Chaz Moms and Moms-to-Be Chat (everyone welcome)

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  1. AllisonPitbullLvr

    AllisonPitbullLvr New Member

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    Well, I can count on one hand how many times we've done it since she was born but mostly we shower together with Everleigh in her bouncy chair on the bathroom floor. We've always been on opposite pages anyways-- he's a morning guy and I prefer nighttime sex so this was always our compromise.

    But you find ways. Ev on one side of the bed...us standing on the opposite side of the bed....
     
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    You get creative - we only partially cosleep, as in she's put down in her bassinet and then after her 1st night feeding remains in bed...so typically we do it after she's asleep but before she's in bed with us. This morning we started out on the bed - I know some people are weirded out by that but she's 2 months old and sound asleep, not like she knows what's going on even if she wakes up - but once things got a little more intense we moved to the floor. It's rare we wake up before her, though.

    We cosleep and still manage to be intimate 3-5 times a week.
     
  3. AllisonPitbullLvr

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    yv0nne Vizsla mom

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    I find it weird to kiss my boyfriend when the dog is looking at us ..there's no way I could do it with a baby judging us LOL!
     
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    sparks19 I'd rather be at Disney

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    Ah ok makes sense. I always just picture baby right in the middle of the bed and I think now it's hard for me to remember just how soundly babies sleep lol
     
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    Nico is growing up WAY too fast. Doug and I found a really cheap car ($275) on a mom swap site I am on. The guy was selling it because the part was cheap for the fix but the time to fix it would have cost over $2000 at a mechanics shop. So we got it because the truck we have guzzles gas. Anyway we got it fixed for $95 and it runs great and is great on gas, saving us tons for the trips to pick up my daughter. Anyway long story short when we were transferring the car seat from the truck to the car Doug mentioned that we should start looking at finding Nico his next car seat. In our province they can be in a forward facing car seat when they turn one & are 22lbs and are walking. Nico is 2 months shy of 1, 2 lbs shy of the 22lbs mark and he is already trying to stand without holding anything and can walk short distances if you are holding one hand. Time has sure flown by. He is progressing from the baby stage to the toddler stage. I wish time would slow down. lol
     
  7. AllisonPitbullLvr

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    Well, when we bed share, Everleigh is on my right, I'm in the middle, dh is on my left. So we just crowd on to his side of the bed as far as we can. LOL
     
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    Just want to mention, just because LEGALLY they can be turned at a certain age doesn't mean they should be. Rear facing is still much safer at that age.
     
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    I was really surprised when I saw a pic of a friend's 8 month old niece forward facing in NZ. If Lillian keeps growing at this rate she'll be rear facing til she's 4 lol
     
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    ^This. My best friend is a carseat tech and she says the AAP now is recommending kids rearface until AT LEAST 2yo.

    AAP's Car Seat Safety Info
     
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    We are doing extended rear facing with Everleigh too. My mom thinks I'm insane, so I knew I was on the right track. ;)
     
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    Have you seen the videos? It removed all doubt in my mind that I will rearface any munchkins I have until it's physically impossible. I kind of wish I could rear face myself!!

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    *Note that in some countries they recommend RF until **4 YEARS** old.

    Since you're going to have to buy a new seat, why not get a convertible one that does RF, FF, and booster? Seems like that would be the best of all worlds.
     
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    I have turned all my kids to FF when the law stipulated, and when they were ready. I have researched it many times(each time one of my kids is ready) and the pro's outweigh the cons for us. He won't be turned till he is the proper weight, age and is walking.
     
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    Everyone has to pick what they think is best. I will admit I turned both of mine before two....around 16-18 months I think...but wish I hadnt. I did it because they both HATED the car and screamed pretty much the entire car ride. But I did not research as fully as I should've and well, honestly remained ignorant on the issue.

    For those who haven't looked into the issue and would like some more information...here is a good place to start

    http://www.cpsafety.com/articles/stayrearfacing.aspx

    excerpt

     
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    Also everyone should look up their countries, province/state and so on laws. Each location could have different laws about it as well and it never hurts to read the new studies and so on to help you in your decision as well.
     
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    Again, NOT trying to change your mind about when to turn, you know your child best....

    BUT

    The actual law is the MINIMUM requirement. We are saying we KNOW what the different laws state and that in most areas (12 months and around 20 lbs) they are too low.
     
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    I know what you are saying. And I was just saying that it doesn't hurt to research the location you reside in. Just like for my other 3 it was 20lbs and now that law has changed to 22lbs. I wasn't meaning YOU should look it up. I was saying it for others reading this thread that it is a good idea to look up where they live because laws can and do change. My mind won't be changed because I did the research and weighed the pros and cons for us. Each person needs to do the same for them. Hence making sure to look up the location and laws for that location.
     
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    Well, I am not going to keep debating it lol

    but my point was the law is irrelevant. I dont care what the law says...
     
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    Out of curiosity, I decided to look up my state's laws. To say it's basic is a bit of an understatement:

     

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