Is Chazhound, like your home??

[Gustav]

Chaz is not what is was 2 years ago, and not what it will be in 2 years from now.. It's constantly evolving.. Sometimes for the better, and sometimes for the worst.

Is there a clique? I dunno, possibly... If there is I wasn't invited! LOL!

I am a limbo-er and proud! YAY! People often ignore me, but that's ok.. I probably wouldn't listen to me either...

So home? Nah... Chaz smells better and has less dog hair in it.. Good place to hang out? Sometimes.. I do find it all a bit TOO serious, some folks need to losen up a bit, otherwise it's not entertaining, it becomes work. And I am out at the first sign of anything tasking for the old noggin!

 

[Whisper]

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[mamasobuco]

Is there a clique? I dunno, possibly... If there is I wasn't invited! LOL!

Apparently you were because you've been frosted.

I think the frosted and befriended things are childish and show only who are 'the most popular' members. Especially when it first started. Those who got frosted during the first few weeks stick together and I've seen them disagree with someone outside of the frosted clique and turn around and agree with the same point of view from one of their members.

The other thing is threads that are about who you look for and listen to when you come to chaz. How insulting is that to those who are well educated and have good advice that do not make that list because their not 'frosted'? Those types of things should not be allowed IMHO. They single people out whether it be good or bad. Like I said, it all totally reminds me of high school and why I chose to be a vocational student.

 

[skyeboxer]

Home ... no. But a place to hang out and talk about dogs, yes! I have one dear friend who will talk dogs till she falls snoring off her bar stool but generally my friends and family think I am a loony.

I've learned a lot, read posts that made me laugh out loud, some that made me cry and some that left me speechless. It's more like the pub than a home. I choose to come here ... but I HAVE to be with the kids.

 

[Dreeza]

Apparently you were because you've been frosted.

I think the frosted and befriended things are childish and show only who are 'the most popular' members. Especially when it first started. Those who got frosted during the first few weeks stick together and I've seen them disagree with someone outside of the frosted clique and turn around and agree with the same point of view from one of their members.

The other thing is threads that are about who you look for and listen to when you come to chaz. How insulting is that to those who are well educated and have good advice that do not make that list because their not 'frosted'? Those types of things should not be allowed IMHO. They single people out whether it be good or bad. Like I said, it all totally reminds me of high school and why I chose to be a vocational student.

i really wouldnt look into it that much....when i was 'frosted' i just clicked the first 3 ppl i noticed who werent...it had nothing to do with who they were.

The things that bother me are the threads asking where people are when they have been missing for like 3 days...

I think there was a point where i didnt post for a good month and there was no thread made for me...

(ok, im not wanting sympathy here...im just pointing out the things that really make people feel left out)

I know its stupid to be bothered by things like that, but we are all human with feelings. Some people are better at not being bothered by little things...some people arent. For me, it depends...i kinda go through cycles of depression, so when something rubs me the wrong way at the wrong time..it really hurts.

 

[juliefurry]

I think the frosted and befriended things are childish and show only who are 'the most popular' members. Especially when it first started. Those who got frosted during the first few weeks stick together and I've seen them disagree with someone outside of the frosted clique and turn around and agree with the same point of view from one of their members.

The other thing is threads that are about who you look for and listen to when you come to chaz. How insulting is that to those who are well educated and have good advice that do not make that list because their not 'frosted'? Those types of things should not be allowed IMHO. They single people out whether it be good or bad. Like I said, it all totally reminds me of high school and why I chose to be a vocational student.

I agree with your point entirely. I think I basically got frosted because I whined about it . I don't think that it's right that people were left out of the frosted, or befriended thing either. The problem with me is I never stick up for myself or anything until I just blow. People had made some pretty rude remarks on threads of mine without listening to the full story, which was plainly stated, and just going by their own views. Lots of us are going through a lot right now and to have their decisions mocked is unfair.

 

[darkchild16]

it used to be but im feeling like grace and just sick of a lot of people here

 

[RD]

I know its stupid to be bothered by things like that, but we are all human with feelings. Some people are better at not being bothered by little things...some people arent. For me, it depends...i kinda go through cycles of depression, so when something rubs me the wrong way at the wrong time..it really hurts.

