The Venting Thread

[PlottMom]

No matter how they go it hurts so bad. After Byron died I finally understood how people said they would not get another dog so they would avoid that pain.

We are the ones here mourning. She's not in pain anymore. All those good years are worth the pain we go through in these times( though it may not feel like it now!) and while there will not be another one to fill that exact hole they fill a different spot.

I had three grow old and die right around the same time. It was a terrible time but I would not have given up time with them.

I am thinking of you. It is so tough. There are still days I think of Byron and cry. Hell there are days I think of Ginger and tear up and she has been gone years. I can say they are happy tears at least now and not the full body sobs they were at one point.

I'm longing for the days it doesn't hurt so. ****. much. It was such an impossible call to make. And the only thing that helps is that I know it was the right call, and you're right - we're the only ones suffering But I too had the moment where I was like "I wonder if I should give up dogs... this is just too much to bear..." Luckily, I don't think I could ever love another dog like I loved Dais.

 

[GipsyQueen]

I'm longing for the days it doesn't hurt so. ****. much. It was such an impossible call to make. And the only thing that helps is that I know it was the right call, and you're right - we're the only ones suffering But I too had the moment where I was like "I wonder if I should give up dogs... this is just too much to bear..." Luckily, I don't think I could ever love another dog like I loved Dais.

(((HUGS))) I'm so sorry about Daisy.

It's going to hurt for a while.. but it get's better. Gipsy has been gone for over 2 years and I still tear up sometimes, but now I can look back and instead of thinking about her as gone, I can look back onto her life and all the joy she brought me.
So while even though it brings so much pain and sadness when they go, we have to look back and think about all the joy and love they give us during our lives.

 

[Lyzelle]

I'm longing for the days it doesn't hurt so. ****. much. It was such an impossible call to make. And the only thing that helps is that I know it was the right call, and you're right - we're the only ones suffering But I too had the moment where I was like "I wonder if I should give up dogs... this is just too much to bear..." Luckily, I don't think I could ever love another dog like I loved Dais.

<3

I am so sorry. I know words can't express it and no amount of tears makes it more bearable. I will chime in and say I am still in the moment of, "I never want to do this again". But I hope one day I will find the joy and happiness of not only living vicariously through others, but maybe in one of my own. One day. A long time from now.

As strange as it sounds, the hurt helps heal. I am not sure how to describe it, but there comes days where the pain takes the breath out of you and the sobs turn into laughter about all the silly things they did.

So many hugs, so much love, and endless good thoughts for you. I am so sorry about Daisy.

This year sucks for us dog people.

 

[Ozfozz]

I'm longing for the days it doesn't hurt so. ****. much. It was such an impossible call to make. And the only thing that helps is that I know it was the right call, and you're right - we're the only ones suffering But I too had the moment where I was like "I wonder if I should give up dogs... this is just too much to bear..." Luckily, I don't think I could ever love another dog like I loved Dais.

(((Hugs))) I'm so sorry that you are going through all of this right now

 

[Dogdragoness]

I'm longing for the days it doesn't hurt so. ****. much. It was such an impossible call to make. And the only thing that helps is that I know it was the right call, and you're right - we're the only ones suffering But I too had the moment where I was like "I wonder if I should give up dogs... this is just too much to bear..." Luckily, I don't think I could ever love another dog like I loved Dais.

I felt the same way about Izze, like the saying goes "the hurt doesnt go away, you just make room for it." It's been almost 3 years, and I can just now talk about it without crying.

 

[teacuptiger]

I'm longing for the days it doesn't hurt so. ****. much. It was such an impossible call to make. And the only thing that helps is that I know it was the right call, and you're right - we're the only ones suffering But I too had the moment where I was like "I wonder if I should give up dogs... this is just too much to bear..." Luckily, I don't think I could ever love another dog like I loved Dais.

I am so sorry for your loss. It is not easy, and the pain takes a long time to recede. I lost my last dog in a pretty horrible way, so I understand exactly how the "I don't want to do this anymore" feels. Even 6 years later, thinking about her takes me right back to that time. But she's not in pain anymore, and for that I am happy. Even though I had to lose her for that to happen, her being at peace is worth my pain. *hugs tight*

 

[Dogdragoness]

I am so sorry for your loss. It is not easy, and the pain takes a long time to recede. I lost my last dog in a pretty horrible way, so I understand exactly how the "I don't want to do this anymore" feels. Even 6 years later, thinking about her takes me right back to that time. But she's not in pain anymore, and for that I am happy. Even though I had to lose her for that to happen, her being at peace is worth my pain. *hugs tight*

Same here, Izze died at the hands of someone and we couldnt prove it due to lack of evidence, even though we know he did it. It killed me and I think every day that if I had only left that place earlier she might still be here.

 

[teacuptiger]

Every move I make, every step I take, I am failing everyone I care about.

 

[CrystalGSD]

My anxiety and depression have reached an all time high. I can't handle living with my family anymore, I wish I was older and could just move out. I can't live like this anymore.

 

[teacuptiger]

I wonder what people would do if I said to them, "as cool as it would be if the world revolved around me, it doesn't. I am not the only person who lives here"

WHY is everyone so pissy at me today? Seriously! Every little thing is not my fault! What the heck are people going to do when I move far, far away? It's not like they can blame me then.

