What's an unpopular opinion that you keep secret bc you want to avoid confrontation?

[Dakotah]

or then you have thongs and padded bras for very young girls. I mean, the padded bras, I have heard that for some girls its helpful if they have well, really swollen nipples first before the breast fills in..that makes sense. But I seriously doubt the majority of girls getting them have that issue.

This, plus what Fran said.

I didn't buy my first thong until I was 17 (and I will be 21 on the 22nd), and I only wear them if I am going out somewhere cause they are more comfy to wear with jeans/dresses than what I call "butt cheek panties". I don't wear full form panties. I hate them. I wear boy shorts, butt cheek panties, and thongs.

And padded bras for kids? WTF?! LET THEM BE CHILDREN!!!
I don't even wear padded bras, though I am a full C so there is no need to, but come on, they are children.

Sorry if there is to much TMI in this post.

 

[Lilavati]

Stop putting high heels on your little kids.

First communions, birthday parties, dress up, formal parties once in a while if you feel you MUST..fine.

but there is no reason your 6 year old should be walking around in high heels at the park, school or everyday anywhere else!
You know what high heels are for? To make the female form more appealing. They make your legs look longer, you look taller, your butt look better, etc..
and most importantly, they are BAD for your feet.

This. If your child wants to destroy her arches, her tendons, and her knees when she grows up, fine. But please refrain from doing so before she's done growing.

 

[sparks19]

or then you have thongs and padded bras for very young girls. I mean, the padded bras, I have heard that for some girls its helpful if they have well, really swollen nipples first before the breast fills in..that makes sense. But I seriously doubt the majority of girls getting them have that issue.

Oy vey. we went into Justice (I think that's the name of it) at the mall one time and good grief some of the things they have for little girls. then the price they charge for these half articles of clothing

 

[Jules]

... On the same note: short shorts annoy me. You want to wear shorts? Fine. But do they have to be so short that I can see the bottom of your buttcheeks? And I have seen those on all ages. But it's really disturbing on the 6-16 year olds (give or take).

 

[Kimbers]

Not necessarily all unpopular, but a list of strong opinions:

There is no excuse for a parent to hold a double standard with their kids, especially when it comes to how their children act. I don't care if "he's been through a lot" or "she has mild autism". They can still learn some manners. Especially if you figured out how to do it with your other kid.

Unless your opinion will save a life or stop a living creature from getting hurt, it sometimes truly is best to just button your trap. The random lady walking her dog with a choke chain probably isn't going to listen to an equally random stranger who barges in to her peaceful stroll lecturing her on how awful of a person she is.

At the same time, if you ask for someone's opinion, be prepared to hear something you may not want to hear. Sure, the person telling you what they think should be polite, but you should actually allow them to share what they think if you ask them to.

Liking things that are generally associated with darkness doesn't make you cool and mysterious; generally speaking, it either means you're antisocial, looking for attention, or you just like those things and ignore their dark connotation. (Exp: people who love snakes and talk about them in a way that makes them seem scary and dark vs. people who like snakes because they think they're an interesting life form.)

People with big vocabularies may be able to encrust their sentences with jewels, but it doesn't make what they say any more valid than what someone else has to say.

Getting a high-energy dog so that you'll "be forced to exercise more" is a pretty stupid idea.

Being excited about the fact that you're pregnant when you can't even treat your current children properly is insane.

Political parties distract us all from the big picture.

Females, especially grown women, who act like ignorant toddlers aren't cute in any way, shape, or form. Actually, they're terrifying; here are these adults who could, if they wanted, influence the world, yet they act as if they have the maturity of a five-year-old.

If you're having emotional problems, either talk about it or try to put on a happy face for a little while. Doing the "I'm really sad/mad/whatever but I don't want to talk" thing just puts even more people in pain and is a pretty immature way to handle the situation.

 

[sillysally]

Oh, here's another one.

When someone who does a physical labor job for a living comments that I just "sit behind a desk all day."

Well, desk jobs are mentally hard which is just as draining as physical labor.

BOTH sets of jobs/careers are important- and neither one is "easy."

I tease DH about this all the time. We work at the same company and I build equipment and he is a CNC programmer. I'm on my feet all day and in the summer have no AC, and the majority of his work is done at a desk in a climate controlled office.

At the end of a long day I tell him how tired I am because I do "real work"-lol. I do know that he works very hard and is good at what he does though. The only time it turns semi-serious is in July when he whines about how the AC in the office isn't keeping up so it's 80 degrees in there when I have been working in nearly 100 degree temperatures all day...

 

[Saeleofu]

If you're having emotional problems, either talk about it or try to put on a happy face for a little while. Doing the "I'm really sad/mad/whatever but I don't want to talk" thing just puts even more people in pain and is a pretty immature way to handle the situation.

