Discussion in 'The Fire Hydrant' started by *blackrose, Sep 3, 2012.
Aikon's in the midst of some hard core teething. He's hyper, sore, cranky, and bitey *sigh*
Aesop has a weird spot on his leg. It looks exactly like a spot he had when he was one, that the vet was sure was ringworm, and which we treated as such, but the fungal culture came back negative. Because I am paranoid about skin things,I'm treating it like it is, just in case.
I'll note that I discovered this while drying him in the yard. So I had a spazzy 'spooooores! I'm blowing spooooores!' moment, lol.
Went to export 200 photos from light room, and lightroom is like LOL NOPE, FILE IS OFFLINE OR MISSING.
**** you, lightroom. **** you.
My neighbors are grilling. Not only do I have to smell their food, but they have their grill set up on the only flat bit of concrete in the parking lot, which is the slab the dumpster sits on, the dumpster where I dump my poop scoop. I would literally have to pretty much swing the poopscoop OVER their grill to empty it. I'm not so gross as to swing POOP over someone's food, but WHERE THE HECK AM I SUPPOSED TO PUT THE POOP?!?!?!?
Creepy as hell ice cream truck is back.
I have the worst hangover today ever and I barely drank anything! >_< Also, my period decided it should start today, after being two weeks late. It's also coming back with a vengeance! I have horrible immobilizing cramps. I hate you body! >_< Worst part is my mood has been intolerable, my poor BF. opcorn: I don't usually get moody for periods, but this one is making me feel like killing someone, anyone *sigh*
Is he staring at you? :yikes: creepy!
I've decided to talk to my boyfriend tonight about 'us'. I get sick just thinking about it. I thought he noticed that things weren't going well but he seemed surprised when I said we needed to talk. I hope this doesn't surprise him.
I just don't want to be attached to this guy forever. I'm 20. I want to live a little.
Maybe absence would help because he's here all the **** time. He has no friends and doesn't have a desire to have any.
So many emotions and none of them 'good'. It's going to be a long night.
He is... He drives really slow around the neighborhood and stares into windows. The truck doesn't even have plates from this province.
Hang in there Stick to your guns about what you want/need/deserve, and don't let him sweet talk you into something you don't want.
When things are uncomfortable, I always remind myself that this is the worst it is ever going to feel, and that every day it will be a little bit easier. If I can get through today, I can get through the rest of it.
I feel it would almost be easier if I hated him. But as it is, nothing's really 'wrong'. I'm just not happy. I don't feel like this is the person I want to be with for the rest of my life. But we live together and that won't change. It would easier to just break up and move to different places but... that's not really an option. Which seriously hinders the "We are broken up" mind-set....
Just gonna try to be nice but firm and hope he doesn't freak out.
Gosh Airn, I'm sorry you are going thru that, it's makes it worse when nothing is really "wrong" in the relationship. Then the other person feels blindsided , a hard situation all around
Eep, how long are you tied to living together? I'd try to fix that situation any way possible, because you're right--as long as you're living in the same place it is going to be very difficult to truly be broken up.
We just signed a year lease.... And he moved from Wisconsin to be with me here, in Arkansas. So I feel twice as bad. He has no where else to go. And neither of us can afford rent on our own.... Thankfully it's a two bedroom so we might be able to work something out. And if I have to, I can stay at my dad's place. But he'd still be tied to this apartment.
I'm not seeing many options....
Leases can be broken. Generally you pay whatever fee is stipulated (unless they find a new renter), but it's an option. Check the rental documents you signed. When my husband and I had to break our lease, we found a new renter on craigslist and presented them to the leasing office to take over our lease. We discounted the rent to them by $200/month for the remainder of the lease to make it worth it for them, and all parties were happy.
You could also find a roommate to pay half the rent, and have one of you move out. Then the remaining party has the same rent obligation as before.
Or, you could see if you can downsize to a 1 bedroom place without paying any fees to management, if one of you could swing the cost on your own. The other party could be released from the lease.
Just brainstorming, if this is what you want to do.
Breaking the lease, I believe is only $300. I could perhaps have a roomate, he could not. He really knows no one and is not someone who would be comfortable with living with a stranger.
Our apartment won't let us handle over the lease to someone else. They're strict about that.
As much as it might suck to live together, I would still like to try it.... Because all the other options just seem impossible. I really like this place. And, even though I don't think I'm in love with him anymore, he's still my friend. I don't want to just say "See ya" and throw him out. His family would not help him. Going back to Wisconsin, if it's even possible, would be a dead end. We have spent the last year and half working so hard to be independent and build our live's together....
I almost feel like I'm not sad enough about it. I am sad, don't get me wrong. But I'm not devastated. It's a bit of a relief. If this can be a clean break.
We might be able to swing a three bedroom apartment and get a roommate. But we have only been in this place for a month... I'm not sure they'd be too keen on us already changing plans. And moving sucks.
Thanks for the help, though, guys. I've never had to deal with this and it's pretty far over my head.
You can do it. And there's nothing wrong with not being devastated. <3
Still I know it sucks, knowing you are hurting someone's feelings. That's how my last relationship ended ... Just like yours. I had her dating the guy for a few months & it was clear that the feelings/what the relationship was& whereit was going were much stronger/different on his end.
The I met my current man & it all clicked ... As soon ask met him I knew he was the person I was supposed to spend my life with. I had to end my former relationship because I didn't think it was fair deluting the man into thinking we had a future.
Stupid road construction. I have to find a new route to and from work this week because the freeway I take is down to one lane in both directions. That is not cool during rush hour. Thankfully it looks like it is just a one week project....
So that means I should leave early for work which means I have to wake up earlier, since I normally allow myself JUST enough time to get ready. Blaaarrrgghhh.
I just saw Spamalot, and it was hilarious. BUT...the family sittng next to me (like, 12 seats away, since the balcony was empty) felt the need to send one person out about every 10 minutes for the entirety of the first act. Which meant they had to pass by me. I had Logan with me, so that meant I had to make him get up every time someone left or came back in (since I didn't get tickers until just before the show because they're half price then, they were out of accessible seats, so I told them to just stick me on the end of a row, but that meant Logan was blocking the path). THIS IS A MUSICAL. SIT DOWN AND SHUT UP!
Fortunately, the ushers offered me a new seat after intermission, so he didn't have to get up at all until the end of the show The entire right section of that row was empty, so there was NOBODY to get up and be annoying