I love the picture idea.. and told him about it but now he is just being a brat and digging his heels in. It's like he feels like he has something to prove. Ugh I even told him I would do the SAME for my family that this really isn't about me thinking that his family won't take it well..
but he is being adamant about not telling his family or showing them.
I am honestly starting to think that more-so than he doesn't get my point.. he doesn't WANT this to be an issue.
He sent me this text
"I don't want you to think that it matters and I don't want you to think that I think it matters. They shouldn't have to get used to anything or prepare for anything, you are a girl I like coming over to meet them. That's it. I'm not telling them anything so there. I'm going to prove to you that it doesn't matter and that you don't need a damned warning label and people aren't cruel. They will love you because I do. That's it. "
First time he says I love you and it's in a stupid rant about this frikin problem that shouldn't be a problem!
ugh I'm ignoring it.
but he is being adamant about not telling his family or showing them.
I am honestly starting to think that more-so than he doesn't get my point.. he doesn't WANT this to be an issue.
He sent me this text
"I don't want you to think that it matters and I don't want you to think that I think it matters. They shouldn't have to get used to anything or prepare for anything, you are a girl I like coming over to meet them. That's it. I'm not telling them anything so there. I'm going to prove to you that it doesn't matter and that you don't need a damned warning label and people aren't cruel. They will love you because I do. That's it. "
First time he says I love you and it's in a stupid rant about this frikin problem that shouldn't be a problem!
ugh I'm ignoring it.
I wouldn't take it as a confrontational "do as I say So there" thing. It sounded like he was trying to be cute and funny.
Really I think the Live and Respect series would be a hreat help here. He wants to FIX the issue. Not fix it like prepare his family but fix uour difficulties. Fix it in the way of showing you that this doesn't have to be an issue, show you that he isn't just some guy and that his family isn't just some guys family.
Don't make it into a power struggle. Power struggles don't end well... Ever. Don't be dramatic just be honest. Ask him.... Ok, they will love me because you do... Loving is different from shock. They van love me and still be shocked and say unintentional hirtful thigs. If they are shocked and it hurts me... How will you feel? How will you handle it?
We don't really have a racism issue here but my dad and my siblings are always making "stupid american" jokes that always hurt brian. They think it's funny. We don't. It is a hard thing to deal with and it is hard for me to stand up to them. Thankfully, Brian doesn't blame me for my weakness or put it on me to fIX it. He knows my struggle. He knows i am not trying to be disrespectful or comfrontational or that I don't care. He knows that it is hard for me.