Birth Control, what do you use?
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They were a very conservative sect of the Puritans. Because they forbade sex, they had to recruit new members and even most of the Puritans still wanted to have sex at some point, even if it was just doing their Godly duty and procreating, so recruitment was near impossible.
They did make some nice furniture though. Try Googling, they lived on the East coast in the 1700's.
They did make some nice furniture though. Try Googling, they lived on the East coast in the 1700's.
I'm just going to bypass the discussion about who should and shouldn't have children, and for what reasons, and go straight to answering the OP!
I use the Mirena IUD. I'm on my second one and it's lovely. Hormonal birth control did NOT work for me; it increased my migraine activity and made me extremely emotional. The Mirena IUD is considered a "hormonal" IUD, but the hormones don't enter your bloodstream, rather the hormones only affects what it's actually physically in contact with.
The Mirena has been a great choice for me. My period was always very heavy and obnoxious and now I don't have them at all (not everyone with the Mirena stops their periods entirely, but it's not uncommon either). And you just never, ever have to worry about pregnancy. I think it's more effective than sterilization. Nothing to take every month...nothing to forget to take every month. Nothing to have to make a doctor's appointment to renew every 90 days, etc.
It's also extremely cost effective. I had to pay for my IUD this time around (not on awesome school medical insurance anymore and Canadian health care isn't advanced enough to cover such things. As it was, I paid 300$ for it and it's good for 5 years. I had my last one in for 4 years and only had it replaced prematurely because I knew it would be coming to the end of its effectiveness while I was overseas and didn't want to deal with the hassle of trying to find a doctor, or worrying if they even had the Mirena over here. This way I'm good for another 5 years. And, if you break it down by month...it's probably the cheapest birth control available. The only financial obstacle being that you have to have the 300$ up front.
The only other obstacle I know of is that doctors can have a pretty strict idea of who it is suitable for. Everything I've read from Mirena says that it is recommended for women who have already had one child and are in a stable, long-term relationship. I don't know if they claim you should have a child first because a) it makes insertion easier or b) they're afraid you'll use it and then never have children, thus slowing population growth (ok, I'm not going to go into my conspiracy theories...). But, either way, I don't think it matters. The doctor I saw was more than happy to provide the IUD to any woman who wanted long-term birth control and was compentant enough to know that it didn't prevent STDs.
And, for the record, I haven't had children and the insertion was no problem, so that kinda blows that theory out of the water. You take some ibuprofen and tough it out for 3 minutes and you're good for 5 years.
I use the Mirena IUD. I'm on my second one and it's lovely. Hormonal birth control did NOT work for me; it increased my migraine activity and made me extremely emotional. The Mirena IUD is considered a "hormonal" IUD, but the hormones don't enter your bloodstream, rather the hormones only affects what it's actually physically in contact with.
The Mirena has been a great choice for me. My period was always very heavy and obnoxious and now I don't have them at all (not everyone with the Mirena stops their periods entirely, but it's not uncommon either). And you just never, ever have to worry about pregnancy. I think it's more effective than sterilization. Nothing to take every month...nothing to forget to take every month. Nothing to have to make a doctor's appointment to renew every 90 days, etc.
It's also extremely cost effective. I had to pay for my IUD this time around (not on awesome school medical insurance anymore and Canadian health care isn't advanced enough to cover such things. As it was, I paid 300$ for it and it's good for 5 years. I had my last one in for 4 years and only had it replaced prematurely because I knew it would be coming to the end of its effectiveness while I was overseas and didn't want to deal with the hassle of trying to find a doctor, or worrying if they even had the Mirena over here. This way I'm good for another 5 years. And, if you break it down by month...it's probably the cheapest birth control available. The only financial obstacle being that you have to have the 300$ up front.
The only other obstacle I know of is that doctors can have a pretty strict idea of who it is suitable for. Everything I've read from Mirena says that it is recommended for women who have already had one child and are in a stable, long-term relationship. I don't know if they claim you should have a child first because a) it makes insertion easier or b) they're afraid you'll use it and then never have children, thus slowing population growth (ok, I'm not going to go into my conspiracy theories...). But, either way, I don't think it matters. The doctor I saw was more than happy to provide the IUD to any woman who wanted long-term birth control and was compentant enough to know that it didn't prevent STDs.
And, for the record, I haven't had children and the insertion was no problem, so that kinda blows that theory out of the water. You take some ibuprofen and tough it out for 3 minutes and you're good for 5 years.
Wow.
I chose not to have children because I've seen the way the health issues in our family have caused heartache in almost all our lives. I will not put that upon yet another person.
