What to do in this situation?

[pups-R-cute]

When I got my Shihtzu/Lhasa pup last week and called up the owner to thank him he said if you ever want to sell him to tell him first, I told the owner if he ever misses him and wants him back he can have him, he was thrilled and said definitely, as soon as he's paid off his loans and regained the amount I paid for the dog.

Now I realise that being asthmatic I am definitely feeling allergic to him, just recovered from a bad attack last month, before I got him, but arent this breed low allergen??? anyways so I called up the owner again and said since you eventually plan to take him back maybe you should in a few days rather than months when we've gotten attached, he said he couldnt pay me the full amount immediately but could give back a large portion of it, and return the rest later.

I agreed but others around me didnt accept saying he might be a fraud who scams people this way. but still I felt his pain of seperation, since then however the dog has grown on us too much we too are not keen to part, but still its his dog to begin with and he sold it to make ends meet, and I do have the allergy issue.

So I call him again, we discuss it, neither of us are sure how badly we want this, I told him to let me know if he can manage to pay back the full amount and he said he'll let me know soon.

Today I called up and told him if its ok I'd like to keep the dog, he asked if I was sure I said yes, he was ok with it, but something made me feel he's not, so I called him again immediately to no reply, then I sent him a dozen messages again no reply to any, I even told him that I'm keen on getting another short hair breed that I have been eyeing since long but couldnt really decide on, and if he could help me get it since its in his home city rather than pay me in cash, so then he responded asking how much that guy wanted I told him the price was a tad more than what I paid for his dog, gave some other details, after which he suddenly replied through text that he didnt want the dog back as he's going abroad and that he wont answer my calls or messages again and not to call on his number anymore as someone else will be using it now.

I do recall in one of our conversations he had said he would feel bad for me if he took back the dog, so maybe he's making excuses and acting this way so I will dislike him and not keep in touch, ad not have to return the dog, basically using reverse psychology, he didnt reply to my dozens of messages after I told him I would like to keep his dog, maybe he was really hurt and disappointed with my decision but at the same time dosent want to cause hurt to me by taking him away since I told him we adore the dog.

I feel really bad for him now.

 

[lizzybeth727]

Usually when you purchase or adopt a dog, if you have to give the dog back you won't get your money back, or at least not all of it. Unless you had some agreement that he would give you a full refund if you returned the dog within X amount of time.

Shih tzus and lhasas are not necessarily low-allergen. Poodles are not even necessarily low-allergen. It all depends on what exactly you're allergic to. Personally, I'm not allergic to dogs but shih tzus do irritate my sinuses, I think it's the cottony fur.

 

[smkie]

Bathe the dog regularly, that should make a big difference. I ened up with an accute allergy after many years of working in a kennel. I can't be around dogs that are not clean, but by keeping mine that way we are all good. I use my own shampoo and creme rinse.

 

[Miakoda]

Am I the only confused person?

So:

You bought a puppy.
Then you called to tell the byb "Thank You" and also told him that if he missed the puppy he could have him back.
Now you are telling the breeder that he needs to take the pup back "sooner rather than later" and pay you for the dog (buy back?).

Why did you even buy the dog in the first place?

I don't think I've ever obtained a pup and then turned right around and told the breeder "sure, you can have the pup back whenever you want!". Ummm, no.

 

[MyHorseMyRules]

I got the impression that this was not a breeder, just a previous owner.

 

[dachshunds4me]

But you would rather have a different dog, and asked the prev. owner to buy said different dog, and then trade you the different dog for this one you have?
I'm confused too.

 

[mom2dogs]

Umm, and how did you know you wouldn't be allergic to the other dog?

Why the need for a dozen messages?? Esp if he isn't even returning them. That should have been your answer. If he doesn't have the money to buy back the puppy, what made you think he would be able to buy the other dog, who is more expensive?

My brain has just burst, just thinking about the situation, not even touching on how wrong the bargaining is.