 

[Grab]

I have had bronchitis for four weeks. When it didn't improve after the first two weeks, I went to the doctor. Usually prescription cough meds will dim the coughing enough that I don't keep irritating my bronchial system and I improve. When I was still coughing two weeks later I went back. Pneumonia. Steroid shot and strong antibiotics. Steroid shot again the next day. It's not several days in and I still have a cough. Slightly less rattly, but still gross.

I'm leaving for conference tomorrow, which will be fun. But I was hoping my cough would be on the way out. Irksome.

ETA that I was supposed to go back for a third steroid shot, but I was slightly better that third day and I'd like to not pay $45 a day in urgent care copays.

 

[Southpaw]

So frustrated. We ended up having to cut out a section of my carpet because we could not not not get the urine smell out. I've used almost 2 bottles of Natures Miracle over the past week just one this ONE small section. Cat urine suuuuuucks. I really really hope this will not be an issue anymore once the crystals dissolve..

 

[PerformanceDog]

So frustrated. We ended up having to cut out a section of my carpet because we could not not not get the urine smell out. I've used almost 2 bottles of Natures Miracle over the past week just one this ONE small section. Cat urine suuuuuucks. I really really hope this will not be an issue anymore once the crystals dissolve..

That stinks.. :rofl1: too soon?

I have never experienced this, but the way you have been describing it makes it sound awful! Hopefully this will be the solution that works!

 

[Southpaw]

That stinks.. :rofl1: too soon?

I have never experienced this, but the way you have been describing it makes it sound awful! Hopefully this will be the solution that works!

It doesn't stink anymore I can tell you that!

He's 14 and has never peed outside the box before so this is new territory for me! Makes me never want a cat ever again. I thought I had it pretty well cleaned and it wasn't smelling, but apparently as time went on that was not the case... the foam and concrete underneath were stinky as well so there was just no way I was ever going to get that cleaned So ridiculous. I always thought it seemed silly when people would say they jad to replace their flooring because of their pets. I get it now. I so get it.

 

[amberdyan]

It doesn't stink anymore I can tell you that!

He's 14 and has never peed outside the box before so this is new territory for me! Makes me never want a cat ever again. I thought I had it pretty well cleaned and it wasn't smelling, but apparently as time went on that was not the case... the foam and concrete underneath were stinky as well so there was just no way I was ever going to get that cleaned So ridiculous. I always thought it seemed silly when people would say they jad to replace their flooring because of their pets. I get it now. I so get it.

My best friend's cat peed a few time when they moved out of state. It was the WORST. SO SO hard to get rid of.

 

[meepitsmeagan]

I am just so fed up with school right now. I'm still well over $30,000 away from my diploma and am just not feeling it when we are living paycheck to paycheck. I'm so tempted to head to a temp agency at the beginning of the summer to see if I can get in at a bigger company as a lab tech or something. Many places will reimburse classes that are applicable to the job, I'd be making more and working more hours. I'd have to drop down to 1 class/semester, but I honestly think it would be worth it.

I'm just feeling really burnt out on life atm.

 

[Dogdragoness]

Yuck the weather is going to SUCK for tomorrow as in rain, freezing **** ... etc, this is the only time not having a fenced yard sucks!

 

[sparks19]

Just found out my best friend from high school has Ovarian and colon cancer She just had her ovaries, uterus and a portion of her bowel removed yesterday and now she's waiting to hear the prognosis.

She's two years YOUNGER than I am! UGH just not fair and I'm 500 miles away.

 

[RD]

Just found out my best friend from high school has Ovarian and colon cancer She just had her ovaries, uterus and a portion of her bowel removed yesterday and now she's waiting to hear the prognosis.

She's two years YOUNGER than I am! UGH just not fair and I'm 500 miles away.

All my good thoughts for her. And for you too. It's hard to be so far away from someone going through that struggle.

My own vent: Literally every one of my friends here got a hefty tax return because they're claiming a child. I am childfree with an adult dependent and I really got screwed over on my return since I'm not allowed to claim head of household (due to being under 25 and not having a qualifying "child") so while all of my friends are living it up with their "I had a kid and get EIC" money, I have literally five dollars that I've been stretching over the past week and I still have a week to go. I'm wearing really thin. I gave up cigarettes for the past week or two and I know that's partially why I'm a little mood swingy. But seriously...

**** this government system that punishes the working poor, takes our money and gives it exclusively to people who didn't use proper contraceptives and are reproducing when they can't afford to. I've been a taxpayer since I've been employed in the U.S., yet I can claim none of the benefits that I pay for with my tax dollars. It's frustrating. Maybe it's just a lesson I need to learn about living within my means, as there are things in my life that I pay for and take for granted like internet or my phone. Maybe I need to unload the freeloader that I'm in love with, and shoulder another crushing emotional blow. I'm just not ready for any of it.

 

[xpaeanx]

I am just so fed up with school right now. I'm still well over $30,000 away from my diploma and am just not feeling it when we are living paycheck to paycheck. I'm so tempted to head to a temp agency at the beginning of the summer to see if I can get in at a bigger company as a lab tech or something. Many places will reimburse classes that are applicable to the job, I'd be making more and working more hours. I'd have to drop down to 1 class/semester, but I honestly think it would be worth it.

I'm just feeling really burnt out on life atm.

Ugh. That really sucks. I can tell you if I didn't have the support of my SO and my old man I'm honestly not sure how I would have gotten through school. The times I tried to on my own just did not work out well for me.

Would going down to 1/class a semester be better for you stress/emotional wise? Obviously everyone likes an increase in $, but the biggest factor I think would be your stress levels. My first go-round didn't end well Bc I loaded too much on myself.