Something my cousin posted on FB about Halloween

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  1. Baxter'smybaby

    Baxter'smybaby swimming upstream

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    I am well aware that adults can have the same issue--I'm living it from the parent end, pretty up close and personal. Halloween with kids with different abilities/needs was the OP--that's what I was responding to. I spend more time than you can ever know surrounded by people of all ages and all needs. I have worked with kids and adults, both professionally, personally, and as a volunteer. I get it Yoko.
     
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    sparks19 I'd rather be at Disney

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    Maybe I missed it but where did anyone say they were rude to adults other than maybe those who freaked out or decided to take it upon themselves to parent someone elses kids?
     
  3. darkchild16

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    Im married to someone with the issues and raising someone with the issues so I get it too. I try to end a conversation on a traditional ending but honestly between my husband, my AS child, my NT child and my infant sometimes I forget and I would hope others would understand.
     
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    They weren't rude as get into your face rude. But the general 'get over it they're kids' and 'if you hate when people aren't polite just don't do it.'

    I personally like seeing most of the kids in my town and the costumes since most are home made. I'm pretty sure people on here would be offended if I said don't take your kids because certain parts of trick or treating upsets them the same goes for the person on the other side.
     
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    but most of us (im pretty sure all but ya know) said WE make a point in saying thank you if our child doesnt. Basically all we are saying is dont get bent out of shape if they adult says it and not the child.
     
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    You said it much better than I ever could...

    It makes me very sad to see such a lack of tolerance in the human race. At the end of the day, we all bleed red. I like to believe lot of it is a lack of knowledge, because I hate to think that some people are just that stubborn and narrow minded :(

    I am not going to pretend to know how it is to parent, because I am not yet a parent. But I can imagine how one would feel. This is not my first time, of course, but just this past summer I had a child on the spectrum in my summer program. While I was fully aware of some of his sensory sensitivities, its impossible to control what happens out in public. And the looks alone (I won't even touch on what was said to me) when he reacted, and it didnt matter that they were mild and easily managed, were enough to cut you down to the quick :( And he was very aware of what people were saying, what was going on, too. THAT makes me mad


    I agree with this so much - children learn from what they see, what is modeled to them. To stay on topic with the thread - what frustrates me about halloween, is never ever the children, usually its the adults - the ones that I know. Who sadly fall into that category of stubborn and narrow minded. And consequently, rude.

    Breeze, I bet I'd love your kids :D Hey, actually I hope I get to mee them someday! :eek:
     
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    Well if you ever want to come see GA you can always come here. I love having people here that I dont have to worry how Morgan is going to react around them.
     
  8. SevenSins

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    There is no perfect solution. One thing you might try, though, is when someone starts to walk away without saying anything, attempt to force a response by saying, "Have a good night!" or "Have a happy Halloween!" That puts YOU in control of the interaction, because it will typically elicit a response such as, "Thanks, you too!" That means the interaction is over, and it's safe to close the door. Employ a 5-second rule; If the person still doesn't respond, count out 5 seconds in your head, and close the door. All of those things are completely socially reasonable/appropriate.
     

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