ettiquette for visiting dogs

[coopervane]

I need help!!

My sister is coming over for the weekend. She has a great 1 year old dog named Daisey. Daisey usually pees when lots of people are around, out of sheer excitement. She spreads it around a 10 square yard area in little dribbles. At her house no one seems to mind, they just blot it up as best as they can with a paper towel and move on to other things. Her house smells like dog and they don't mind.

We have BRAND NEW CARPET and we are proud that when you walk into our house you cannot tell we have a dog and 2 cats. As a 14+ year dog owner, I understand that pets can be messy, but my dog VERY RARELY if EVER has an accident. When she does we clean thouroughly with petzyme and make sure it is very clean. I don't feel like I have hangups about dog pee, it's just that I try and keep a nice pet-smell free home.

Aditionally, I would NEVER take my dog to another persons house if I knew it was going to pee on their carpet (new or otherwise). If they asked me not to bring my pee-happy dog, I would not be offended and would gladly oblige.

I have asked her not to bring daisey for the weekend, and I am being treated like I am being unreasonable.

I have a feeling "miss-manners" would side with me, yet I am the one being criticized for being stodgy.


Am I being unreasonable? If not, how can I explain to my sister that it matters to me more if a dog pees in my house.

 

[shazbot]

I certainly don't think your being unreasonable, after all it's YOUR house. She should respect your wishes and leave her dog at home. I'd be very blunt about the fact that you have new carpet and that her dog is not welcome because she pees when excited. That's great that she's ok with her dog peeing in her house, but this is your house.

 

[Tankstar]

I dont think you are being unreasonable at all, new or old carpet. My friend brings her little chi over he messe int he house here. The first 2 tmes I let it go and didnt say anything. Now when she brings him over I ban him to the kitchen where he can be watched and controled. She doesnt like it but I dont care. Ill mannered dogs or dogs with health problems or just excitment issues shouldnt just be brought out unlss they are welcomed IMO. I ADORE dgs why else would I be on forums like this. but I can understand 100% why you wouldnt want her dog there. d there any way to bring her and just block her off some where?

 

[coopervane]

I love dogs too, but I require MY dogs to be well behaved at my house and at others. I guess I just resent being made to feel like I am being a grinch.

I don't really have a place to put Daisey.

BTW, Tankstar, I LOVE your Collie!! I have a much smaller version (10 lbs)

 

[Samantha's pet]

Tell her thats disgusting and it's rude of her to expect you to allow urine to be dribbled all over your floor. Honestly, that's insane! Who would bring that dog to some one else's house and not be humiliated.

 

[darkchild16]

all ive got to say is thank god my family loves my dogs pee and all.

 

[mjb]

I think it's odd for someone to want to bring a dog who's likely to urinate inside to someone else's house.

Would it work for you, her and the dog if the dog wore a diaper? We had to use a belly band at times on an elderly dog that had lost complete control.

 

[darkchild16]

or why not jsut leave the stuff to clean up in plain view?

 

[Southpaw]

Not unreasonable at all.

It's one thing when it's you own dog in your own house, but it really is just rude to let your dog pee in someone else's house. Especially since it sounds like she doesn't really put much effort into cleaning the accidents up--I certainly wouldn't want to clean up after someone else's dog.

 

[noludoru]

If you don't want Daisey in your house and have requested they leave her at home, that's the end of the story. It is YOUR house and what YOU say goes. They are the guests, and if they don't like it they can leave. It's not unreasonable of you in the least to request they leave their pet behind, especially their PEEING pet. :yikes:

I have a little leglifter, and the only way he goes into other people's homes now is invited and with a bellyband.

 

[coopervane]

bump bump bump

 

[mjb]

If you miss it when it happens, I find urine a little difficult to completely clean!

 

[bubbatd]

I'd definitely insist on panties !!! Maybe the kind they use for heats ??? Have them on hand !

 

[ihartgonzo]

My friend has a submissive urinator, too. She is allowed in my house, but ONLY if her owner waits for her to pee before bringing her in, she stays in hardwood-only areas (which is most of the downstairs), and if she can't be on the hard floors, she is in her crate or in the backyard.

It really annoys me when people force their own household rules on others. It just isn't fair to expect you to be ok with a dog peeing all over your carpet... a dog that is guaranteed to pee all over it! I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. I also have some friends whose dogs have marked my furniture, and I hand them Nature's Miracle and a towel, and their dogs are not allowed in my living room anymore.

I HATE pee smell, and I could never just blot up pee with a paper towel. Gross.

 

[bubbatd]

Accidents are one thing ...knowing they dribble is something else !