I chose not to have children because I am already 30 and not at a point in my life where it is financially possible without massive help from other people or our lovely government. I refuse to take on something that I will not be able to care for.
I chose not to have children because it is my right and choice, and not anybody else's.
I chose not to have children because I've seen the way the health issues in our family have caused heartache in almost all our lives. I will not put that upon yet another person.
I chose not to have children because I am already 30 and not at a point in my life where it is financially possible without massive help from other people or our lovely government. I refuse to take on something that I will not be able to care for.
I chose not to have children because it is my right and choice, and not anybody else's.
I think it's perfectly fine (and NOT selfish) if someone decides not to have a family. I can't imagine expecting someone to have a child just because someone else thinks that's what they're supposed to do. different choices for different people is what makes the world so interesting. and nobody surely has a child because they think they're 'great', have some big meaningful something to pass along to the next generation, or think it is the big plus for your old age. I would hope that the people that have children do so because they just really, really, really want to. I just love my children, and family is my personal priority. that's just me. no big deal, and I admire people that decide different paths in life. life sure would be boring if we all did the same thing.
I was on Ortho-Tricyclen Lo for about a year in college for irregular periods, and it did absolutely nothing for me. No change whatsoever. Of course, the campus doctor didn't believe me for months, saying that it took time for these things to take effect. After a year, I finally convinced her that it wasn't working.
Then they switched me to Mircette (sp?). It controlled my cycle much better, but I was cranky and irritable 24/7.
Right out of college, I finally saw a real doctor (nothing against campus doctors, just the one I had to deal with) and got on Sprintec (generic Ortho-Tricyclen). It worked very well for me at first, but as time went on I started having increasing issues with mood swings and cramps and that sort of thing (problems I never had before BC). It really has only been within the past year (after almost four years using Sprintec), that I realized the effect it was having; it was just that gradual.
So, as of this past week, I am off the pill and we're back to condoms.
Then they switched me to Mircette (sp?). It controlled my cycle much better, but I was cranky and irritable 24/7.
Right out of college, I finally saw a real doctor (nothing against campus doctors, just the one I had to deal with) and got on Sprintec (generic Ortho-Tricyclen). It worked very well for me at first, but as time went on I started having increasing issues with mood swings and cramps and that sort of thing (problems I never had before BC). It really has only been within the past year (after almost four years using Sprintec), that I realized the effect it was having; it was just that gradual.
So, as of this past week, I am off the pill and we're back to condoms.
Zoom... So many things I want to say, but i'll leave it at this. Having a child is the most selfLESS experience i've ever had.
Gustav...
From the bottom of my stupid heart I am sorry.
Which leads to this... My lack of ability to communicate in writing rears its head again and I am sorry all. I should have said "selfish" instead of "I". There are lots of reasons why good people do not or cannot have children. I want to close with just one thought.... I am not sure anybody can ever really be "ready" for the experience, I surely wasn't. But now that she is here, I wouldn't change it if I could. We worried we could not afford it, but we cut and saved and we manage... We were worried the place were were living was not adequate... But we managed to find a nice home to get started... If you choose to not have kid, for whatever reason, cool. But if you want kids, don't let your worries get in the way.
Its kind of a lesson to myself as well.
Sorry if I offended anybody and sorry to the OP for the first degree hijack.
Gustav...
From the bottom of my stupid heart I am sorry. Which leads to this... My lack of ability to communicate in writing rears its head again and I am sorry all. I should have said "selfish" instead of "I". There are lots of reasons why good people do not or cannot have children. I want to close with just one thought.... I am not sure anybody can ever really be "ready" for the experience, I surely wasn't. But now that she is here, I wouldn't change it if I could. We worried we could not afford it, but we cut and saved and we manage... We were worried the place were were living was not adequate... But we managed to find a nice home to get started... If you choose to not have kid, for whatever reason, cool. But if you want kids, don't let your worries get in the way.
Its kind of a lesson to myself as well.
Sorry if I offended anybody and sorry to the OP for the first degree hijack.
while it's AGAIN off topic.......regarding children. I wish there were a handbook for it all. why? cause many young people dive into it.......never realizing having children is a LIFELONG adventure. sure...you THINK it ends when your child hits 18. ha! think again. it is FOREVER. and you *think* about that bundle of joy.........til that little babe is crying (sometimes it seems like 24/7) anything in life that seems like 'work'.....don't do it. whether it be children...........or building a home......whatever. it isn't fair to you or the child.
and yes, Puck......many find that when that little bundle arrives...they do whatever is necessary...and it is AMAZING. however....many don't. it can be draining, physically and financially. it can be....what you make it. YOU managed, some wouldn't. so...for them...let's still let that wonderful option remain open. don't have those babies...and ENJOY your life.
not letting your worries get in your way.............well...now...just maybe you should. it doesn't always pan out like your life. it takes sooooooooo much to raise a child. so anyone thinking about it should understand that. soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much. Puck, you don't EVEN know yet...you are a babe in the woods of child rearing. a good babe, but a babe still.
