I want to get rid of her.

[RedyreRottweilers]

Read the original post.

In a nutshell, my husband and I own a very badly behaved 2 year old miniature dachsund. I do not like owning an animal and would like more than anything in the world to give this dog to a better home.

This woman does not want help.

She wants rid of the dog, just as she said.

Why is it people can find this forum, but they can't google HOUSETRAINING, or PUPPY MOUTHING, or PUPPY TRAINING? Why, if they can find this forum, can they not scroll through the topics to see if they find helpful info?

Persons who write as this person did, who CLEARLY does not like this dog, and the dog is only a PROBLEM for her, don't want the info, which is why they don't search for it and come here to be spoon fed.

I stand by my last statement in that post that the dog would be better off in another home.

I take issue and get REALLY ANNOYED with people who can't be bothered to find out WHY a dog is behaving as it does, and DO something about it.

No one spoon fed me ANYTHING about dogs over the years. I made it my business to get educated and find out. I offer help when I think people really want it. You can find several of my training articles posted on this board.

 

[brock23]

I am fairly new to this forum compared to most of you, but even I can tell just by the title of a thread that it will be someone's first post.

 

[tessa_s212]

Honestly, Red, if you don't think you can help this person or want to help this person with her dog, then why post? Your an educated dog owner. Why waste your time on such a person?


Honestly, this person sounds like she is desperate. She is obviously seeking advice.. and she is definitely venting. It is not easy dealing with a "problem dog" whether or not not YOU are the one that turned that dog, inadvertanly, into that problem dog.

Instead of bashing and being rude, we should give the best advise we can and hope she will take it. Just as anger has no place in dog training, anger and bashing has NO PLACE in educating.

Again, goodluck. I do really wish the best for you and your dog.

 

[lucille]

Instead of bashing and being rude, .

Tessa,

I saw no rudeness, only an educated assessment.

I have asked questions here, I made a major change after reading some comments about dog food. I wanted the info and had done the research first, but the info I received here was very helpful.

This person posted that she did not want the dog and I think we should give her the freedom of allowing her her choices, and maybe help with finding a good home.
There is nothing wrong with not wanting a dog and it takes a certain amount of courage to say so.
From both the owner's point of view and the dog's point of view, perhaps in certain situations a rehoming might be a good thing, we should not force someone who wants to do this to keep an animal that they specifically say they do not want, that after a year and a half they have doubts about being a dog person.

 

[brock23]

Maybe a rehoming is the best thing, but it is my opinion that the thread was started to hopefully validate to the husband that the dog should be gotten rid of. Maybe I read into it wrong, but it just did not come across as a "how do I help this dog" type of question.

 

[gaddylovesdogs]

Redyre, IMO the best thing for her to do is to work with her dog. Quit being so rude. She's not some horrible owner who throws their dog out into the backyard and then wonders why it barks all day along, doesn't come when they call, and jumps all over you every time it sees you.

 

[brock23]

Read the original post.

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This woman does not want help.

She wants rid of the dog, just as she said.

Why is it people can find this forum, but they can't google HOUSETRAINING, or PUPPY MOUTHING, or PUPPY TRAINING? Why, if they can find this forum, can they not scroll through the topics to see if they find helpful info?

Persons who write as this person did, who CLEARLY does not like this dog, and the dog is only a PROBLEM for her, don't want the info, which is why they don't search for it and come here to be spoon fed.

I stand by my last statement in that post that the dog would be better off in another home.

I take issue and get REALLY ANNOYED with people who can't be bothered to find out WHY a dog is behaving as it does, and DO something about it.

No one spoon fed me ANYTHING about dogs over the years. I made it my business to get educated and find out. I offer help when I think people really want it. You can find several of my training articles posted on this board.

I see nothing rude in this post as it relates to the original post. I also stand by my belief that the thread was started hoping we would say she should definetly get rid of the dog so she could show her husband "see these people know dogs and they say we should get rid of your dog."

 

[lucille]

Brock have I mentioned how gorgeous your avatar dog is?

 

[brock23]

Brock have I mentioned how gorgeous your avatar dog is?

Thanks, but do not let that look fool you. That is the I am going to trick you at some point today stare he does. It looks harmless enough, but lookout.

 

[Melissa_W]

Let's not turn this thread into a fight... Red is entitled to her opinion.

