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Paige

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A bisexual?


I've heard so many different opinions on this. Some people are not comfortable with it, others are totally open to the idea and others are open with conditions.

Personally I don't care what you've done with whoever in your past. Be it boy, girl, gender not specified or a robot. It's not of my business. It was before our time. So long as if we are in an exclusive relationship you don't cheat on me with either gender I'm cool with it. Hell, we can even talk about hot boys together.

I've dated bisexual men before. Twas good times. I'd never say anything bad about either gent.

You?
 
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Hmmm.... I don't see why not. If I fall in love... and that relationship lasts and I feel it is the right time to be married... I don't think I could care what the person's sexual orientation was before me.

If I am with someone and I marry someone I trust him. I either do or I don't... and then a relationship and marriage would never feel right for me.
 
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My thoughts exactly. The very idea though that they're attracted to people of the same gender freaks a lot of people out.

/shrugs
 
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If you're in a committed relationship, it shouldn't matter. If your partner needs to cheat on you, wether it be with a man or woman, you've got other problems.
 
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I've done it before and I'd do it again without blinking an eye. You love who you love. Period.
 
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Marriage meant that to Tom and me . We were one and never strayed .
 
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It freaks me out, but if Travis told me he was bisexual I certianly wouldn't.. no longer love him? However, I think I personally would be turned off if a potential boyfriend told me beforehand. Not for religious reasons either, it just.. is weird to me I guess?
 
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Meh, I don't care. It's none of my concern (aside from health and safety risks) what's happened in my partner's life prior to me. As long as there is love, trust, and their health and safety are justifiable to me.... I'm fine with however whomever choses to identify themselves as.
 
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It turns me off... I'm pretty conservative, so that has something to do with it...
Of course, I don't like to think about the fact that my man was with anyone before me... Mabye I'm just a little possesive :p
 
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I don't think one needs a label, beyond monogamous or committed...really I mean...WHY? Isn't your preference defined by who you are with in your serious commited relationship, presuming you have one? Isn't that what preference means? I prefer to be with YOU instead of them? whoever and whatever YOU are?

Or could you change your mind at any moment? My husband and I certainly don't live that way day to day...does anyone here that is in a relationship they consider committed?

What does commitment MEAN if not "forsaking all others"? Honest question there...not "for now" or "until I get that itch" or "until someone better comes along" right? Am I totally off base here as an old married lady?

So if my husband were bisexual and had been with men in the past...what exactly does that have to do with him being married to me...committed to a "hetero" relationship for the duration of his lifetime, right now?
 
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HoundedByHounds said:
I don't think one needs a label, beyond monogamous or committed...really I mean...WHY? Isn't your preference defined by who you are with in your serious commited relationship, presuming you have one? Isn't that what preference means? I prefer to be with YOU instead of them? whoever and whatever YOU are?

Or could you change your mind at any moment? My husband and I certainly don't live that way day to day...does anyone here that is in a relationship they consider committed?

What does commitment MEAN if not "forsaking all others"? Honest question there...not "for now" or "until I get that itch" or "until someone better comes along" right? Am I totally off base here as an old married lady?

So if my husband were bisexual and had been with men in the past...what exactly does that have to do with him being married to me...committed to a "hetero" relationship for the duration of his lifetime, right now?
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I believe that marriage is between one man and one women
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I don't think the OP means there will be any cheating. So it would still be a marriage between one man and one woman.
 
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