Cooper is leaving
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Richie I seriously admire you for making this decision. From what I've heard, you're making the right one.. Your dad has major issues, it seems, and it's in little Coop's best interest to find him a home with somebody whose entire family will love him.
Is there anybody you know who would be interested in taking Cooper, so you could still see him?
Is there anybody you know who would be interested in taking Cooper, so you could still see him?
let us know how the family meeting goes...and maybe you can let mom know that Dad's criticism is really breaking you down..(not at the family meeting) one thing at a time..when i was your age i thought my mom could care less...she had the daycare and when i did try to share something with her it was either criticized (something i then referred to as stomping my joy) or ignored..i didn't realize until i became an adult and in fact worked beside her taking care of 5 infants (one being my own) just how tired and worn out she really was. Now i wish i had shared my problems with her..tried harder...things might have turned out a thousand times for the better. I didn't trust her then, and i didn't think it would make any difference. With my own two when i thought they were getting "lost" i hauled them to counciling. If they couldn't let me help..someone had to and that was the only resourse i had. Their father was of no help. One way or the other we made it thru the bad times and came out ok. A lot of people roll their eyes when it comes to a councilor but i can only attest to what it did for me. i was able to discuss what i was going thru with someone that had a neutral perspective, i wasn't burdening my friends and family with it, i was able to get some insight that i hadn't seen on my own..for instance Vicki once said to me she bet that the father counted on the fact that i am incapable of staying angry..and i was like omg..that is it..they can do what ever they want and know that if they wait long enuff i will forgive them just because i can't stand the icky feeling of being mad. sounds dumb to write it, but was a profound concept as to why the bad things happened over and over again.That was just one of a hundred little bits that made up the whole picture. Let me see the forest instead of the tree to use an old cliche..
You might ask your mom if you can go..if i could do anything for you that would be what i would want the most..someone you could talk to, openly..allow you to vent, and help you make a plan on how to change things for the better. If mom would come to some sessions that would be fantastic.
You might ask your mom if you can go..if i could do anything for you that would be what i would want the most..someone you could talk to, openly..allow you to vent, and help you make a plan on how to change things for the better. If mom would come to some sessions that would be fantastic.
You certainly need to talk to someone. It's not right for you having to live in constant criticism. Confide in someone before your self esteem is ruined for the rest of your life. I really hope ya'll can work this out, your dad needs to realize he's being completely unreasonable, it takes some time to house train a puppy. Let us know how the meeting with your folks goes. I'll be thinking of you and Cooper.
Aw man, I'm sorry to hear that Richie.
I remember how absolute PISSED my dad got whenever Rocky would poo n' pee. He'd shoot me glares and get just-- extremely pissed.
But I worked hard and I mean HARD-- he was house trained by 5 months and 2 weeks. MOST dogs I've heard of are housetrained by 6 months.
I also obedience trained him and kind of showed it off to my dad, it worked-- he was impressed. The only time my dad really EVER showed affection and showed that he CARED about Rocky, was when he left. He teared up big time.
And he's always hated dogs-- he made that very clear to me. And he's still kind of wobbly with it but I know... he does like Rocky.
Puppies are hard-- I can't stress that enough--very hard. You're 12 (or 13?). Any parent would know that a 12 year old with school, sports, etc. to deal with will have a VERY hard time dealing with a puppy. I mean, even a 12 year old with not MUCH responsibility-- it's still very hard for someone at that age to deal with.
Especially a Vizsla.
Good luck man, do what you think is right for Cooper-- I was in the same position.
I remember how absolute PISSED my dad got whenever Rocky would poo n' pee. He'd shoot me glares and get just-- extremely pissed.
But I worked hard and I mean HARD-- he was house trained by 5 months and 2 weeks. MOST dogs I've heard of are housetrained by 6 months.
I also obedience trained him and kind of showed it off to my dad, it worked-- he was impressed. The only time my dad really EVER showed affection and showed that he CARED about Rocky, was when he left. He teared up big time.
And he's always hated dogs-- he made that very clear to me. And he's still kind of wobbly with it but I know... he does like Rocky.
Puppies are hard-- I can't stress that enough--very hard. You're 12 (or 13?). Any parent would know that a 12 year old with school, sports, etc. to deal with will have a VERY hard time dealing with a puppy. I mean, even a 12 year old with not MUCH responsibility-- it's still very hard for someone at that age to deal with.
Especially a Vizsla.
Good luck man, do what you think is right for Cooper-- I was in the same position.
Richie, I have to say this. Your dad is a f*****g b*****d. How insecure in his manhood is he if he has to resort to belitting his only son and threatening the one thing his son loves the most? I'm tired and worn out and not in the mood to be nice. Right now, I don't care what 'personal issues' this guy has or how utterly crappy his childhood was, he's two steps away from being the lowest form of human being.
I commend you on your maturity with thinking about rehoming Coop. I dearly hope that your family meeting makes some headway with your dad, and I seriously recommend calling in a mediator or a friend's parent who's judgement you trust to oversee it. Sometimes having that unbiased outside opinion really makes a difference. If not with your dad, then maybe enough of an impression with your mom that she can stand up to him and tell him to shape up or ship out. I realize that you love your dad, at least in some way, but please don't let the thought that he might leave keep you from doing what needs to be done to keep you, your mom and hopefully Cooper safe and happy.
I commend you on your maturity with thinking about rehoming Coop. I dearly hope that your family meeting makes some headway with your dad, and I seriously recommend calling in a mediator or a friend's parent who's judgement you trust to oversee it. Sometimes having that unbiased outside opinion really makes a difference. If not with your dad, then maybe enough of an impression with your mom that she can stand up to him and tell him to shape up or ship out. I realize that you love your dad, at least in some way, but please don't let the thought that he might leave keep you from doing what needs to be done to keep you, your mom and hopefully Cooper safe and happy.
I'm sorry that you might have to give your puppy up. It's very hard for a kid to try and raise a puppy by themselves. A puppy should be a family thing, everybody should help with raising it. I know how hard it is to raise a puppy I have two and I want to pull my hair out ATLEAST once a day. I'm the only one that cares for the puppies as well, my husband promised to take care of them and doesn't raise a finger to do anything for them. Instead he just complains whenever they go potty on the floor or chew something up (he's gonna flip out when he comes home from work because Maverick just ripped a huge chunk of linoleum off the kitchen floor and chewed it up). So I feel your pain. Like I pm'ed you before we have a hunter friend who is looking for a new hunting dog, he just lost his lab a year ago. I bet you probably won't want to ship him but I'm just offering.