:hail: :hail: :hail: :hail: :hail:

Personal life should no affect work life. I don't care if you're mad at your husband. Suck it up and do your job. Don't stand there and pout, and then bitch because "other people are lazy" when you have done absolutely NOTHING all day, besides sit and pout and take out your anger on your coworkers.

 

[Miakoda]

If you're a mom (or even over a certain age), quit wearing the teeny short shorts and low-cut tops. I don't care if your shorts are made of a black silky material and you dress them up with high heels, you still look like your services are available for sale. Cover up.

Being labeled a "MILF" is not a complement nor nothing of which to be proud.

 

[Fran101]

If you're a mom (or even over a certain age), quit wearing the teeny short shorts and low-cut tops. I don't care if your shorts are made of a black silky material and you dress them up with high heels, you still look like your services are available for sale. Cover up.

Being labeled a "MILF" is not a complement nor nothing of which to be proud.

Agreed.

I mean, don't pull out the mom jeans and sweats. There is no reason you can't take PRIDE in your appearance, by all means, dress in BEAUTIFUL classic things that make you feel BEAUTIFUL

The key here being BEAUTIFUL.
not things that make you feel like a sex toy.

Little black dress done RIGHT

WRONG!!!

The dress should be short/tight enough to show that you are woman
but long and loose enough to show that you are a lady!

This goes for most people, but mothers especially. because yea, some of those "wrong" styles do work for younger people out on the town.. but they don't have the responsibility of being mother of children who look up to them and expect them to set an example as to the young ladies they will become

 

[Dekka]

Here is my unpopular opinion

I think people should wear what makes them happy. None of those women in the 'wrong' black dress offend me in the slightest. And in some cases I think they look prettier/nicer than those in the 'right' dresses.

There is nothing wrong with looking sexy if that is what you are going for. THe idea can look 'cheap' and that you can make value judgments about them due it bothers me. Its such a step backwards for women owning their sexuality and choosing for themselves.

(I know some people who dress provocatively but who don't sleep around and some of the most promiscuous people I know dress conservatively.. not that there is anything wrong with either)

 

[MandyPug]

Something that seems to be unpopular around my area... Underwear with skirts/dresses.

Wear it. FULL UNDIES or tights or spandex tiny shorts or something to cover that because no matter how hard you try there will be moments where your hoochie coochie is going to say hello. No one wants to see that.

 

[ravennr]

Here is my unpopular opinion

I think people should wear what makes them happy. None of those women in the 'wrong' black dress offend me in the slightest. And in some cases I think they look prettier/nicer than those in the 'right' dresses.

There is nothing wrong with looking sexy if that is what you are going for. THe idea can look 'cheap' and that you can make value judgments about them due it bothers me. Its such a step backwards for women owning their sexuality and choosing for themselves.

(I know some people who dress provocatively but who don't sleep around and some of the most promiscuous people I know dress conservatively.. not that there is anything wrong with either)

ah, i agree with this. i too know a lot of people who dress what some would call unladylike, and as it turns out none of them are the promiscuous people i know. in my group of acquaintances and friends, the saying "geek on the streets, freak in the sheets" seriously rings true if i'm to believe the stories they're telling me, LOL

semi-related, i find it perfectly okay to do nude modeling (and further) for money. i'm also okay with prostitution (as long as nobody is being forced) and would really prefer it to be legalized. i have done the former as a business, not the latter. i got quite a bit of flak for it too, but honestly, i enjoyed it. i got much more support than hate, though. that's always nice.

surprisingly, i'm fairly tame in my wardrobe despite my choices for money for a good year and a half of my life. i enjoy a modernized pin-up look, and a vintage one if you can afford it (and if you can then just know i am jealous of you). i am as confident as i am because of advice from a famous fetish model, who happens to be a woman i look up to a lot for various reasons.

 

[sillysally]

... On the same note: short shorts annoy me. You want to wear shorts? Fine. But do they have to be so short that I can see the bottom of your buttcheeks?

A coworker and I were discussing this yesterday. We came to the conclusion that if you have to get a bikini wax to wear the shorts they are too short!

 

[Taqroy]

Here is my unpopular opinion

I think people should wear what makes them happy. None of those women in the 'wrong' black dress offend me in the slightest. And in some cases I think they look prettier/nicer than those in the 'right' dresses.

There is nothing wrong with looking sexy if that is what you are going for. THe idea can look 'cheap' and that you can make value judgments about them due it bothers me. Its such a step backwards for women owning their sexuality and choosing for themselves.

(I know some people who dress provocatively but who don't sleep around and some of the most promiscuous people I know dress conservatively.. not that there is anything wrong with either)

:hail::hail::hail: Well said.

 

[skittledoo]

Oh, here's another one.

When someone who does a physical labor job for a living comments that I just "sit behind a desk all day."

Well, desk jobs are mentally hard which is just as draining as physical labor.