 

[Debi]

Maybe a rehoming is the best thing, but it is my opinion that the thread was started to hopefully validate to the husband that the dog should be gotten rid of. Maybe I read into it wrong, but it just did not come across as a "how do I help this dog" type of question.

I have to agree. I'm not trying to be rude, or bash the poster...but I sure got the impression she doesn't like this dog...PERIOD. it's great to give good advice, but again I didn't feel she was asking for help. more like stating her case for why the dog has to go. (she was also quite blunt about admitting she isn't a dog person) my opinion, and I hope they do work it out.

 

[jess2416]

I have to agree. I'm not trying to be rude, or bash the poster...but I sure got the impression she doesn't like this dog...PERIOD. it's great to give good advice, but again I didn't feel she was asking for help. more like stating her case for why the dog has to go. (she was also quite blunt about admitting she isn't a dog person) my opinion, and I hope they do work it out.

I didnt get that feeling either from the first post.

 

[smkie]

honestly, if a person doesn't want the dog then they have to decide how much they love the husband and if it can be tolerated. ANd in truth, i have met some truly horrible dogs. Inbred, or whatever, one being a dauchsand. Two were labradors, so insanely bred even their eyes LOOKED crazy. So it isn't always the owners, and it isn't always the training. I had one that i brought home form the pound before his eyes opened. He shook constantly, had no attention span whatsoever, was the most insane dog i have ever known. He bit everything without evening looking to see what it was. Dogs are just as capable of being mentally ill as people. They can have as many mental ailments, too. There was no training him other then housebreaking. HE eventually worked his way to the one way junk yard where they were very happy to have him for no one could get on their lot. HE would run across the top of the cars literally and spent the rest of his time trying to chew them up.

 

[mojozen]

my thought here is, while not very relevant, why the heck was this dog even brought home if one of the people in the marriage can't stand dogs? This whole mess could have been avoided if the dog hadn't been brought home in the first place...

 

[Saje]

I agree that the dog was in the relationship first and that the OP needs to respect that and work her hubby. I would never get rid of any of my dogs and no SO in my life would ask me to. Personally, I wouldn't be with someone who would ask that of me. So if that's true of the op then we need to work on fixing the problems and your best bet is to find a good trainer and/or behaviourist.

 

[brock23]

Hello everyone! This is my first post. I found this forum on Google because I have a dog problem that I am desparate to fix. I'm seeking advice and information from all sources.

In a nutshell, my husband and I own a very badly behaved 2 year old miniature dachsund. I do not like owning an animal and would like more than anything in the world to give this dog to a better home. But my husband loves her and would be heartbroken if we found new owners for her (she was his long before we married).
I wanted to keep this short and sweet, so let me know if you need any more details about the situation.

I don't know if this is a relationship problem or a dog problem (or both), but maybe someone here can help.

Thanks!

Dog came before wife, they should of delt with this dog problem right away bfore it became a big issue.

 

[sweetbassets]

Since you have come here asking for advice shows that you may care some what for the dog and that the option of rehoming it is last on your list. Did the dog do this before you and your husband lived together? I know this question was asked before, but I think I only read that he didn't train it and the dog could get away with it, or something to that extent. I would like to know if it did these things when it was just him and the dog, and/or if it has been getting worse since you have lived together?

The reason why I am asking is because a dog can sense that you dislike it and your frustration and anger towards it, making the dog nervous, fearful, or angry at the situation it's now in. Which could cause it to do some of the things you described.Like with seperation anxiety, the dog can become nervous,fearful or angry and it does things it knows it's not suppose to do. Now this might or might not be true in your case, but just letting you know when you show dislike,frustration and anger towards the dog, no matter if it done this before or not, you are not going to get good results.

On potty training- Most hounds are very stubborn, and most are bred to be stubborn,(it is a quality that makes them untiring, and persistant in hunting and tracking). But this quality is also a downfall when it comes to training. They are not stupid or incapable of learning ,but their stubborness makes training alot more difficult and time consuming. Just like bassets, dachhounds are single minded, when you are first potty training ,when they do go outside to potty and you praise them they might think you are not praising them because of where they went, they might think you are praising them becausethey went. This single mindedness make them difficult to train also. I have read " consistent crate training is mandatory. Sometimes a doggy door is necessary. And some owners never do get their Dachshunds fully housebroken." I can't say this is true because I have never owned a dachshund, but having Bassets I know since I used patience,and consistency they are fully potty trained and can be trusted without constant supervision.

