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I think it's possible to get to know someone well, and possibly to the point where you could get married when you're older, as a teenager, but I don't think you can fall in love.
I don't think it's very strict at all. I think it's correct. IMO dating around, sleeping around, etc. is absolutely disgusting and wrong. And simply stupid.
Thanks. It bugs me how everyone thinks every girl's dream should be to get married
I don't think it's very strict at all. I think it's correct. IMO dating around, sleeping around, etc. is absolutely disgusting and wrong. And simply stupid.
Thanks. It bugs me how everyone thinks every girl's dream should be to get married 
When I was 18 I told an unspeakable shrew who was busy yakking about her husband (who had hit on me and was screwing around all over the place) and how superior she was to those of us who weren't married, that some women were meant to be wives and others were meant to be mistresses . . . and I didn't care to be a wife.
It's turned out to be a bit prophetic
I've always felt that if it was a grand idea for the guys to have fun and "try before you buy" then it was an even better idea for us since we usually bear the brunt of the domestic responsibilities You've all heard the phrase, "why buy the book when the library is free?" Very true . . . although admittedly sometimes I keep my "books" until they are WAAAAYYYYY overdue
So far, I have only met two men I would ever have married. The first one and I were separated by circumstances. Charley's only asked me when he was drunk, and I refuse to take that seriously - it's not sporting But he's waited so long now that I'm pretty much out of the mood, lol!
It's turned out to be a bit prophetic
I've always felt that if it was a grand idea for the guys to have fun and "try before you buy" then it was an even better idea for us since we usually bear the brunt of the domestic responsibilities
You've all heard the phrase, "why buy the book when the library is free?" Very true . . . although admittedly sometimes I keep my "books" until they are WAAAAYYYYY overdue So far, I have only met two men I would ever have married. The first one and I were separated by circumstances. Charley's only asked me when he was drunk, and I refuse to take that seriously - it's not sporting
But he's waited so long now that I'm pretty much out of the mood, lol!
I admire girls who wait until they are in a serious commitment and are planning to marry.I'm glad I waited. To me this leaves out anyone younger than 18. Teenagers mistake infatuation with true love most of the time. That's why I don't believe in going steady at a young age.A boy-FRIEND is exactly that and both girls and boys should have a circle of friends.
I think it's entirely possible to find love as a teenager, but more on the latter end of the age group than the former. I was 18 when I met Daniel and I knew this was the 'forever' type of love 4 months into the relationship...6 years later we're still going strong. We have our ups and downs, it's stupid to think we wouldn't after this long, but we know how to work through them.
Now, as a 13-16 year old...it may be a type of love, but it's not a mature love that will see you through long term.
As for dating, some do it, others don't. My best friend never dated in high school or even through much of college. Then she met this wonderful guy at a youth group retreat halfway through college, dated him for 2 years and they just celebrated their One Year Anniversary.
As for myself, I had a handful of boyfriends throughout high school and I view them as a learning experience. I found out what sort of personality quirks I like, what I don't like, and how important respect is. I dumped one guy right quick when he wouldn't accept my 'No" as my final answer and kept bugging me. I knew I wasn't ready, I knew he wasn't the one and since there was a lack of respect for my decisions, out the door he went.
It shouldn't be every girl's final dream to get married. Far from it; it should be every girl's dream to be happy and successful in what she wants to do in/with life. But it is very nice to share that with someone special, whether it's marriage, living together or just a super best friend.
Now, as a 13-16 year old...it may be a type of love, but it's not a mature love that will see you through long term.
As for dating, some do it, others don't. My best friend never dated in high school or even through much of college. Then she met this wonderful guy at a youth group retreat halfway through college, dated him for 2 years and they just celebrated their One Year Anniversary.
As for myself, I had a handful of boyfriends throughout high school and I view them as a learning experience. I found out what sort of personality quirks I like, what I don't like, and how important respect is. I dumped one guy right quick when he wouldn't accept my 'No" as my final answer and kept bugging me. I knew I wasn't ready, I knew he wasn't the one and since there was a lack of respect for my decisions, out the door he went.
