I stopped reading around page 5 so if what I said has been covered etc then sorry but I'm to lazy to read 10 pages of paragraph posts
I was spanked as a kid, only ever happened once that I remember because that's all it took to realise that my parents meant business. My brother was the same way... my sister was another story
I was sent to my room repeatedly... but in my room I had comics, legos, I could have a nap to pass the time... it was somewhere fun that I spent all my free time when I wasn't watching tv or outside anyways... so hows that a threat to be sent there.
So after that once, I learned that there were punishments that actually weren't fun in the slightest so I behaved a bit better.
Now I go to stores or public places or have seen friends of the family who had young children, they will be acting up and my favourite example was one of the parents telling her child that if he didn't start behvaing better she was going to count to 3. Of course the kid didn't act any better... so she counted to 3... and I swear it was like something out of a sitcom... 2, 2 and a half 2na d three quarters 3... and then nothing... didn't so anything.
Or of course kids being sent to there rooms... kids have fun things in there! That's not a punishment if they just play Nintendo for an hour... that's as backwards as kids being suspended for skipping classes.
So do I believe in spanking... yes I do. I'm hoping I'll never have to... as it's not anything I want to do... but if necesity calls for it then there is going to be a kid with a sore behind. I would not have my own kids act like some of these out of control monsters with no respect for anything that are all to common today.