Could you date/marry/be with someone who was...
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Unlike Renee, I want to know about my partner's past. It's a part of them. If I was casually dating I'd be less interested, but someone I'd potentially marry, I'd want to know.
That being said, it wouldn't matter. I'd like to know how past relations affected my partner, how they feel about them now, etc.
Zach has been with a hell of a lot of people. He dated a girl for two years in high school and cheated on her for probably more than half the relationship...with her friends, her friend's sisters, his friend's sisters...he can't count his sexual partners on two hands. He's kissed guys...drunk, but still. I don't know if he's bisexual. I tell people he is. Sometimes he considers himself bi and sometimes he doesn't. But what matters to me is who he is now, and who he'll be for the rest of his life with me.
That being said, it wouldn't matter. I'd like to know how past relations affected my partner, how they feel about them now, etc.
Zach has been with a hell of a lot of people. He dated a girl for two years in high school and cheated on her for probably more than half the relationship...with her friends, her friend's sisters, his friend's sisters...he can't count his sexual partners on two hands. He's kissed guys...drunk, but still. I don't know if he's bisexual. I tell people he is. Sometimes he considers himself bi and sometimes he doesn't. But what matters to me is who he is now, and who he'll be for the rest of his life with me.
I have to agree with you.
Charla told me about her past and I told her about mine. Granted I didn't have alot to tell and neither did she but still. haha
And I give Kudos to you for staying with Zach even though all of those things are in his past. Some people I know would not even give someone like Zach half a chance if they knew about his past, BUT that is great that you are.
Charla told me about her past and I told her about mine. Granted I didn't have alot to tell and neither did she but still. haha
And I give Kudos to you for staying with Zach even though all of those things are in his past. Some people I know would not even give someone like Zach half a chance if they knew about his past, BUT that is great that you are.
Doesn't matter to me, and of course I would..
Ive been with quite a few people myself, so I cant say oh I'm not going to talk to you because you've been with multiple people that's stupid
EXACTLY :rofl1:
Ive been with quite a few people myself, so I cant say oh I'm not going to talk to you because you've been with multiple people that's stupid
Not if they had them while being single.
Who am I to judge?? I hate that Q coming up because people do judge. I actually never kept tally of numbers..!!!! But hey, I've been single a long time, I am an "adult" so! It doesn't work out that many if you look at it on a yearly basis
Who am I to judge?? I hate that Q coming up because people do judge. I actually never kept tally of numbers..!!!! But hey, I've been single a long time, I am an "adult" so! It doesn't work out that many if you look at it on a yearly basis
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Anyone that I would have ever dated.. I would need to know at least certain things about their past. I don't need to know the details, who, when, etc. But I do need to know if they've been active, tested for STDs, and emotionally what is there. I can't say that I would have never dated someone that wasn't completely inexperienced, but I can say that I AM very glad to have found Dustin. There IS something special about being each others' first kisses, first hands held, first relationships.... each others' firsts, and last. And it has never been about religion for me, as I was an athiest when we met, and we obviously didn't commit to all the traditional standards that some christians hold(waiting until legal marriage),... for me, it has always been more about just a smart, responsible relationship that would head in the direction of marriage from the very beginning.
So I know for me.. as awful as it may be, there ARE things I would have always had to know before a relationship got too far or too involved, and in fact knew about Dustin long before we made the decision to finally date each other(well, as I've already pointed out, there wasn't much to know)
And to whoever commented on the commitment issue.. I'm 100% aware that anyone of any sexuality can be committed and faithful in a relationship. I did say that in the post to refute even what my own experiences have been.
And it has never been about religion for me, as I was an athiest when we met, and we obviously didn't commit to all the traditional standards that some christians hold(waiting until legal marriage),... for me, it has always been more about just a smart, responsible relationship that would head in the direction of marriage from the very beginning.So I know for me.. as awful as it may be, there ARE things I would have always had to know before a relationship got too far or too involved, and in fact knew about Dustin long before we made the decision to finally date each other(well, as I've already pointed out, there wasn't much to know
)And to whoever commented on the commitment issue.. I'm 100% aware that anyone of any sexuality can be committed and faithful in a relationship. I did say that in the post to refute even what my own experiences have been.
