How many couples?

[Debi]

I think when people say a relationship takes 'work' they aren't meaning it as a daily struggle to not kill the other, but more of just taking the time to make sure the other doesn't feel taken for granted and that the little things are hashed out before they turn into the big things that actually take work.

I so agree, Zoomers!! it's not like they mean 'work'..lol. but if you think you are going to stay together for eternity without 'working', managing to keep it fresh...you're incorrect. once kids come along it is work to remain the 'center' of the family...to make time to continue the romance. sounds easy? then I'd guess you don't have a family yet. lol then it takes effort to keep the passion. is it easy with the person you love...sure, but never think it's always going to be a breeze. life has a way of tossing curve balls, and you have to always be ready with the glove. it's not 'work' in the sense you may think.......but more a constant effort, because it's easy to get lazy. we've been married for 34 years....and he is still my love. just remember that it should be a fun struggle. always love and respect.

 

[sparks19]

Well I'm pretty sure we have been through enough curveballs to know we can handle just about anything as long as we have each other. Life hasn't always been a breeze since we got together. far from it. But it never took any thought to just say you look nice today or I love you very much. It just happens. We don't have to think about it. I never thought work meant trying not to kill the other. it just seems to come naturally to us to have our issues sorted out immediately and to always always always say we love each other.

 

[LorriF]

I think that working at a relationship to ensure that both people are fulfilled and happy, and so that the marriage stays strong is an everyday task. But not an arduous one--just part of life. When I see some of these couples on tv (yes, great source, I know) who are constantly fighting and having issues, I just cannot imagine living that way everyday. If I was so miserable in my marriage that I dreaded seeing Andrew, or couldn't wait for him to leave the house every day, then I cannot imagine being in that marriage. Andrew and I have only had one major fight in our entire time together, and that was when we were dating. Sure, we have "discussions" but they are rational and controlled. We actually SOLVE the problem during the discussion! I couldn't imagine being in a marriage/relationship where we screamed obscenities at each other and belittled each other out of anger

 

[Buddy'sParents]

Just got married in November!

And I believe that love can happen at any time in one's life. I had a on-again, off-again boyfriend throughout high school and my first two years of college. Did I love him? Yes and I wouldn't change those six years, he taught me a lot about life and he would say the same about me. But things happen...

I had sworn off love and my husband came into my life. He is the best thing since sliced bread. I wouldn't change a thing about my life, not at all!!