do you find being called Ma'am annoying?

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  1. Shelteez

    Shelteez New Member

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    I don't know why but every now and then when someone is trying to get my attention or after purchasing a product somewhere a man always calls me ma'am, some women do it to. I know it's being a polite, but i get annoyed. I usually just let it roll off my back and just give a slight nod and go on about my business, but sometimes it's just as annoying as someone running their fingernails across the chalkboard! :lol-sign:.
     
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    Well, I don't typically get called Ma'am but it doesn't bother me if or when I do. Or Miss for that matter.

    I figure it's more polite than HEY YOU. And if someone doesn't know my name how else are they going to get my attention?
     
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    I don't mind Miss :) maybe i am weird like that lol
     
  4. katielou

    katielou Slave to the Aussie

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    As long as someone is not shouting "hey asshole" i really don't mind what they call me :D
     
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    sparks19 I'd rather be at Disney

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    nope doesn't bother me one bit. I kind of like it actually lol. I AM a Ma'am :)
     
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    nikkiluvsu15 Wild At Heart

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    Everything is "yes/no ma'am", "yes/no sir". It is the way I was raised and it is disrespectful around her to NOT say ma'am/sir.

    When a kid says to their mom/dad "what?" instead of "ma'am/sir?" it makes me cringe, just because I was taught otherwise lol

    That being said, there have been quite a few times when I've been out west or up north and they thought I was completely disrespectful because I was using ma'am or sir. One of my aunts told me to stop saying yes ma'am to her because she was not old, but I just CAN'T DO IT. haha
     
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    I make SO much fun of Jes when she's hear and calling everyone ma'am and sir. She tells me when I say ma'am it always comes out sounding sarcastic so it's better that I don't say it :rofl1:
     
  8. I hate it when people call me ma'am, I think it comes from having been an enlisted soldier, but holy crap on a cracker does that crap ever irritate me... ESPECIALLY when I know they know my name! UGH!
     
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    I dont like ma'am but understand in certain situations why it is used...I have used it before as well in those circumstances.

    Personally, I cant STAND when children are taught to call their parents ma'am/sir. I think it a weird formal that has no place in a child to parent relationship. Then again, I also dont let children call me Ms Nicole or what have you.
     
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    Pretty much this. I really don't understand why some people get all pissed off for being called ma'am. They could say HEY YOU, BITCH, GET BACK HERE.
     
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    JessLough Love My Mutt

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    I used to work for the US government, and the kids, were ALWAYS to talk to adults in the manner of "Mr. (first name)" or "Ms/Mrs (first name)". It was out of respect, but it drove me crazy haha

    Being called Ma'am annoys me, but not as much as "my dear" or "sweetie" or "sweetheart" or "love". I get called those ALL THE TIME at work... I don't mind it so much from my regulars, but random people? Annoys me so much
     
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    YES! I hate "ma'am"! I would seriously almost rather be called "hey you!"

    I was raised to be extremely respectful to adults. I don't understand why "Yes, please" and "No, thank you" aren't sufficient, or "No, Mrs. S" and "Yes, mom, sorry mom", etc.

    I always ask kids to stop calling me "ma'am". It just makes me ridiculously uncomfortable.
     
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    I'm from Texas, what do you think? LOL

    We teach our kids yes/no ma'am/sir. And our kids call all adult friends Miss/Mr (first name).
     
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    I don't really mind it. Atleast the person has good manners, lol.
     
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    I think it's absolutely adorable when kids say sir and ma'am. If I were trying to get a strangers attention I don't know what else I'm supposed to say besides "excuse me ma'am". I don't ever hear people say yes ma'am and no ma'am though, not around here but I wouldn't care if someone did. Like I said I think it's cute when kids do it.


    The only thing I don't like is when I go to the school my mom works at to help out in after-school programs and my mom has the kids call me Ms. *last name*. Fist of all that's basically what they call my mom, except she's Mrs. so it's sort of confusing for everyone. Second, I'm not used to being called that so I probably end up ignoring kids until they say it like four times. Third, I'm not actually their teacher so there is no reason for them not to call me Erin. On the occasions where I introduce myself as Erin my mom interjects saying "but you will call her Ms. *last name*". I think it's stupid...calling me Ms. isn't going to suddenly make them have respect for me. It's like my mom didn't like me calling my friends dad Tim, I was supposed to use Mr. *last name* even though he specifically told us to call him Tim.
     
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    That's interesting, I thought that was a mid-atlantic thing (the Miss/Mr. first name)

    What do you do as an adult? I ask because my husband was raised that way, but now it's super awkward as an adult to still call someone "Miss Vicky" or "Mr. Paul". It just makes me feel like he's 12 years old again. For some reason calling people Mr./Mrs. last name doesn't do that to me--maybe because then it goes both directions (i.e. other adults at work all call me Mrs. S----- as well)
     
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    At least here, the adults always just used the first name, unless talking to their kids, then they'd use ms/mr. Like, "go ask Ms. Jessica"
     
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    If it is an adult conversation, we just use first names. But if I am talking to any of the kids, I will say "we are going to Miss Jessica's house"

    As an adult it is different using the Miss/Mr (first name) vs (last name) I think because most of the adults that our kids call Miss/Mr our good friends with us. But if I use their last name, it is because as adults we are not really on a first name friend basis. So Mr./Mrs./Miss (last name) is more formal than Mr./Miss (first name). I think the Mr./Miss distinguishes them from the same level as the kids, and puts a little more respect towards the adults. I don't know if I am explaining it well.
     
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    BWUAHAHHAAA! If I say ma'am it IS sarcastic.
     
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    This.

    Here in southern Louisiana, it's standard terminology. To me it sounds polite and courteous.
     

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