Honeymoon or the ring?
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You can't 'hock' memories from a nice trip when the guy turns into a JERK! :lol-sign: (j/k)
But yes, like Labyrinth put it............I don't 'upgrade' at different anniversaries.....my original wedding set is the one I'll have all through my marriage and until I die, also the one that will be passed down for my youngest son to ask his future wife someday
All that means more to me than a 'vacation' we can take anytime.
And NO, my engagement ring is not huge or gaudy, it's not even the most expensive one he could afford. But it's QUALITY from a nice reputable jeweler, made to last, and certified.
Now if the question had been a BIG wedding or SWEET honeymoon.........hands down the honeymoon
You can't 'hock' memories from a nice trip when the guy turns into a JERK! :lol-sign: (j/k)
But yes, like Labyrinth put it............I don't 'upgrade' at different anniversaries.....my original wedding set is the one I'll have all through my marriage and until I die, also the one that will be passed down for my youngest son to ask his future wife someday
All that means more to me than a 'vacation' we can take anytime. And NO, my engagement ring is not huge or gaudy, it's not even the most expensive one he could afford. But it's QUALITY from a nice reputable jeweler, made to last, and certified.
Now if the question had been a BIG wedding or SWEET honeymoon.........hands down the honeymoon
I dont think its about the ring being BIG. Im not that kind of person, I dont need some huge monster diamond.
but I would never be able to give up a pretty ring. thats the ring that I have to wear for (hopefully) the rest of my life. I dont want to wear something that looks like it came out of a candy machine.
If getting a simple, elegant, yet pretty ring means sacrificing a HUGE honeymoon..then so be it.
but I would never be able to give up a pretty ring. thats the ring that I have to wear for (hopefully) the rest of my life. I dont want to wear something that looks like it came out of a candy machine.
If getting a simple, elegant, yet pretty ring means sacrificing a HUGE honeymoon..then so be it.
I think I would put the money toward practical things--like a house. But if my choices are only ring or honeymoon--I think I'd go modest on the ring and take the trip. My ring is a modest one--and I don't even wear it anymore.
And for those who think you will always be able to take a trip--not in my life. I'm glad I got to Hawaii for my honeymoon. My life has responsibilities ( unanticipated ones) that make it next to impossible to pick up and travel. So my honeymoon has lasted me a good long time!
And for those who think you will always be able to take a trip--not in my life. I'm glad I got to Hawaii for my honeymoon. My life has responsibilities ( unanticipated ones) that make it next to impossible to pick up and travel. So my honeymoon has lasted me a good long time!
I'm with GO on the orderly carbon thing.. though would like to add artificially manipulated market for orderly carbon (ie diamonds are not that rare or valuable, just the monopoly makes them so)
I vote practical ring (lol mine is practical, diamonds all flush to the surface) and meaningful honeymoon. Yes you can take other vacations but its not the same.
I vote practical ring (lol mine is practical, diamonds all flush to the surface) and meaningful honeymoon. Yes you can take other vacations but its not the same.
ummmmm.... both equally
Justin's parents actually had a savings for him to use just to buy an engagement ring. Isn't that weird? So he didn't have to spend any money out of pocket. I didn't mind though, I love my ring. Plus I would've had to wait a LOT longer if he had to save for it. Our honeymoon cost about as much as the ring did - we went to Jamaica for a week it was awesome. I wouldn't be able to choose between that vacation and this ring.. they're both totally worth it.
Our wedding cost twice as much as the honeymoon and ring together though lol.
Justin's parents actually had a savings for him to use just to buy an engagement ring. Isn't that weird? So he didn't have to spend any money out of pocket. I didn't mind though, I love my ring. Plus I would've had to wait a LOT longer if he had to save for it. Our honeymoon cost about as much as the ring did - we went to Jamaica for a week
it was awesome. I wouldn't be able to choose between that vacation and this ring.. they're both totally worth it.Our wedding cost twice as much as the honeymoon and ring together though lol.
Our marriage was so spur of the moment I actually did have a plastic ring for a bit because no one carries rings in stock above a size 7 and we wanted something to exchange during the ceremony.