It shouldn't be every girl's final dream to get married. Far from it; it should be every girl's dream to be happy and successful in what she wants to do in/with life. But it is very nice to share that with someone special, whether it's marriage, living together or just a super best friend.
AndrewF and I will be married 13 years this July
I think that with the right person, marriage is the most fulfilling and wonderful thing--I cannot imagine being with another person (and I hope Andrew feels the same!!), but I would NOT be with him if everyday in this relationship was a constant struggle. To me, marriage is a partnership where BOTH people are supported, loved, and treated with respect. It is about taking care of them when they need it (thanks hun ), listening to them, supporting them, and loving them no matter what.
We first met in high school when he was about 17 and I was 16, we were friends for years first, and are still friends now. When it is right, you know it. Getting married just for the sake of it, or because you feel you have to will just feel empty compared to that (in my opinion).
I think that with the right person, marriage is the most fulfilling and wonderful thing--I cannot imagine being with another person (and I hope Andrew feels the same!!), but I would NOT be with him if everyday in this relationship was a constant struggle. To me, marriage is a partnership where BOTH people are supported, loved, and treated with respect. It is about taking care of them when they need it (thanks hun
), listening to them, supporting them, and loving them no matter what. We first met in high school when he was about 17 and I was 16, we were friends for years first, and are still friends now. When it is right, you know it. Getting married just for the sake of it, or because you feel you have to will just feel empty compared to that (in my opinion).
Honestly I think dating as a teen is a GOOD thing. It's good experience for when you do eventually want to find a husband/wife/life partner. Dating as a teen also gives you a better feel for people in general, and who you will get along with. Dating doesn't have to be deep and romantic, most of mine involve movies and joking around.
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single and happy.was married 7 years,had another 5years with another girl,really don`t need another relationshit.plus,people don`t understand a dogs needs unless they`ve dogs.when girls meet rolo n lena they pet them and are friendly but if they don`t like long walks out then at some point they`re gonna take 2nd place to the dogs[naturaly]which doesn`t go down well.
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AndrewF and I will be married 13 years this July
I think that with the right person, marriage is the most fulfilling and wonderful thing--I cannot imagine being with another person (and I hope Andrew feels the same!!), but I would NOT be with him if everyday in this relationship was a constant struggle. To me, marriage is a partnership where BOTH people are supported, loved, and treated with respect. It is about taking care of them when they need it (thanks hun ), listening to them, supporting them, and loving them no matter what.
We first met in high school when he was about 17 and I was 16, we were friends for years first, and are still friends now. When it is right, you know it. Getting married just for the sake of it, or because you feel you have to will just feel empty compared to that (in my opinion).
I think that with the right person, marriage is the most fulfilling and wonderful thing--I cannot imagine being with another person (and I hope Andrew feels the same!!), but I would NOT be with him if everyday in this relationship was a constant struggle. To me, marriage is a partnership where BOTH people are supported, loved, and treated with respect. It is about taking care of them when they need it (thanks hun
), listening to them, supporting them, and loving them no matter what. We first met in high school when he was about 17 and I was 16, we were friends for years first, and are still friends now. When it is right, you know it. Getting married just for the sake of it, or because you feel you have to will just feel empty compared to that (in my opinion).
Agreed
Puck and I were discussing this over dinner last night. People always seem to say "a relationship/marriage takes work to make it work" I have yet to feel the need to work at my love for my husband and vice versa. I think him and I have defied the odds lol. We are sustaining a long distance relationship AND we don't work at it. We just ARE what we ARE. We love each other we trust each other I couldn't imagine spending my life without him and him without me. We complete each other (lol not the cheezy movie line either) we picks up where I lack and I pick up where he lacks. We compliment each other and together we are whole.
I think when people say a relationship takes 'work' they aren't meaning it as a daily struggle to not kill the other, but more of just taking the time to make sure the other doesn't feel taken for granted and that the little things are hashed out before they turn into the big things that actually take work.