i am leaving chaz for at least 6 months or more

sparks19

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Buddy'sParents said:
Yes, her posts matter. That's what being a contributing member is. People have received time outs or been banned due to their posts.. so yes, they matter.

Members can speak for themselves and they do. It's called opinions. Which is what this is all about, right?
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While that may be true... I have seen a few members lately who have posted that they are leaving who have been just as.... "cancerous".... and yet no one cares because they are a long standing member. so everyone kisses butt and says "hope you will be back soon" which is fine... but I dont think long standing members should be the only ones to receive that....

IMO... puppylover has made some great posts on this board... some that I personally have really enjoyed. I guess in my OPINION... she doesn't deserve the treatment she is getting when there are worse people on the board.....

ME for example ;) LOL I am NOT a good girl some of the time hehe
 
sparks19

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Zoom said:
Does it help that since you typed it out, it's now in my head as well? :( Don't you know that's one of the biggest earworm songs out there??
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LOL good.. perhaps you will be up all night too singing it in your head... we can be up all night together... "underneath the same big sky... somewhere out there beneath the pale moonlight... someone's thinking of me..."

Anyway lol
 
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I keep myself in line regardless of my personal feelings towards people. I try my best to make people feel welcome. If they make the choice to leave then so be it. I'll politely bid them a good day.

Or at least I think I am polite. Maybe I actually portray a really rude image....:lol-sign:
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I agree. I usually don't reply to these. I try not to be rude just because I don't like someone. But I really wish at the least, people could learn to hold them feelings to their selves at times. Be even slightly polite. Even if the person leaving was not polite, if you thought they where out of line a lot, don't sink to their level.

I mean if someone says they are leaving and you don't like them, what's the point of putting in just that extra little snide/rude/unwelcoming/hurtful/etc remark. I'm sure that person knows how you feel about them. It's just not needed. All it does is make you feel oh so much more special 'cause you "won" and they are leaving. Well, bravo. They are leving and you got the last word. Good for you. :)

At the very least, if you can't just say something nice, then don't say anything. Think to yourself how happy you are they are leaving, why you don't like them, whatever makes you feel better. Just don't add to the nonsense.

I'm really sorry if I sound rude there. Just my Opinion. I tried to write it as mildly as possible and still putting in my opinion, but I'm not as good a words-smith as other members here.
 
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Its simple.... you like it here or you dont like it here.... if you stay thats cool.... if not, see ya later.

I rarely reply to the "im leaving" or "im taking a break" threads and if I do its usually neutral or a "see ya later"

Taking breaks is another story, And if your taking a break a thread notifying your friends your not gonna be on a while is ok. But personally I see these "omg im never coming back....you guys are @$$holes" threads pointless
 
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CanadianK9 said:
Its simple.... you like it here or you dont like it here.... if you stay thats cool.... if not, see ya later.

I rarely reply to the "im leaving" or "im taking a break" threads and if I do its usually neutral or a "see ya later"

Taking breaks is another story, And if your taking a break a thread notifying your friends your not gonna be on a while is ok. But personally I see these "omg im never coming back....you guys are @$$holes" threads pointless
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So why waste your precious time posting in them?

Obviously it stirred some emotion in you to bother.
 
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Puppylover...

Differences are what makes the world go round.

Differences are what change things - make or break them ;)

I didn't necessarily agree with all your posts, but don't be bullied from the forum..... Never let the faceless screen of the tinterweb dictate what you do and do not do.... Live, learn, develop, grow, and remember, not everyone in the world finds strength in numbers.
 
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Puppylover may have had some good posts... but the problem I have is that there are more posts that aren't so good as compared to the good ones. I stopped reading a lot of her posts because they'd get me irritated with her condescending or rude comments. Who knows.. maybe I just take her the wrong way, I don't know. But her posts have rubbed me the wrong way several times.

She does have the right to state her opinion just like the rest of us do. We all have the choice to read which threads we want to read and which ones we want to post on. I think some people leave because they can't handle it when they state their opinion and when someone disagrees with them and they state their opinion.

I really don't think that people shun the newer people and let them leave the forum just because they are new. I think it's the actions and behavior of the person that is leaving that gets that type of reaction to the "I'm leaving" threads. I can remember some members who left that were not new people and no one tried to talk them into staying because of what was being said.

I would never intentionally be rude to someone I didn't care for on this forum. I would just try not to get tangled into their threads. Sometimes that's easier said than done. I don't think anyone pushed pupplover into leaving. It was her choice, and just because no one tried to talk her into staying doesn't mean it's because she's a fairly new member. Go back and look at some of her threads and some of her comments... maybe you'll see where some of the people are coming from when they open the door for her to leave the forum.

We seem to be losing a lot of members lately. There is so much drama going on here lately. Maybe we need to pull together as a forum and try and work out the kinks we seem to be having. Chaz is a great place with a lot of great people. But it is the internet... and we're not all going to get along with everyone all the time. Do I necessarily agree with pupplover on a lot of her threads or posts.... definately not. But do I bully her into leaving.... definately not. There's room for all of us here. There will be cliques... it's a given... it happens everywhere you go.

We need to pull ourselves up by our bootstraps and move on and remember the old saying our parents taught us growing up.... treat others as you want to be treated. If more of us lived by that motto.. there'd be a lot less drama around here. Now... smile big and give someone a hug!!
 
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Sigh !!! I was hoping to hear more about the twins coming ....and pictures .
 
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I had no idea who this puppylover2007 was, so I looked at some of her posts. All I can say is, good riddance. Just like so many other people who have come and gone from here, it's no loss.
 
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It must be my lucky day :D
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My feelings exactly. She won't stop pming me and its getting old quick. I can't put someone on my ignore list if they offer horrible advise because I wouldn't want anyone to think its correct since no one else comments on it.

You can post all woe is me and then try to take it back but it just makes you look ridiculous.

I guess anyone that tells 16 yr olds to have kids if they want is a great board member:rolleyes:

I have always hated the goodbye posts-If you want to leave leave. Some people can't handle being online because they can't keep their stories straight or maybe really can't control themselves.(but there is a difference when a person says they just need to get away and those who blame the forum for all wrong in their life).
 
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