THAT ring means more to me than the diamond one. I still have it
but don't wear any of my rings. can't be trusted lol
THAT ring means more to me than the diamond one. I still have it
but don't wear any of my rings. can't be trusted lol
Neither.
Sign a piece of paper and get on with life. Go on extravagant vacations when you've bought a house, are aware of how much money you need monthly and have the savings to blow on a big trip. A big trip that you've earned is far more rewarding, IMO.
Says me, who knows how much money you need to have a mortgage and upkeep a home, and has never had any desire for a big expensive wedding whatsoever.
Sign a piece of paper and get on with life. Go on extravagant vacations when you've bought a house, are aware of how much money you need monthly and have the savings to blow on a big trip. A big trip that you've earned is far more rewarding, IMO.
Says me, who knows how much money you need to have a mortgage and upkeep a home, and has never had any desire for a big expensive wedding whatsoever.
This.
Appreciate the privilege you have of being able to marry the person you love, because not all of us are able to, instead of getting completely sucked into all the material things our culture associates with marriage
On second thought, my official answer is that I'd donate the money for a honeymoon/ring to LGBTQ organizations that are campaigning for same-sex marriage so maybe someday all couples who want to get married can. There will never come a day where I would prefer a ring or a trip over marriage equality.
Appreciate the privilege you have of being able to marry the person you love, because not all of us are able to, instead of getting completely sucked into all the material things our culture associates with marriage
On second thought, my official answer is that I'd donate the money for a honeymoon/ring to LGBTQ organizations that are campaigning for same-sex marriage so maybe someday all couples who want to get married can. There will never come a day where I would prefer a ring or a trip over marriage equality.
On second thought, my official answer is that I'd donate the money for a honeymoon/ring to LGBTQ organizations that are campaigning for same-sex marriage so maybe someday all couples who want to get married can. There will never come a day where I would prefer a ring or a trip over marriage equality.
I find it ridiculously depressing that if, by chance, the person I loved happened to be a woman I couldn't marry her, but if I loved a man equally I'd be allowed to marry him.
It's truly saddening.
Sometimes we need to widen our view when it comes to marriage, instead of focusing on the little things like what flowers should be on the tables and what to wear on the honeymoon and focus on the important parts of it - the connection between two people and the devotion they have for one another.
It's truly saddening.
Sometimes we need to widen our view when it comes to marriage, instead of focusing on the little things like what flowers should be on the tables and what to wear on the honeymoon and focus on the important parts of it - the connection between two people and the devotion they have for one another.
I dont think LOVING weddings, and celebrating your day in a way you like. Yes, that includes your dress, centerpiece, flowers etc.. means that you arent apreciating the love and connection to that other person.
some people love carefully planned weddings, some dont. some would rather elope and all power to them!
but thats not me. and there is nothing wrong with that.
I love weddings and I cant wait to have mine because I LOVE the idea of celebrating that special day where I get to look at this guy and say "I love you and I will be with you forever and ever"
I love the perfect dress, flowers, location, centerpieces, and bridesmaids dresses. and same as I have respect to for people eloping or doing w/e it is they choose, Id like the same respect for doing it my way.
oh I do agree that ALL people should have the right to get married to the person they love. and I cant wait for that day to happen where EVERYBODY can get married.
some people might think.. money is better spent on other things. but thats just different interests. People are different and its ok, but I dont think its right to call somebody elses dream of their wedding "stupid" just because you wouldnt spend YOUR money the same way.
some people love carefully planned weddings, some dont. some would rather elope and all power to them!
but thats not me. and there is nothing wrong with that.
I love weddings and I cant wait to have mine because I LOVE the idea of celebrating that special day where I get to look at this guy and say "I love you and I will be with you forever and ever"
I love the perfect dress, flowers, location, centerpieces, and bridesmaids dresses. and same as I have respect to for people eloping or doing w/e it is they choose, Id like the same respect for doing it my way.
oh I do agree that ALL people should have the right to get married to the person they love. and I cant wait for that day to happen where EVERYBODY can get married.
some people might think.. money is better spent on other things. but thats just different interests. People are different and its ok, but I dont think its right to call somebody elses dream of their wedding "stupid" just because you wouldnt spend YOUR money the same way.