Cooper is leaving

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Maybe some miracle will happend, most likely not. My mom let him out of the crate during the night for some reason, so he crapped and peed all over the place. In the morning my mom told me she cleaned up all the crap and pee so I didn't have to worry. I guess she missed a pee spot or something cuz my dad saw it. He got exteremly pissed and yelled at me. He said I have two choices 1. give him away or 2. Step up and if he finds any **** he's gonna kill the dog. I don't want to take the risk, so I said I'll give him away... then he started making fun of me and stuff... anyways, Cooper's leaving
 

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guess you have a choice to make Richie..i am sorry for Cooper and i am sorry for you. I have posted several times how to make sure that puppy would be house broken..have you leashed and kept your eye on him? That is really what it takes. It is do-able. If you think he would really harm Cooper then there really is no choice to make is there. :( i wish i was closer i would house break him for you.
 

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oh my god... i'm so sorry to hear that... I don't know what your situation is or anything but it seems to me your dad is being incredibly unreasonable?? How old is cooper?? is there nothing your mom can do? I feel so bad for you, hope your dad will realise he's not being fair!
 
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Miracles can and do happen. Maybe your dad will have a change of heart once he has calmed down. I dont know how old your pup is, but do you think he still has a long time to go till he is housetrained. Perhaps if you explained to your Dad that it wasnt really his fault...??? Good luck.
 

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guess you have a choice to make Richie..i am sorry for Cooper and i am sorry for you. I have posted several times how to make sure that puppy would be house broken..have you leashed and kept your eye on him? That is really what it takes. It is do-able. If you think he would really harm Cooper then there really is no choice to make is there. :( i wish i was closer i would house break him for you.
Yeah, but I'm an idiot. I sometimes just walk away to get a toy or something and comeback and he peed... it's just a habit I have
 

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I'm sorry Richie. That's really sad. :( But if it's what's best for Cooper, I really admire you for doing the right thing. I know you'll find him a really good home.
 

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that is why you use the leash my friend.and the timer to remind you to take him out every half hour...and i am not blaming you at all..at your age you need a parental back up to teach a pup..at least it would help a lot. I don't know what your mom has to say about it, but honestly i believe that your dad will simply replace the cooper threats with something else..it is the control factor. My ex was always going to hurt my mom or my dog..or my brothers if i left..people wonder why you stay..it was because i believed him. This will fix things for Cooper if you find a good home for him..but what will help you? ARe you positive there is no grandparent, uncle, cousin, friend, anyone you could confide in about the abuse that you have to live with day in and day out?
 

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but what will help you? ARe you positive there is no grandparent, uncle, cousin, friend, anyone you could confide in about the abuse that you have to live with day in and day out?
I'm gonna start trying to stay away from my home, with my friends, as much as possible. Maybe I'll be able to sleep over at my friends house.
 

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I'm gonna start trying to stay away from my home, with my friends, as much as possible. Maybe I'll be able to sleep over at my friends house.
That's a good idea. But remember, we're your friends here too
 

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that is only a temporary..i know that i have had more than one teen here for lengthy periods of time..they just never went home and i didn't have the heart to make them..Blake, DAvid, Luke,jacob, Chris..each with their own variety of crisis.. geez there were others as well..but it wasn't home not really. I know i have mentioned several times that you should talk to mom..that doen's t mean it will work but it is a place to start..you need a safe and loving enviroment. You have all of highschool to go thru and that is stressful enuff without someone tearing you down each day. Grandparents??? Any relative at all? Just to confide in???
 

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smkie said:
that is only a temporary..i know that i have had more than one teen here for lengthy periods of time..they just never went home and i didn't have the heart to make them..Blake, DAvid, Luke,jacob, Chris..each with their own variety of crisis.. geez there were others as well..but it wasn't home not really. I know i have mentioned several times that you should talk to mom..that doen's t mean it will work but it is a place to start..you need a safe and loving enviroment. You have all of highschool to go thru and that is stressful enuff without someone tearing you down each day. Grandparents??? Any relative at all? Just to confide in???
Not that I feel comfortable talking to... I know what I have to do, I'm just too scared to do it...
 

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Richie, that's what my brother and I did to get by when we were your age. When you are home, just try to stay in your room so that you won't bother him.
 

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I think it is always hard asking for help..(i am hoping that is what you mean...) but i think you will find you are saving your own sanity in the long run..even talking to the Boys and Girls hotline will give you insight on who you should speak with. People who control have a mental glich that preys on people like you..like i use to be..they are exceedingly good at what they do. You will find that the more you reach out for help..the more help you will get...in the very long run you will have taken control of the situation and he wont be able to hurt you anymore. The threats are just as damaging as fists..they tear you down from the inside..keep you from reaching your goals..and the worst, the absolute worst part is when you start believing what they say yourself. Talk to someone richie, someone that can help. If you have a friend to listen that is a start, and will ease your heart some, but you need more then that, you need a trusting grownup in a position to make a difference for you. We have all told you that you are special..but honestly in my whole entire life i have never seen anyone come into a community and touch so many people so quickly. That alone should let you know that you have profound people skills and that is an incredible talent that can take you very far in life. That is unless you let the person that is hurting you the most win. A violent vengence isn't the answer either. That will only add fuel to the fire and damage your chances of a long, happy and sucessful life. You have to go thru the stages, and once you start, it will become easier. Be it a hotline, or a relative, talk..and talk..and talk some more. Build your team up..you are only alone in this as long as you let yourself be that way.
 

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I'm so so so sorry Richie. I wish your dad would have cut you some slack. I mean that isn't even a fair trade off if you ask me, and those choices where unfair as well. Gosh your dad is mean! I'm so sorry Richie.......We love you Cooper!
 

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What does your mom think about all this? You should try to have a serious talk with her...
I just got off the phone with her. She said that we are going to discuss this as a family b4 we do anything.
 

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