My view points don't stand a chance on this thread and I realize that. I realize that it's not the 50's anymore and boy, I sure wish it was. Look at how the families were back then compared to how they are now. Look at what society has come to compared to how it wasback then.
I know that now days women feel "entiltled" to their precious careers at the expense of their children. I gave up my career for my daughter and I stay home. I can say 100% that my husband is just as much of a parent as I am, but he has a different role. I am so thankful for him and all he contributes to give us what we have.
As far as the argument goes on socialization, I really don't get it. Babies and toddlers don't need socialization at such a young age. They have their whole lives in school for that. What children need early on is to know that they are important, loved and that their parents are willing to sacrifice their own selfish needs for their well being. My daughter will not spend a single moment in daycare for socialization or for any other reason for that matter. Has anyone ever heard of play groups, Mom's clubs etc.? It's not like kindergarten is all that far away. They have at least 12 years of school in their future. Why do they need to start off in an institution at 6 weeks? YES, 6 weeks is when A LOT of infants are dumped in daycare! In fact, if you watch the play patterns of many very young children, they play by themselves!
I was never put in daycare as a child. The moments I had with my mother at home as a small child are some of my most cherished. She was a loving and nurturing woman and I knew I was loved. She sacrificed her career to be with us even after 7 years of college. She taught us, did art with us and took us places. I never once wished I was dropped off with other kids. I loved being with her. When the time came for school, we were not behind intelectually or socially and we adjusted just fine.
My point of view is pointless in a thread where I am so out numbered. I just think that it's very sad how families are now days. Call me what you want. All I can do is make sure my daughter is raised in a loving home environment. I can admit that for some very desperate situations that daycare is needed, but most of the time it's for selfish reasons that kids spend time there.
With a two parent working household, there isn't time for family anymore. The parents work all day, come home tired, run their kids through the drive through after picking them up from daycare and then everyone wonders why we have obesity and "hurried woman syndrom" and divorces and kids having sex at 12 etc.
I could just keep going, but I don't see the point...
*sigh*