I'm probably going to have a really unpopular opinion here. . . well, opinions. . .
Bamm is unpredictable. Having been on the verge of feeling his unpredictability I can completely understand your worry. I truly do not think he's safe around a child. I don't even think he's safe around Josh. (However, Josh is an adult and gets to make his own decisions about what risks he takes.) I remember sitting on the couch next to you watching the OC with Bamm between us, and having him go from slinky and relaxed to stiff, white-eyed, and
frozen a foot away from my face. I easily could have been snapped at - or in the hospital with stitches. Relaxing, licking my lips, slouching, and looking away from him didn't change his posture a bit.
That worries me more than the initial bite threat.
I don't think you should put him down before you even get pregnant. I think you should cross that bridge when you come to it. But I don't think he should ever be in the house or within 200 yards of a child - especially yours - without a basket muzzle on, preferably soft one so that he can't cause damage. And if he goes a few years without issues? Great. If he doesn't? I think it will be kinder to everyone to put him to sleep. It's irresponsible to try to re-home him, and he's so bonded to you that I don't think he could live without you.
I'm going to preface my second extremely unpopular opinion by saying please make sure you're alone when you continue to read my post.
Do you really want to have kids with Josh? I don't think he treats you well. At all. And he's definitely not comfortable about certain aspects of your life that you've previously talked about that a life partner
should be comfortable with. That, to me, is a major issue. I realize you're married and committed and want to make things work, but do you want to make things work for the sake of making things work or because you're truly in love with each other? This is
not a question you need to answer to me or on the forum. You don't owe me that at all. I just want you to think about it. I love you, and I'm worried. I hope I'm not coming across as harsh, and I know I could be way off because I'm not you and I'm not in your shoes.
Third, and probably my least unpopular opinion of the night. . . If you really want to get pregnant - see a chiropractor. I heavily recommend
Sean Connor. He's a good friend of mine and is a great chiro. If you get regular adjustments for a month or so, it's very likely you'll get pregnant. We saw it happen all the time.
Sounds crazy, but it's a lot cheaper than a repro doctor and you've got nothing to lose by going.