Oh Dreeza I totally know how you feel. It's just the internet, but for some reason lately the littlest things make me dissolve into tears and little bits of drama or cliqueishness (hows that for a word? Lol) on Chaz just sting. I just went through a huge ordeal with people I thought were friends all formed their own close little group, and I was on the outside. I'm always on the outside - this is just the same thing on a forum.

For awhile I was doing really well about not caring what other people think of me, but I've fallen back into that and when someone doesn't like me, I take it personally. No idea why... I fail at life, lol.

I dunno, maybe I just need a break.

 

[keyodie]

Chazhound is definitely like a home to me. Sometimes it doesn't even feel like a forum...it feels like a family. I'm glad I found this place.

 

[stevinski]

I think the frosted and befriended things are childish and show only who are 'the most popular' members. Especially when it first started. Those who got frosted during the first few weeks stick together and I've seen them disagree with someone outside of the frosted clique and turn around and agree with the same point of view from one of their members.

i think descibing ppl that were frosted as popular is childish and immature, because when all those 'new' people where making threads about what it meant, they all got sent the PM.
It was jst some christmas chain, no need to turn it into somthing evil

 

[stevinski]

on another note!!!, i love this place,
i dont post as much as i used too because of a few other members,
but i still love this place all the same!!!!!!
there is sooo many people on here i respect and like to think as, as my friends.

 

[oc_spirit]

HECK NO!! There are just enough aspects about Chaz that I enjoy that keep me coming back to check in. I enjoyed it a lot more a few months ago but I feel really wierded out whenever I see many of the topics posted and how childish they appear to me. Either overly-sensitive or just plain stupid. If there weren''t a few of the people that I find to be strongly knowledgable and competant (Ex., RD, Mordy, Renee, Roxy''s CD, Keyodie, Zoom to name a few) I wouldn''t be here at all. Heck, its always the last forum I check when it used to be the first. I''m on a couple other forums where I know people there personally and there I am MUCH more comfortable which is why I also reocmmend those forums to people who are looking for info. After my very negative experience wth a couple members from here a couple months back I hesitate to even share some of my info with Chaz anymore...

 

[Spirit2010]

heh, ya its kind of like a learning center, for dogs! This is why I joined, dogs. my family hates talking about dogs all the time, and this is a place I can! And get wonderful advice! It is awesome to come here, and get that little piece, or big piece of advice. and to just chit-chat with other members.

 

[juliefurry]

i think descibing ppl that were frosted as popular is childish and immature, because when all those 'new' people where making threads about what it meant, they all got sent the PM.
It was jst some christmas chain, no need to turn it into somthing evil

Nope I never recieved ANY pm's about being frosted until I whined and complained. Once being befriended came out agian I got no pm and you know what I am not going to whine and complain to get that pm either. The thing is a lot of people didn't get one. I'm not new I've been on here for 2 years now. The thing is if everybody is not going to be frosted, or befriended then that shouldn't have been brought up because it DOES hurt some peoples feelings to know that there are things going on "behind their backs" so to speak that they are not a part of and if this is such a big family than everyone should be a part of it.

I suffer from severe depression and have recently had to go off my meds and you know what I am going completely nuts (and I know this). Everything hurts me, somebody says "hi, how ya doing" and I may burst into tears I'm so depressed. And I used to feel like I was really part of a family here and now it seems everybody has their friends and will ignore lots of people who need help or are giving help and only listen and respond to their friends. OR if they do respond to those people that they don't feel are their friends it's mean, or insensitive. Families don't turn their backs on one another because they don't fully agree with the decisions they are making they try to help them through the best they can.

 

[ToscasMom]

Honestly, I had no idea the frosted thing had that kind of symbology. I got frosted by someone whose words about dogs I really respect and who gave me some help with Tosca early on. So I think it was just timely is all. I really have no part of any clique of any kind. I am so incorrigible even I wouldn't invite me to a click.:lol-sign: If anything, I would imagine myself on the bottom of the list of any dominant group on this board. I'm not exactly easy to get to go along with the crowd. I felt a bit put out over a certain incident where I was concerned for the best interest of a certain dog along with several other people with valid thought whom I felt weren't being heard. But stuff like that happens. What I learned from that is just to mind my own business, but for some, it reminded me of what my grandmother used to say about how No Good Deed Ever Goes Unpunished. I did feel persona non gratis after that, but I just stayed away long enough so that it no longer mattered. But I'm a fairly new member here so I really don't know the dymanics of everybody, although it isn't hard to tell where the dominance is. But that's just like real life. Plus, it's even more difficult to know where everybody is coming from when all you have are written posts with which to communicate, yes?

