That's about what i was about to say. No one here is saying that you can't be a great mother at 16... we're just not advocating for anyone to try and do it. If it happens by mistake.. then you take responsibility. If I were to say that teenagers lives are ruined if they get pregnant, then I'd be saying I ruined my own life.. which I have not. I just think that puppylove's advocasy for teenage pregnancy is absolutely off the grid. I think my jaw is still gaping open at some of the stuff that was said in her posts.
Having a baby young DOES change your life. Having a baby when you are mature and ready and planning it... DOES change your life. It's just easier to cope with the drastic changes when you are mature enough to have good coping skills and make good decisions.
There is no magical age when someone is ready to have a baby. I've seen some 30 year old women having babies that I just sit there and scratch my head and wonder how they will manage.
But to have a baby when you really haven't had the chance to live and experience life is just sad. There is so much you miss out on. Puppylove, you can't tell us that when you had your child you didn't miss out on going out and socializing with your friends like you probably did in high school. Or hanging out at the mall or where ever it is teens hang out these days. You can't just take off and do whatever you want whenever you want.
actually i did have a wonderful childhood and when i did have my child i did the same things, when i went to the movies i took my son, when i went out to dinner i took my son, when went to a game or the mall i TOOK MY SON, gee i see a pattern here I TOOK MY SON EVERYWHERE I WENT!!! all of you that had kids young were just not wanting the excitement and feeling of raising a child, when i went on trips i TOOK my son! he was rarely left at a babysitter's home, the only time i had to was when i took a test at the college, H@LL i even took my son to court when i filed for divorce!
you all seem to think that life comes to a hault well, it does not, and so what if i am supporting teens who want to get preggers and have children, who are YOU to say if they are ready or NOT? who are you to say they are not mature enough to have a child? if they are ready then LET THEM BE!