The biting is not known with Bassets, but I did look up dachshunds and it said "suspiciousness or shapness toward strangers when not socialized enough." So I'm guessing that your dog hasn't been socialized enough, if at all. I have also read: "If you have small children, they do not recommend a Dachshund. First, children cannot help being clumsy, and that a child meant well is little solace to a Dachshund puppy who has been accidentally stepped on, sat on, rolled on, squeezed, or dropped onto the patio. The Dachshund's long back is especially fragile and prone to damage when he is picked up incorrectly or dropped. Second, even Dachshund adults may feel overwhelmed by the loud voices and quick movements that children can't help making -- and stress and shyness may be the result. Finally, some Dachshunds simply do not tolerate any nonsense from children and will bite if pushed too far."

I don't think you or your husband are horrible people, but I do feel sorry for the dog since it is not it's not it's fault that it hasn't been properly trained. Now, after having the dog for some time, your husband may have to give it up because it lacks the training it had never recieved in the first place.

If you have the time, patience, are willing to be consistent, and give it the love it needs, then it would be a good to keep the dog. But if you can't or won't then it would probably be better to find it a suitable home. Please for the dog sake, if you do rehome it, take your time and pick the right home for it.

 

[Rubylove]

I think that original poster did come here seeking help. You don't spend the time looking for a forum (and how do you know she didn't do research first? You can't make assumptions like that without even asking - she may have done research and ALSO wanted to talk to people), then registering on the forum, then posting, if you don't want help. If you don't want help you just get rid of your dog, period. And then you don't ever have to ask and risk people giving you a hard time.

I told the OP in an earlier post that her original title `I want to get rid of her' would make some members angry. She agreed that it was tactless and tried to change it, but wasn't able to.

Has everyone read all the posts in this thread before giving their two cents? Or did they just read the OP and decide to jump on in?

She also clearly states that she is not a cold hearted person, and completely agrees that it is probably her lack of understanding and NOT the dog that has caused the problems. She also clearly states that her husband is rarely home, doesn't really have much to do with the dog, and has left it pretty much up to her - which is not fair considering the dog was his first, and she would never have had a dog if she had her choice. Now she is left with looking after it alone with not a clue what to do.

A little bit of understanding would not go astray here. This lady is at the end of her rope. She's not an animal person, she doesn't know what to do, she has a difficult dog, she is desperate, she comes here for help, puts her words badly and doesn't explain herself PERFECTLY and she gets, for the most part, a pretty hard time. Now I'm pretty sure she won't come back. So instead of helping and perhaps saving a dog, and helping a woman find in herself a love of dogs, she is gone and this dog may not see another day in her house. THAT makes me mad, not what she wrote out of desperation in the first place.

 

[brock23]

I think that original poster did come here seeking help. You don't spend the time looking for a forum (and how do you know she didn't do research first? You can't make assumptions like that without even asking - she may have done research and ALSO wanted to talk to people), then registering on the forum, then posting, if you don't want help. If you don't want help you just get rid of your dog, period. And then you don't ever have to ask and risk people giving you a hard time.
Has everyone read all the posts in this thread before giving their two cents? Or did they just read the OP and decide to jump on in?

Yep I sure did read all the posts so does that mean my opinion counts then?

She also clearly states that she is not a cold hearted person, and completely agrees that it is probably her lack of understanding and NOT the dog that has caused the problems. She also clearly states that her husband is rarely home, doesn't really have much to do with the dog, and has left it pretty much up to her - which is not fair considering the dog was his first, and she would never have had a dog if she had her choice. Now she is left with looking after it alone with not a clue what to do.

If you have to preface something by saying " I am not a cold hearted person" there is a good chance you are. That's like the gossipy person everyone knows that always starts their conversations by saying " now I am not one to gossip".

 

[Rubylove]

Yep I sure did read all the posts so does that mean my opinion counts then?

LOL! Sorry, I just meant that a few comments look as though people haven't read any further to see that she does step back a little and say that she's sorry she started it that way, and she does capitulate.

If you have to preface something by saying " I am not a cold hearted person" there is a good chance you are. That's like the gossipy person everyone knows that always starts their conversations by saying " now I am not one to gossip".

Normally I would agree with you - but I think she felt the need to say that because her first post was a little, um, extreme! But yeah, I see what you're saying, its like saying, `Now, I'm not racist, but...' and then telling a racist joke!