.. he wouldn't let her get a $15 haircut o.0 ... right there with you on the trashing spouses on facebook thing but WOW.. that really sucks
I can't even imagine.
and I totally understand communicating to spouses on what you are buying regardless, I think that's fair in any relationship/financial situation, of course the matter is open to discussion, totally with you there.
I am TOTALLY not saying that marrying someone means opening up your bank account to whatever the other person feels like doing...
but I think to ask for permission.. for little things/needs/something you really want that doesn't really cost that much or break budget.. sucks.
and personally, it's something I would not feel comfortable doing. IMO we are partners.. and with that comes sharing responsibility and being equals.
ESPECIALLY if the person is a stay at home parent. because that is a job within itself and it allows the other person to have the time and the home taken care of so they can go out and do the work they get paid for