dream? pregnant?
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I am seconding the 26 and ovaries yelling. I am clucking away like a hen on a nest! Grrrr! I know I am not ready but it does not change the desire! HEHE!
I am waiting to have that ring on my finger, money in the bank and stable home environment for my little one. My SO and I have both discussed and decided I will stay home, I want to have savings before I do that.
I am waiting to have that ring on my finger, money in the bank and stable home environment for my little one. My SO and I have both discussed and decided I will stay home, I want to have savings before I do that.
My ovaries can shut the hell up. 
I don't even know if I want to get hitched anytime soon either and that's one hold over from kindergarten I'd like to stick with: "First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in a baby carriage..."
I don't even know if I want to get hitched anytime soon either and that's one hold over from kindergarten I'd like to stick with: "First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in a baby carriage..."
Just finding the sperm donor
Ideally I'd like to KEEP the donor though, which is the hard part, because I am a fickle one.thank you everyone. and just to let you know no my boyfriend is older than me lol so.. please dont put me down on his age! my dad doesnt mind that much hes really old school though lol hes 63 my mom doesnt mind she married my dad lol and they are both 18 years apart my moms only.. 45 i think but after 20 years.. they are divorced.. eh
im 17 and my boyfriend just barley turned 23. yes we do want to get married but not for a couple of years HE PROPOSED TO ME 2 DAYS AGO and we do want to have children but not till we have our own place and are financially ready.. but if it does happen now ( we will find out on the 25th ) we are just going to have to work a little harder....
thank you again
my mom doesnt mind she married my dad lol and they are both 18 years apart my moms only.. 45 i think but after 20 years.. they are divorced.. eh im 17 and my boyfriend just barley turned 23. yes we do want to get married but not for a couple of years HE PROPOSED TO ME 2 DAYS AGO
and we do want to have children but not till we have our own place and are financially ready.. but if it does happen now ( we will find out on the 25th ) we are just going to have to work a little harder....thank you again
Here's my opinion on the age
NOONE'S BUSINESS.
When I was 17 my BF was 23 I was with him nearly 4 years.
BUT I grew up, I changed.... The difference in me between 17 and the time I was 23 was unbelieveable.
It works for some people though
This is the same 23 year old who wanted to share your money though right? And is in huge debt? And spends all his friends money?
NOONE'S BUSINESS.
When I was 17 my BF was 23
I was with him nearly 4 years.BUT I grew up, I changed.... The difference in me between 17 and the time I was 23 was unbelieveable.
It works for some people though
This is the same 23 year old who wanted to share your money though right? And is in huge debt? And spends all his friends money?
no no you got that wrong dizzy. we want to start saving money together. his friends borrow money and never pay him back. ( which actually changed he made his friends pay him back now )
Just don't be in a hurry to tie yourself down.
If he is the ONE - you have your entire lives to worry about those things.
Just enjoy being a young couple together.
What's the rush, where's the fire?
Wow. And what a role model YOU are. Let's keep encouraging 16 year olds to go out and get pregnant. Because a 16 year old is mature enough to make life changing decisions that will not only impact their lives, but another life as well. A 16 year old was still considered a child THEMSELF last time I checked. You even mentioned that you and your mother had to struggle. Why PLAN a baby if you are going to have to struggle to provide for yourself and the child?! A baby needs a stable environment to grow up in.
You're also basically telling her to go on welfare and get help with things for a planned baby... which if you can't afford diapers and food, you should not be planning a baby.
You wound up pregnant at 18 years of age, and you said that because your mom bought you sex toys ( :yikes: ) that made you more responsible?! Ahhh... I really don't know what I can say to this.
And the average life expectancy was also like 40... so try again.
And bringing Nancy into the situation? Way to go completely off base. Nancy's daughter will be bringing a child into a STABLE home life, and will have a lot of help from LOVING grandparents. Which isn't the situation that the OP is in. And another member's life is quite frankly something that should not be brought into a thread which has nothing to do with her.
Your post infuriated me so much that I had to reply at 1:23am. Your advice is always so classy and helpful.
You're also basically telling her to go on welfare and get help with things for a planned baby... which if you can't afford diapers and food, you should not be planning a baby.
You wound up pregnant at 18 years of age, and you said that because your mom bought you sex toys ( :yikes: ) that made you more responsible?! Ahhh... I really don't know what I can say to this.
And the average life expectancy was also like 40... so try again
. And bringing Nancy into the situation? Way to go completely off base. Nancy's daughter will be bringing a child into a STABLE home life, and will have a lot of help from LOVING grandparents. Which isn't the situation that the OP is in. And another member's life is quite frankly something that should not be brought into a thread which has nothing to do with her.
Your post infuriated me so much that I had to reply at 1:23am. Your advice is always so classy and helpful.
Very well said.