IF you have babies.......please know that it is your utmost responsibility to educate them, and that is bigga bucks, people. but it IS what you choose when you choose to bring that life in this world. so....plan BIG.
and yes, Puck......many find that when that little bundle arrives...they do whatever is necessary...and it is AMAZING. however....many don't. it can be draining, physically and financially. it can be....what you make it. YOU managed, some wouldn't. so...for them...let's still let that wonderful option remain open. don't have those babies...and ENJOY your life.
not letting your worries get in your way.............well...now...just maybe you should. it doesn't always pan out like your life. it takes sooooooooo much to raise a child. so anyone thinking about it should understand that. soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much. Puck, you don't EVEN know yet...you are a babe in the woods of child rearing. a good babe, but a babe still.
IF you have babies.......please know that it is your utmost responsibility to educate them, and that is bigga bucks, people. but it IS what you choose when you choose to bring that life in this world. so....plan BIG.
What I got from Puck's posts (not exactly what he said, but the feeling that I got) was that he has experienced a joy unlike any he knew existed with Hannah, and it's hard for him to imagine anyone purposefully missing out on that.
One poster said he/she would like to have 'more' out of life than raising a child, changing diapers, etc. We parents, except in our self-pitying moments when we might agree with you, like to think you'll get different experiences than us, but not 'more' or better.
I do understand having children is not for everyone. There's probably 1 or 2 women out there who are glad, at 35, that their doctors did not agree to tie their tubes at 25. I'm not sure if they should refuse, but I just bet there's a number of women who have changed their minds.
Do doctors also refuse to give young men a vasectomy?
One poster said he/she would like to have 'more' out of life than raising a child, changing diapers, etc. We parents, except in our self-pitying moments when we might agree with you, like to think you'll get different experiences than us, but not 'more' or better.
I do understand having children is not for everyone. There's probably 1 or 2 women out there who are glad, at 35, that their doctors did not agree to tie their tubes at 25. I'm not sure if they should refuse, but I just bet there's a number of women who have changed their minds.
Do doctors also refuse to give young men a vasectomy?
for what it's worth......I also got from Puck's post that he treasures Hannah..DUH. and that he'd love for everyone to feel that joy....not missing out on 'that'. and it's glorious. beautiful. loving at it's best. still.........it isn't for everyone. not at all. if you knew that it was a true, forever committment........then maybe you'd have second..or third..thoughts. again........regarding birth control....I have NO clue what's grand on the market at this very moment. just DO what you need to do to prevent it, if that is your desire. and be VERY careful if a child isn't your ultimate wish in life.
how many here rushed in to having a baby?? oh..I'd say a few. sure...it SEEMED wonderful. then there was this little being demanding your time, forever, and you couldn't be the free person you dreamed about. COME ON...MANY posts have had such a theme. we celebrate the child, only to hear about the pending split up later on. why? because they didn't think it thru.
how many here rushed in to having a baby?? oh..I'd say a few. sure...it SEEMED wonderful. then there was this little being demanding your time, forever, and you couldn't be the free person you dreamed about. COME ON...MANY posts have had such a theme. we celebrate the child, only to hear about the pending split up later on. why? because they didn't think it thru.
Condoms for the most part here.
To add to other discussion. There are other ways to aid in the 'molding' of the future society other than procrating the little people themselves. But then I have always looked at the "it takes a village to raise a child' view. Many people who have influence over my child are not me or Mark.
To me I find it interesting that individuals are responsible for making up new members of society.. yet society is often not allowed to have much say in the raising of its newest members. I don't see the US as one 'society' I see it as a cluster of self interest groups often masquerading as small societies.
To add to other discussion. There are other ways to aid in the 'molding' of the future society other than procrating the little people themselves. But then I have always looked at the "it takes a village to raise a child' view. Many people who have influence over my child are not me or Mark.
To me I find it interesting that individuals are responsible for making up new members of society.. yet society is often not allowed to have much say in the raising of its newest members. I don't see the US as one 'society' I see it as a cluster of self interest groups often masquerading as small societies.
