The protocol I found was not one I'm following to the letter. I believed it called for no leashed walks, just yard play - well, I don't have a yard. And no training, just fun stuff. I'm doing training with her anyway, albeit in very short doses, because it's not stressful in the least for her, she's eager to do it, and it's helping us bond. No complicated shaping or anything like that, just impulse control type stuff, crate games, etc. So I think even doing a modified shutdown helps.
I know what you mean about the puppy wondering though. I try not to think about it too much but this probably would've been an easier transition with a pup. Astro is away from her and he's still stressed out, I can tell. He's very subtle about it but it's there.
And I was talking with someone I know from a training program around here about how tough it is to want to be 100% committed to a new dog, but you can't if you have another animal first necessarily. Whenever I check on Astro's mouth I know that if she does it again, as much as I'm growing to like her and love working with her, I won't let her stay. Even sending back a foster feels terrible but the existing animals take priority and it is just so so hard to see where the line is.
Hank is still so new and so wound up, there's so much that can be done with him that I'm not saying to give up...I just know how guilty I've been feeling in a similar situation and wanted to ease that for you if you've got a little too. This stuff is hard. I do think on a gut level that it will work out for you guys, you have wanted a dog like this a long time and you have the inherent love for that type of personality.
I would try the shutdown and go from there. Give everybody a chance to breathe and reboot. You can work on Mia's screaming then too without worry.
I know what you mean about the puppy wondering though. I try not to think about it too much but this probably would've been an easier transition with a pup. Astro is away from her and he's still stressed out, I can tell. He's very subtle about it but it's there.
And I was talking with someone I know from a training program around here about how tough it is to want to be 100% committed to a new dog, but you can't if you have another animal first necessarily. Whenever I check on Astro's mouth I know that if she does it again, as much as I'm growing to like her and love working with her, I won't let her stay. Even sending back a foster feels terrible but the existing animals take priority and it is just so so hard to see where the line is.
Hank is still so new and so wound up, there's so much that can be done with him that I'm not saying to give up...I just know how guilty I've been feeling in a similar situation and wanted to ease that for you if you've got a little too. This stuff is hard. I do think on a gut level that it will work out for you guys, you have wanted a dog like this a long time and you have the inherent love for that type of personality.
I would try the shutdown and go from there. Give everybody a chance to breathe and reboot. You can work on Mia's screaming then too without worry.