I do too, and I also find it fascinating where he often talks about how this is not only a way to be with dogs, but with children and spouses too.
Also kind of cool that one more person now knows about Dunbar b/c of this thread
For me the real epiphany in dog training came after becoming a mom. Two main reasons. DH and I have agreed before kids that we would not discipline our children physically with began the broadening of my horizons.
Secondly, as the kids grew, I realized that if they were to become involved in the dogs' training, the DOG training could not be based on physical discipline.
Said children are now 8 (twins), and we have a houseful of dogs trained without intimidation or fear who are as well (even better) behaved and reliable than our previous dogs.
But the first step really is to examine yourself and your own biases/motives when training your dog. We ARE a punitive society and we ARE kind of stuck in the mentality that the only way to control behavior is through force, fear, or intimidation. But when you reject that notion, a whole new world of possibilities opens up. Its good stuff