Puppylover--
It is very sad you had a friend instead of a mother growing up. As a parent you need to balance the two and things do happen but buying a young child sex toys is crossing the line.
You have horrible reasoning-none of it makes a bit of sense. All I can think is if you would have had time to mature maybe reasoning would have come into place.
Nancy did what she could and yes her daughter wound up pregnant. I bet she asks herself everyday if she should have been more lax or more controlling if things would have ended differently. But if she would have handed her daughter sex toys and oil she would have no doubt were the blame lies. She did what she knew to do and raising kids is a learning experience,she didn't fail yet
It is very sad you had a friend instead of a mother growing up. As a parent you need to balance the two and things do happen but buying a young child sex toys is crossing the line.
You have horrible reasoning-none of it makes a bit of sense. All I can think is if you would have had time to mature maybe reasoning would have come into place.
Nancy did what she could and yes her daughter wound up pregnant. I bet she asks herself everyday if she should have been more lax or more controlling if things would have ended differently. But if she would have handed her daughter sex toys and oil she would have no doubt were the blame lies. She did what she knew to do and raising kids is a learning experience,she didn't fail yet
My mom was always known as "the cool mom" letting me stay out late and stay at boys houses. But the difference was she taught me not to dress like a "sexy girl" and would never have bought me some sex toys. She never took me to bars or clubs. She was a mom first.
What facts have you made? A fact of what? You gave a opnion that a 16 year old should have hildren. that is NOT a fact. If it was then 16 year old children would be considered adults, they are not. They are considered children. If they get sick and need to miss a day at school. Their PARENTS need to call in for them. Not them, themselves.
If they get arrested , who do the polcie call. their parents. ect.
The huge difference between a 16 year old and a 40 year old having a child is massive. A 40 year old will have life experience, unlike a child, a 16 year old. We will take the averge 40 year old.
They live on their own, with our with out a SO. Pay their own bills. Have their own belongings, and probably moved out around 15-20 years before hand.
Now the averge 16 year old.
Lives at home. probably has no more then a bedroom to call their own. Pays no bills. Drives their parents car (If they have a license at that time). has a curfew. Is not allowed to stay out all not. Not allowed to make all their own decisions. ect.
A 16 year old does NOT understand the commitment and hard ships there is to being a parent. A 16 year old cares about a swet 16 party, driving a car, getting out of school and what boy that week to have a crush on.
No life does not end when becoming a parent. But it takes a 360 in what you are used to. You HAVE to change your whole life to accomadate another one.
cars are not children. You cant even put the 2 together. Cars dont need 24/7/56/365 looking after. If you put a car away ina garage or parked ona road at night it doesnt matter to that car. It wont honk for you ar 3am to change its oil of fix its seat belt.
Its like saying kids and dogs are the same. They are not, but for god sake they are alot closer then cars.
Offcourse you took your soon. that is what you have to do. as a baby need consitent care and and watching. A 16 year old will not understand that. They want to go to the next football game or dance.
I know SO MANY girls my age who had children at young ages from some at 13 (then she had her 2nd at 16) a bunch at the 15-17 age range and some from 17+ (One just had a baby boy onthe 13th of this month. She is 23 thought so alot older then a 16 year old so to say). have these girls made it? offcourse they are still alive and have their babies. Do they struggle? 110% every single one except for about 2 or 3 of them struggle VERY hard. WHy? becuase at a young age they thought a baby was what they wanted and they thought they could handle it. Well if they just waitied a few years life would have been a bit easier.
To tell a child of 16 to get pregnant is just luidacris and very ILL parenting in my opnion. What will you tell your soon if in a year he comes home with a girl and wants to have a baby with ehr? He says he understands every thing that is needed to raise a child. Then what? Throught a party for him and help him with planning this prgnancy? Yout o me need alot of growing up aswell. Act more like a rolemodel then the other. Telling children to get knocked up is just crazy and very poor teaching and parenting.
thank you everyone. and just to let you know no my boyfriend is older than me lol so.. please dont put me down on his age! my dad doesnt mind that much hes really old school though lol hes 63 my mom doesnt mind she married my dad lol and they are both 18 years apart my moms only.. 45 i think but after 20 years.. they are divorced.. eh
im 17 and my boyfriend just barley turned 23. yes we do want to get married but not for a couple of years HE PROPOSED TO ME 2 DAYS AGO and we do want to have children but not till we have our own place and are financially ready.. but if it does happen now ( we will find out on the 25th ) we are just going to have to work a little harder....
thank you again
my mom doesnt mind she married my dad lol and they are both 18 years apart my moms only.. 45 i think but after 20 years.. they are divorced.. eh im 17 and my boyfriend just barley turned 23. yes we do want to get married but not for a couple of years HE PROPOSED TO ME 2 DAYS AGO
and we do want to have children but not till we have our own place and are financially ready.. but if it does happen now ( we will find out on the 25th ) we are just going to have to work a little harder....thank you again