BOTH sets of jobs/careers are important- and neither one is "easy."

My husband says this stuff all the time and it drives me batty. He's an electrician/carpenter/all around handyman.

 

[HayleyMarie]

Something that seems to be unpopular around my area... Underwear with skirts/dresses.

Wear it. FULL UNDIES or tights or spandex tiny shorts or something to cover that because no matter how hard you try there will be moments where your hoochie coochie is going to say hello. No one wants to see that.

Ha ha especially where you live, its pretty windy there!

 

[Fran101]

Oh and for the record, I don' think dressing provocatively=sleeping around. There really is no connection other than the stigma that there is a connection.

I just can't help but think..is this the kind of example you are setting for your kid? Would you want HER to dress that way?

Then again.. this doesn't just go for parents.
I really have no idea why people walk around wearing so little. Leave something to the imagination for heaven sakes.

and to those "looking for mates" especially.. wouldn't you hope to find somebody who is attracted to something other than the amount of flesh you have showing?
Your pretty face? personality? humor? intelligence?

By all means work the curves, wear things that make your body look it's best.. but to me that doesn't mean wearing as little as possible in an attempt to somehow I dunno, attract people by your nakedness. lol I dunno, I don't really get it.

Then again, as you said, it's a thing of personal taste and what you want to project to people who see you. (and like it or not, the first thing people are going to see about you is what you are wearing)
and I would rather not the first thing people think when they see me is "BOOBS" or "BUTT" or "SEX" because I am practically naked.

I dunno.. I just hope to be the kind of young lady I would want my daughter to be. or want my son to bring home.
I don't ever want to be out and about, and feel like if I ran into somebody from my family/somebody of importance, that I would be embarrassed to be dressed that way.

Again.. short/tight enough to show that you are a woman, long/loose enough to show that you are a lady

 

[Doberluv]

Oh and for the record, I don' think dressing provocatively=sleeping around. There really is no connection other than the stigma that there is a connection.

I just can't help but think..is this the kind of example you are setting for your kid? Would you want HER to dress that way?

Then again.. this doesn't just go for parents.
I really have no idea why people walk around wearing so little. Leave something to the imagination for heaven sakes.

and to those "looking for mates" especially.. wouldn't you hope to find somebody who is attracted to something other than the amount of flesh you have showing?
Your pretty face? personality? humor? intelligence?

By all means work the curves, wear things that make your body look it's best.. but to me that doesn't mean wearing as little as possible in an attempt to somehow I dunno, attract people by your nakedness. lol I dunno, I don't really get it.

Then again, as you said, it's a thing of personal taste and what you want to project to people who see you. (and like it or not, the first thing people are going to see about you is what you are wearing)
and I would rather not the first thing people think when they see me is "BOOBS" or "BUTT" or "SEX" because I am practically naked.

I dunno.. I just hope to be the kind of young lady I would want my daughter to be. or want my son to bring home.
I don't ever want to be out and about, and feel like if I ran into somebody from my family/somebody of importance, that I would be embarrassed to be dressed that way.

Again.. short/tight enough to show that you are a woman, long/loose enough to show that you are a lady

:hail:

 

[Greenmagick]

show that you are a lady

I think this is the crux of it...what defines "lady"

And I am not picking on you Fran, or your post...I think I have a good idea of what you mean but the word "lady" or ladylike can have some IMO negative connotations too.

Why is a certain length ladylike and another not? Are jeans not for a lady? Burping, cussing? Should a lady be quiet and demure?

 

[~Jessie~]

Oh and for the record, I don' think dressing provocatively=sleeping around. There really is no connection other than the stigma that there is a connection.

I just can't help but think..is this the kind of example you are setting for your kid? Would you want HER to dress that way?

Then again.. this doesn't just go for parents.
I really have no idea why people walk around wearing so little. Leave something to the imagination for heaven sakes.

and to those "looking for mates" especially.. wouldn't you hope to find somebody who is attracted to something other than the amount of flesh you have showing?
Your pretty face? personality? humor? intelligence?

By all means work the curves, wear things that make your body look it's best.. but to me that doesn't mean wearing as little as possible in an attempt to somehow I dunno, attract people by your nakedness. lol I dunno, I don't really get it.

Then again, as you said, it's a thing of personal taste and what you want to project to people who see you. (and like it or not, the first thing people are going to see about you is what you are wearing)
and I would rather not the first thing people think when they see me is "BOOBS" or "BUTT" or "SEX" because I am practically naked.

I dunno.. I just hope to be the kind of young lady I would want my daughter to be. or want my son to bring home.
I don't ever want to be out and about, and feel like if I ran into somebody from my family/somebody of importance, that I would be embarrassed to be dressed that way.

Again.. short/tight enough to show that you are a woman, long/loose enough to show that you are a lady

This!