I know he meant it. He says he loved me about two weeks into dating me...we were friends for about a month prior though.
I didn't say it back until the next day. I did love him, and I love him when he said it to me the first time, but it seemed too early and I wanted to make sure.
Then there's the whole 'how do you know it's really love' thing. With my first boyfriend, I thought I loved him, but looking back it was probably just the idea of being very close to someone and all the attention that I loved more than him (I hadn't had any good guy friend at the time... now it's all I have, lol).
The last time I was truely in love, I can't remember who said it first. Probably him. Now, I think I might be heading that way, but I'm not going to say it anytime soon. Almost slipped out the other night, well, I almost said "Do you think you could ever love me?" But I was quite sh*tfaced at the time, as was he... 
:rofl1: I held my tongue...well, as far as speaking "those words" went anyway.
:rofl1: I held my tongue...well, as far as speaking "those words" went anyway.
Oh, do we have a laugh about my... forwardness. and him not being receptive. and taking one "for the team" as our group of friends put it.
I didn't leave for a week.
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