Lost even more hours

[tessa_s212]

I recently learned that all my Saturday receptionist hours were gone. They only are having one receptionist now instead of two due to costs and what not. I understand, no hard feelings. So now all I have left is my kennel and cleaning hours. I'm safe around the cleaners and the cat litter, and my sister comes to actually handle/change the litter and help lift anything heavy for me. And that will be how it is done until I have to tell the boss about my pregnancy, and once I do, likely lose even those hours. So eventually I will have zero income.

I calculated it all out, and after gas back and forth to school, I'll have only about $10 left from every paycheck to go towards other things I need. My parents are trying, but financially they really can't help. They've had to file for bankruptcy and my dad can't afford groceries. My brother buys them for the family. And one thing is taht I never want them to feel as if that burden is on them. That was the first thing I told my mother, was that I did not intend to let this become a burden on her. Right now I'm still waiting to hear back about my Medicaid application.

However,.. to look on a more positive side of things, I'm getting sick less often, feeling hopeful about more money from college now with government aid, and feeling less worrisome all the time. This is just a minor set back. I've started looking for a second job and just trying to be hopeful.

 

[bubbatd]

What can I say Tessa .....Getting pregnant was your choice . You and your SO have to work things out . I did heavy lifting etc with 3 pregnancies . You can't count on your parents or " US " to bail you out . If you want this baby , then work like hell for it !! Otherwise , find a loving family to help you out . ((( Hugs ))) gal ! Sorry I'm blunt .

 

[tessa_s212]

What can I say Tessa .....Getting pregnant was your choice . You and your SO have to work things out . I did heavy lifting etc with 3 pregnancies . You can't count on your parents or " US " to bail you out . If you want this baby , then work like hell for it !! Otherwise , find a loving family to help you out . ((( Hugs ))) gal ! Sorry I'm blunt .

I specifically stated that I did not expect help from my parents, because they can't afford it and this is my 'mistake'. So I don't know where you got that idea. The reason I even included my family's situation in the post was because although I never asked for it(and my mother knew I had considered adoption) because THEIR persistence to help me. From day one I did not plan on using their insurance because I knew it would hurt them financially, nor have I ever asked for money. But my mom.. well, she wants to help, but she can't. Only with support. And that is absolutely fine with me. The first day I had told her, I'd already shown her paperwork and told her of how I was seeking help and that it wouldn't be a burden on her. That's been the vibe since day one.

That was the first thing I told my mother, was that I did not intend to let this become a burden on her.

I also specifically stated that I was looking for another job, and actively getting help. I don't know where you got that I was being lazy or not working like hell for it already.

Right now I'm still waiting to hear back about my Medicaid application...This is just a minor set back. I've started looking for a second job and just trying to be hopeful.

Nor was I counting on Chaz to bail me out. I don't even know how that could happen. Perhaps I was looking for a 'friend' to rant to, to update, or to look for ideas, encouragement, or anything other than belittlement.

grammy, I just plead that you more carefully read posts before making such blanket statements that can hurt others.

 

[bubbatd]

I am still in your corner .... Bless you and the little one .

 

[wcladymacbeth]

I'm glad you're still trying to be hopeful. Hang in there. People in worse situations have had babies, and things worked out (for better or worse). At least you have a job right now and you can look for another one. Things might look grim for you right now, but stay strong, work hard, and trust in God and things will work out.

 

[tessa_s212]

I'm glad you're still trying to be hopeful. Hang in there. People in worse situations have had babies, and things worked out (for better or worse). At least you have a job right now and you can look for another one. Things might look grim for you right now, but stay strong, work hard, and trust in God and things will work out.

Thanks, I will.

 

[zoe08]

Sorry that you are losing hours at work. I hope you will be able to find another job soon.

Know that I am thinking about you and praying that things look up for you soon.

 

[Dizzy]

You should have told them you were pregnant.

Employers here would be STUPID to fire a pregnant employee - woe betide them and the legal action they would face.

 

[HoundedByHounds]

Yep Dizzy. You're right...they would really step in it firing a known pregnant employee...tho "reducing hours" isn't technically being fired so not sure about how that'd shake out. If she's still "an employee" just not one with hours...wasn't clear if that was the case.

Might check into food service, Target or Walmart...they seem to have high turnover and always need some warm bodies in house.

 

[DaVinci]

I hope all works out for you. I remeber working long hours trying to get ready for my baby. It was hard. I never ask my parents for anything in fact I would go to the phone company and pay something on their bills cause I knew they were having a hard time too. It all worked out my son is 16 1/2yrs old and one great kid. It will be the same way for you I just know it. Keep your head high.

 

[AllieMackie]

Might check into food service, Target or Walmart...they seem to have high turnover and always need some warm bodies in house.

I was also going to suggest this. It can be tiring and you're on your feet for a long time, but it's money in the pocket and working as a cashier wouldn't be stressful on your baby-body.

Some people see shame in working at such places, but personally, I don't. I worked at a fast food place for three years to put myself through college, so I see no shame in it. I have much higher respect for folks who work "crapjobs" than people who sit at home whining they have no money because they're too good for certain jobs. (not saying you're one of those people! Just comparing)

Regardless, I hope things look up for you soon!

 

[CaliTerp07]

TELL YOUR EMPLOYER.

They cannot fire you for being pregnant, unless you are unable to perform your job to an acceptable level. It sounds like you have that covered though.

And I agree with everyone else. Retail, food service, or any place that is hiring will be a step in the right direction.

