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I personally would take Maverick home. I understand your dilema though. Those kids need to learn that they can't keep everything they find. And SHAME on the mother to think Mav didn't belong to some other family that had sleepless tired days searching for him. SHAME! If anything, they need to learn a lesson. After one day! sheesh, I found a few strays (cats more than anything), I've found the owners and given them back without question along with my kids (lol, I mean they gave them up without question). I never let them think for a moment that this cat was theirs, rather I explained to them that I was sure some other family was sooo devestated and searching for him. It just wouldn't be right.
As everyone has stated, it is you and your husband's call. Either way, I'm sure you both will make the right decision in your paticular situation. Good Luck! It is a hard decision.
As everyone has stated, it is you and your husband's call. Either way, I'm sure you both will make the right decision in your paticular situation. Good Luck! It is a hard decision.
Julie, I don't want to tell you what to do. It sounds like you and Hannah both want Maverick back, but your husband has the final say since he's his dog. Somehow I think dogs should belong to both of you, but that's my opinion. What ever your husband decides to do and you accept, so will we. I just hope Maverick stays with the home he should be with. A family of 10 children will be overpowering to any pup.
Not to be confusing, but after reading every else's posts, I have to agree with them. Maverick needs to come home. And Maverick being your husband's dog is just a formality. I'm sure you spend just as much time training and being with Maverick, if not more. Tell your husband you want him home. Don't give your baby to a stranger.
This is your puppy. NOT theirs. I just don't understand your way of thinking, and why the feelings of these kids matter so much! THEY WILL GET OVER IT. The longer you leave him with them, the harder it will be. And you're not doing them any favors by reinforcing this "finders, keepers" crap.
Does Maverick just not really mean much to you guys? If he was my baby I'd have brought him home that very day. When it comes to my dogs, I'm willing to bloody some faces and hurt some feelings in order to keep them with me. No way would I allow someone to keep my dog just for finding him.
I agree with Renee's suggestion to take Hannah with you if you go pick him up.
Does Maverick just not really mean much to you guys? If he was my baby I'd have brought him home that very day. When it comes to my dogs, I'm willing to bloody some faces and hurt some feelings in order to keep them with me. No way would I allow someone to keep my dog just for finding him.
I agree with Renee's suggestion to take Hannah with you if you go pick him up.
Julie - bring your baby home to Hannah. They need to go to the shelter and save a dog's life if they are really dedicated to having a pet instead of trying to keep a pet that belongs to someone else. This really burns me up, because I had a lady try to do that when I was younger. I had a cocker spaniel and my parents took me to disney world and my grandparents watched my dog for me, and she escaped b/c she was not sure where she was and was trying to get home, and this lady found her, and wasn't going to call, she was just going to keep her and then got to thinking there may be kids or someone really missing the dog. If I had been older that lady would have gotten my wrath. I sure hope my mom gave it to her, but I think she was just glad to have Sandy back since she had a crying little girl on her hands.
He is your dog, and belongs with you. You love him, as does Hannah. They should rescue a dog from the shelter.
He is your dog, and belongs with you. You love him, as does Hannah. They should rescue a dog from the shelter.
You know, the more I think about it, the less I like the idea of someone who would try to pull that kind of emotional blackmail and thereby teaching their children to be manipulative and disengenuous having control over a pup like Maverick. You have to wonder how well someone with that kind of mentality would treat a dog. They obviously don't care about anyone else's feelings, so why would they care about Maverick when he's no longer a cute pup and they have other things they want to do?
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Why don't you go get your dog.. obviously you want to or you wouldn't have been calling everywhere... Contact the lady tell her that you sympathize with their situation and offer to give her some money towards another dog at the spca for taking such good care of maverick for you?!?!? If one of my dogs went missing I would be frantic and also be picking up my dog but if were gone and housed for 3 or 4 days I would most certainly offer to compensate the people for their kindness. Tell her you wish to pick him up tomorrow so the kids can have some time with the dog to say their goodbyes.. and then Pick the dog up when the kids are at school so it's not so heart wrenching ... I think this is a decision I would be making .. and not waiting around for someone else.. as the longer the dog is there.. the harder it will be for that family. Like every dog that gets to a new home he is behaving well for them NOW but it takes about 3 weeks for a dog to actually settle into a home.. and if he is a chewer he will be a chewer there as well...eventually.. unless he's broken of that habbit... so what happens in a month if he starts this behaviour?
When the kids have settled in to have an animal there and it's not so much of a new play toy? I can't for the life of me think that I would take in a stray or lost dog and immediately think "ok it's ours" and then start buying it things etc right away.. maybe after a few months of not finding it's original owner...but my children would KNOW that this is not our dog and if we find it's owners it will return...
Why don't you go get your dog.. obviously you want to or you wouldn't have been calling everywhere... Contact the lady tell her that you sympathize with their situation and offer to give her some money towards another dog at the spca for taking such good care of maverick for you?!?!? If one of my dogs went missing I would be frantic and also be picking up my dog but if were gone and housed for 3 or 4 days I would most certainly offer to compensate the people for their kindness. Tell her you wish to pick him up tomorrow so the kids can have some time with the dog to say their goodbyes.. and then Pick the dog up when the kids are at school so it's not so heart wrenching ... I think this is a decision I would be making .. and not waiting around for someone else.. as the longer the dog is there.. the harder it will be for that family. Like every dog that gets to a new home he is behaving well for them NOW but it takes about 3 weeks for a dog to actually settle into a home.. and if he is a chewer he will be a chewer there as well...eventually.. unless he's broken of that habbit... so what happens in a month if he starts this behaviour?