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We almost had a threesome, once.
My idea. Zach agreed. We found a willing girl and were going to do it. But then Zach kept saying things like "Does it mean anything besides sex with her?" and "what if you fall for her" and "what if you get jealous of me touching her?" and then I was like "honey if you don't want to i'm not going to be upset" and he was like but you want to and i was like well only if you want to and then we finally were going to do it but the girl backed out and we were both kind of relieved and happy. Maybe one day we'll do it, I don't know. I'd like to, I think I'd enjoy it. But if Zach doesn't want to, I'm not going to feel like I'm missing out on something or want to go cheat on him with some girl.
My idea. Zach agreed. We found a willing girl and were going to do it. But then Zach kept saying things like "Does it mean anything besides sex with her?" and "what if you fall for her" and "what if you get jealous of me touching her?" and then I was like "honey if you don't want to i'm not going to be upset" and he was like but you want to and i was like well only if you want to and then we finally were going to do it but the girl backed out and we were both kind of relieved and happy. Maybe one day we'll do it, I don't know. I'd like to, I think I'd enjoy it. But if Zach doesn't want to, I'm not going to feel like I'm missing out on something or want to go cheat on him with some girl.
YES. I am pansexual, so I would date/marry/whatever anyone, of any sexual orientation or sex. Because I believe love is love. Who cares what other people think. If I fall in love with a girl, then oh well. Who cares? I have the right to love who I want to love. If I fall love with a man, then I fall in love with a man. Love is love.
All my friends are either gay or bisexual lol. There is ONE other pansexual (I believe pansexuals are more attracted to the opposite sex, but would date anyone they fall in love with).
(Edit: I accidentally put No lol)
All my friends are either gay or bisexual lol. There is ONE other pansexual (I believe pansexuals are more attracted to the opposite sex, but would date anyone they fall in love with).
(Edit: I accidentally put No lol)
I would actually want to have a threesome one day, but only with someone I know is 100% committed to me and its his first....I'll like to pop his threesome cherry, because I know thats most guys fantasy and I'm a pleasing kinda person....but if its not then thats fine too. But ust how a guy is curious to finding out how a threesome is, I am too...but I'm not interested in girls, just the whole threesome experience, if that makes sense?
I would probably find it peculiar... I mean, I've never met a truly bisexual man. I have plenty of gay friends who have dated girls, but that was more of a "fag hag" situation (in fact, I have been one), or a one-time controlled-substance-induced rendezvous.
But, if I met a guy who I really loved and trusted, and he happened to be attracted to men... it's whatever. As long as I completely trusted him, his sexual orientation (straight or bisexual) is not an issue at all.
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Weell... I actually do think that numbers matter. Maybe I'm shallow, or a prude, but I get kind of freaked out about a guy who has banged 50 girls. Especially if I knew about that beforehand. Not because of STDs (which is a concern with anyone, period) but because I would question how much that person valued sex and having a meaningful relationship. I would question that because of experience with a certain some one... *le sigh*
As far as threesomes go, NEVER, ever have I heard of ANY that were anything but detrimental to a relationship. I find it very disrespectful, even if it's "just sex", and both of the people in the relationship want to. A relationship with two people is hard enough - why even add in a third? At least one person is bound to feel inadequate or jealous. I'm sure it could work with some people, very special people who are completely open and secure and probably a little bit out there.
But, if I met a guy who I really loved and trusted, and he happened to be attracted to men... it's whatever. As long as I completely trusted him, his sexual orientation (straight or bisexual) is not an issue at all.
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Weell... I actually do think that numbers matter. Maybe I'm shallow, or a prude, but I get kind of freaked out about a guy who has banged 50 girls. Especially if I knew about that beforehand. Not because of STDs (which is a concern with anyone, period) but because I would question how much that person valued sex and having a meaningful relationship. I would question that because of experience with a certain some one... *le sigh*
As far as threesomes go, NEVER, ever have I heard of ANY that were anything but detrimental to a relationship. I find it very disrespectful, even if it's "just sex", and both of the people in the relationship want to. A relationship with two people is hard enough - why even add in a third? At least one person is bound to feel inadequate or jealous. I'm sure it could work with some people, very special people who are completely open and secure and probably a little bit out there.