 

[M&M's Mommy]

Tessa,

I can't say I'm not upset over the news that you're pregnant (while I'm not ) & I can't say I'm not worried about you & your baby under the financial situation as you described it to us. My husband and I & countless infertile couples have prepared ourselves both physically, mentally & financially for the baby for so many years, yet so far we have not able to conceive.. Then, there are teenagers like you who're totally unprepared but got pregnant so easily. Though I did not post on your other thread about you not wanting to get the pap smear test done, I cried & prayed over it - for you & for your baby. I hope you know how blessed you're and that you're living out the hope and dream of so many people - us included. Please do your best to take good care of yourself and your baby.

I guess, my point is having a baby is probably the biggest challenge you'll ever have to face & you have about 9 months to prepare yourself for it. Ask any moms and they'll tell you how much raising a baby can cost.. While of course you can vent as much as you want, and we will be here to listen to you, the government and your families may provide some help - but in the end, the responsibilities to make a living for you & your baby are all yours.

As far as work goes, please tell your employer that you're pregnant as soon as possible. I never work in a kennel before so I don't know what kind of cleaning solutions they use, and whether they contain harmful chemicals to the developing baby - so make sure you verify that. I see people suggested retail/service jobs and I think that's an excellent idea to check out, too.

May God be with you and your baby throughout and beyond your pregnancy.

 

[Kase]

I wish you all the best Tessa on the whole job front. It's hard right now with the economic climate but determination and will power is a brilliant thing, you can and will find a job if you put your mind to it .

 

[milos_mommy]

Tessa, there are probably some scholarships available to teen moms or moms going to school...you should look into that.

 

[tessa_s212]

Tessa,

I can't say I'm not upset over the news that you're pregnant (while I'm not ) & I can't say I'm not worried about you & your baby under the financial situation as you described it to us. My husband and I & countless infertile couples have prepared ourselves both physically, mentally & financially for the baby for so many years, yet so far we have not able to conceive.. Then, there are teenagers like you who're totally unprepared but got pregnant so easily. Though I did not post on your other thread about you not wanting to get the pap smear test done, I cried & prayed over it - for you & for your baby. I hope you know how blessed you're and that you're living out the hope and dream of so many people - us included. Please do your best to take good care of yourself and your baby.

I guess, my point is having a baby is probably the biggest challenge you'll ever have to face & you have about 9 months to prepare yourself for it. Ask any moms and they'll tell you how much raising a baby can cost.. While of course you can vent as much as you want, and we will be here to listen to you, the government and your families may provide some help - but in the end, the responsibilities to make a living for you & your baby are all yours.

As far as work goes, please tell your employer that you're pregnant as soon as possible. I never work in a kennel before so I don't know what kind of cleaning solutions they use, and whether they contain harmful chemicals to the developing baby - so make sure you verify that. I see people suggested retail/service jobs and I think that's an excellent idea to check out, too.

May God be with you and your baby throughout and beyond your pregnancy.

I appreciate your concern, I really do.

Also, please be aware that I never said that I'd refuse to get a pap smear done, just voiced my fear of it. For the baby's sake, and because I have little choice, I will go through with it in the first doctors visit, and obviously there will be many more visits with my privates exposed that I will not like at all, but of course I will do it. You have nothing to fear as far as my doing anything but the best for this baby. I know that cat littler truly isn't a big concern at all, but still don't change it. I haven't been lifting anything too heavy, completely changed my diet and now eat regularly. I may be young, but not stupid or careless. I've always been mature beyond my years, and while this is still not the best of timing, the baby will be a blessing. Just a little ahead of its time is all. Dustin and I both knew we'd eventually have at least one child of our own, though if we ever get back on our feet, it still is my hope to one day be able to foster children. There's so many children that are aged 10+ that will just age out of the system.. and though I understand people's want for a baby, and how unfair it seems that others seem to conceive so easily, I so badly want to make a difference in the lives of those children that are older and unwanted.

I know this is a very serious situation, and we have contemplated the possibility of giving the baby up for adoption. However, if the situation were just changed by one little thing, a legal marriage, the economy would simply be blamed, rather than any kind of taboo premarital sex. Dustin had a factory job, but he was laid off to no fault of his own and has been looking but not a good time for finding jobs. And I've had application into every fast food restaurant in the neighboring towns. Right now we are just expecting to have to tough it out and hope for the economy and job market to improve. Until then, no one will hire. Everyone's being laid off. Beside that, there have been mothers that have been soley on their own and still made it. Dustin never knew his father, and his mother did a wonderful job with him. From what I've always been told about his childhood, he always had toys and game systems and plenty of food. More than I can say for myself. I'm a very determined person, he'll be an excellent father, and though it will be extremely hard, we'll get through it together, the very same way if our union was already made legal in the government's eyes.

 

[tessa_s212]

Tessa, there are probably some scholarships available to teen moms or moms going to school...you should look into that.

I've scheduled an appointment with the financial aid office for the first day I'm back in my classes. So we'll see what that can do for us too.

 

[Jules]

Tessa, see if there is a free legal aid office serving the county you live in. I work for one in Western Missouri and know that we help mothers and expecting mothers to get all the resources they need... including Angel Food Ministries and such.

 

[tessa_s212]

Tessa, see if there is a free legal aid office serving the county you live in. I work for one in Western Missouri and know that we help mothers and expecting mothers to get all the resources they need... including Angel Food Ministries and such.

Thanks Jules. Have already applied for the assistance that the county gives. Now waiting to hear if they will qualify me to get it. *waits impatiently* Right now I'm just hoping that it doesn't take a lifetime because I'll be needing to see a doctor sooner or later, and have to wait to get on medicaid before I can go. But I know I've still got some time before most doctors will see pregnant women anyway.

 

[ArcticHeatwave]

you could can tell the drs office that you have medicaid pending. Since I know some dr's office can retroact (not sure using right lingo) but they can have the medicaid pay for the previous visits once it kicks in.