When the kids have settled in to have an animal there and it's not so much of a new play toy? I can't for the life of me think that I would take in a stray or lost dog and immediately think "ok it's ours" and then start buying it things etc right away.. maybe after a few months of not finding it's original owner...but my children would KNOW that this is not our dog and if we find it's owners it will return...
Julie- I think if you want your dog back, you should get him back. It's not your fault that the kids are so attached. The mother should have made it clear to the kids from the very beginning that he wasn't their dog, and that they needed to try to find the real owners. Don't hurt yourself because of her bad parenting. Only let them keep him if you would have preferred to rehome him anyway. Don't do it just out of guilt. I hope everything works out.
Also, what kind of a mother does not teach her children that it is WRONG to keep other people's things/pets. I would NEVER let my children do that. It is immoral and wrong. You don't want your dog to live with people like that. They may discard him as easily as they came by him....
Tell them if they want him that bad, to give you $1,000. I guarantee they don't want him that bad.
Heck, even if someone offered me a million for Brady I would tell them to shove it. Go get him Julie, that baby belongs with you.
Tell them if they want him that bad, to give you $1,000. I guarantee they don't want him that bad.
Heck, even if someone offered me a million for Brady I would tell them to shove it. Go get him Julie, that baby belongs with you.
Time has elapsed since "my let them visit post." Maverick doesn't have to visit them he just needs to come home to you and Hanna. Just because you feel sorry for the kids does not mean you have to give your dog to them. They can always get another.
He was never their's to begin with. He is your's and as cute as I think Hannah is. There is an empty spot by her now. Just need to have Maverick back by her side. And I agree after a few days he could start his old habits with the kids and then what happens to him. If they are this quick to latch onto a dog, they may also be that quick to take him to a shelter. I would hate to see that happen.
He was never their's to begin with. He is your's and as cute as I think Hannah is. There is an empty spot by her now. Just need to have Maverick back by her side. And I agree after a few days he could start his old habits with the kids and then what happens to him. If they are this quick to latch onto a dog, they may also be that quick to take him to a shelter. I would hate to see that happen.
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I do not think it is Julie's responsibility to find these people a dog. Julie check out the family, you met them you know what they are like. Decide what is best for you and for Maverick. I gave you my opinion and it is not the same as most here but in the end it is for only you and your husband to decide. I will stnad by your decision either way and I will suport your decision either way.
I would bring Maverick home. If it's just that you and your husband arent happy with Maverick and dont know if you want him, then search him out a new home that you are sure he will be happy with and have a good home. Someone who can work with him on his flaws and wont put him out when he's not perfect. Doesnt matter that he's your husband's dog, he's your dog to. Do what's right for your family, not what you think is right for some stranger.
I agree with Renee about the manipulative BS. Those kids will probably be like most normal kids, and in a few weeks, Maverick will receive no attention whatsoever. This woman is cruel to try and pull this on someone when they are feeling so vulnerable. People/children fall in love with ROxy everywhere I take her. But if they offered me thousands of $, she is MY baby. END of story. Hannah and you have been through terribly rough situations lately. Please, you must put yourself first in this situation hon. I know that you like to put others first, but as I was telling Heather(yuckaduck) the other day, you can not ever let your guard down. Most people on this earth are thinking only of themselves, and sometimes, you have to do the same.
Maverick is yours. Maverick is Hannah's. Please do the right thing.
Maverick is yours. Maverick is Hannah's. Please do the right thing.
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That is true you were saying that to me. I agree Maverick belongs to Julie's husband and in the end it is a decision only they can make together. What if this family offers him a good home? It could be a great home, might not be. That is why I think if you decide to give him to them, then you should make it under the condition that if for any reason they are unable to keep him, they bring him to you. That to me sounds fair! Of course if you decide to bring him home that is fair too because he is yours. It is so easy for us looking in to tell you what to do but it is only you and your husband who have met these people and only you know what is best for you and for Maverick. That is why I said use your heart because deep within your heart you will know what is right for all concerned.
That mother is out of touch with reality. Seriously...overnight (cause she saw the poster at the vet the next day) she decided it was their dog and went out and bought stuff for it? She needs a meeting with the Cluebat. As in WHAP!! Get a clue!!! Then she has the massive brain misfiring of not sitting down with her kids and saying "Hey listen, I know you really like this dog but there is a very sad family out there who misses him, and he really belongs to them. We will go to the pound and find you a new dog, but we have to give this one back, go say your goodbyes and daddy will take you to ice cream while the family comes and picks up her dog" Even worse she let them be in the room with Maverick when he was going on. I'd call the mother, tell her I want my dog back, and after I had pried him from the fingers of the kids who will one day be devastated by the word "No", i'd tell her exactly what I thought of her...well...out of earshot of the kids though.
I recall many tv sitcoms where they faced this exact thing, the kids found a dog, fell in love (difference being the parents immediatly informed the children it was prolly lost and someone mised it) and when the real owners came the kids had to give the dog back. Granted they usually ended up with a puppy after that but still...even HOLLYWOOD knew it wasn't right to let the kids keep the dog.
I recall many tv sitcoms where they faced this exact thing, the kids found a dog, fell in love (difference being the parents immediatly informed the children it was prolly lost and someone mised it) and when the real owners came the kids had to give the dog back. Granted they usually ended up with a puppy after that but still...even HOLLYWOOD knew it wasn't right to let the kids keep the dog.
Toys and bedding are not things that make a good dog home. Just like treats and trips to Europe don't make good parents. You don't really know what kind of owner this is. From how she raises her kids it sounds like the get whatever they want. And you know that Maverick is a dog that needs discipline. He has some issues that he needs to work through like all young dogs. You've been working on them with him. They haven't. What are they going to do when those problems come back? Because they always do.