Edit: I haven't been befriended! ..sniff. The first hundred people who befriend me by 7PM EST will receive a prize. Bribery always works ya know, even if you renig later.:lol-sign:

 

[Denaluvscorgis]

Nope I never recieved ANY pm's about being frosted until I whined and complained. Once being befriended came out agian I got no pm and you know what I am not going to whine and complain to get that pm either. The thing is a lot of people didn't get one. I'm not new I've been on here for 2 years now. The thing is if everybody is not going to be frosted, or befriended then that shouldn't have been brought up because it DOES hurt some peoples feelings to know that there are things going on "behind their backs" so to speak that they are not a part of and if this is such a big family than everyone should be a part of it.

I suffer from severe depression and have recently had to go off my meds and you know what I am going completely nuts (and I know this). Everything hurts me, somebody says "hi, how ya doing" and I may burst into tears I'm so depressed. And I used to feel like I was really part of a family here and now it seems everybody has their friends and will ignore lots of people who need help or are giving help and only listen and respond to their friends. OR if they do respond to those people that they don't feel are their friends it's mean, or insensitive. Families don't turn their backs on one another because they don't fully agree with the decisions they are making they try to help them through the best they can.

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Julie!! Depression is a very hard thing to deal with. How come you went off your meds if you don't mind my asking?

 

[mamasobuco]

i think descibing ppl that were frosted as popular is childish and immature, because when all those 'new' people where making threads about what it meant, they all got sent the PM.
It was jst some christmas chain, no need to turn it into somthing evil

I don't remember saying evil. All I was referring to was that it singled people out just like in high school. Making it childish.

It's very easy for you to take this stance. Just take a look at your sig.

What's with the purple hearts btw? From the looks of them they were sent around as well. Funny because I have been fostering puppies for a no kill rescue since August and have posted that fact many times. No one sent me a purple heart.

 

[~Jessie~]

^^^ Actually, the maker of the purple heart made a thread offering the heart to anyone who wanted it.

Back around Christmas time, I made a thread offering to make signatures for anyone who wanted one. The thread was really long and was up for a good month, and I took everyone's request in it.

 

[mamasobuco]

Nope I never recieved ANY pm's about being frosted until I whined and complained. Once being befriended came out agian I got no pm and you know what I am not going to whine and complain to get that pm either. The thing is a lot of people didn't get one. I'm not new I've been on here for 2 years now. The thing is if everybody is not going to be frosted, or befriended then that shouldn't have been brought up because it DOES hurt some peoples feelings to know that there are things going on "behind their backs" so to speak that they are not a part of and if this is such a big family than everyone should be a part of it.

I suffer from severe depression and have recently had to go off my meds and you know what I am going completely nuts (and I know this). Everything hurts me, somebody says "hi, how ya doing" and I may burst into tears I'm so depressed. And I used to feel like I was really part of a family here and now it seems everybody has their friends and will ignore lots of people who need help or are giving help and only listen and respond to their friends. OR if they do respond to those people that they don't feel are their friends it's mean, or insensitive. Families don't turn their backs on one another because they don't fully agree with the decisions they are making they try to help them through the best they can.

Well said Julie!

{{{{{HUGS}}}}}} to you for being so brave as to post about your depression. It is an aweful thing to endure and I am so sorry that you are going through it. My heart goes out to you and I hope you're feeling more like the real Julie very soon. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

 

[mamasobuco]

^^^ Actually, the maker of the purple heart made a thread offering the heart to anyone who wanted it.

Back around Christmas time, I made a thread offering to make signatures for anyone who wanted one. The thread was really long and was up for a good month, and I took everyone's request in it.

Thanks Jessie. I missed that thread. VERY cool of the maker of the heart.

AND, very cool of you to make siggies. Your siggies ROCK!!!