 

[pups-R-cute]

Such things are not undoable for me, ridiculous as they may sound to those with shrewd, herd mentality, besides the owner was willing to pay back more than half the amount and I would have been happy with it if a third party wasnt involved who had participated in purchase and shipping of pup, and the owner (not breeder) wanted the pup back himself initially of his own accord, he just didnt know how to ask me, it was like God send for him that I said so myself.

I think he's trying not to hurt me, just text messaged me saying he can keep the dog with him through winter because of my asthma and then I can take it back, but I have decided just to keep him now, if he really wants him back that bad he can feel free to ask me and return my full money.

 

[ACooper]

Toss me in the 'confused' group too. "shrewd, herd mentality" ?? I must ask, is English your second language? Maybe something is not quite right in the translation?? IDK

You bought a dog, or were you just loaning money like a pawn shop until the owner could pay you back and reclaim the dog?

 

[Doberluv]

What to do? First, I'd forget about the guy you got the pup from. Obviously, it's a no go. Second, you can either re-home the pup (to a good home) and cut your monetary losses. Or third...you can bathe the pup often and see about taking medication to help with your allergy....if it's enough. Next time you get a dog or any pet, I recommend that you do more thorough research into the the antigen-anti-body reaction you're likely to have with any particular dog, including spending some time with said dog before committing. In other words, it would be best to take steps toward a remedy yourself as expediently as possible, nevermind the guy you bought the dog from, and move on. Good luck.

 

[Maura]

How often do you comb the dog out. It might not be the dog but the allergens collecting in the fur. We had a standard poodle and I was surprised at how well his hair held on to dirt and grime and dust. Once he was combed out, he was fine (I was fine).

Also, allergies can be indicative of parasites in your system. Do a body cleanse.

 

[pups-R-cute]

I used to have a German Shepherd over twenty years ago it never made me sick, infact my asthma kind of vanished after his arrival, the next attack occured five years later, which seemed like a lifetime growing up, due to a distressing personal matter, I had no idea I would be allergic to a dog, cats yes I have noticed I fall sick around them, I have been around other dogs owned by friends and relatives and never have gotten allergic reactions, so I had no idea this would happen and there no intention to return him or pawn him, nor did I have any clue the owner would miss him and want him back.

Bathing seems to be the only solution, maybe twice a week.

Yes English my second language, thats why lost in translation, but still to me being told that I cannot return a pet back to its former owner who loved him and is missing him and had to sell him due to some financial situation, is shrewd, herd mentality.

 

[MandyPug]

From the pictures you have posted the dog seems to be kept in full coat... Shave him down so his hair doesn't collect as much junk in it (long, non shedding coats collect so much dust dirt and debris in them) and then see how he is for your allergies. I wouldn't bathe him full out more than once a week, but you can wipe him down with sensitive skin unscented baby wipes daily.

 

[Laurelin]

I don't think shrewd herd mentality means what you think it means...

Anyways, I agree. clip the dog down and bathe him often and see if that helps.

 

[ACooper]

Yes English my second language, thats why lost in translation, but still to me being told that I cannot return a pet back to its former owner who loved him and is missing him and had to sell him due to some financial situation, is shrewd, herd mentality.

Ok, that makes a bit more sense about the language barrier and perhaps why we aren't fully understanding what you are trying to say to us about buying/selling back the dog.

"shrewd, herd mentality" is sort of a rude statement, and I think the words you might've been looking for was "pack mentality" or perhaps not the words you wanted AT ALL.

Nobody was saying you COULDN'T sell/give back the dog, they were CONFUSED on why you wanted to before you even got to know, or gave the dog a chance. You went to all the trouble to buy the dog, have it shipped to you, and then you tell they owner he could have it back if he wanted to pay you for it? Either something is lost in the translation, or that makes NO SENSE to us.

And yes, if allergies are the issue you are having with the dog, and you want to keep him and try, I'd follow the advice about washing/cutting down the hair and see if that works.