You know what I hate?

[fillyone]

I hate it when I see the word 'rape' used for anything other than the physical rape of a woman (or man).
Robbery isn't rape.
Being forced to have intercourse is rape.

Using the word rape for anything else is a slap in the face of those who have been.

Barb who is stepping off her soapbox, but hoping people will think before they use the word.

 

[tessa_s212]

rape-

1.The crime of forcing another person to submit to sex acts, especially sexual intercourse.
2.The act of seizing and carrying off by force; abduction.
3.Abusive or improper treatment; violation: a rape of justice.

 

[Saje]

She didn't say it wasn't following the dictionary definition.

I happen to agree actually. I think it's a violent word and if you get robbed it isn't close to what being raped sexually would be like. Say you feel violated, not raped.

 

[tessa_s212]

I don't see why it bothers you. I have been sexually molested, but using the dictionary definition for words does not bother me one bit.

 

[Bichonmum]

I also agree that it shouldn't be used. I see it as very inappropriate to use the term in that way.

 

[fillyone]

I don't see why it bothers you. I have been sexually molested, but using the dictionary definition for words does not bother me one bit.

I'm glad it doesn't bother you, that's good.

However, it does bother me and I also know several women who it bothers as well.

 

[CanadianK9]

Well by definition law does not have a penalty for "Rape" The act of forcing sexual intercourse on an unwilling party is known as "Sexual Assualt" Though many have been misled and attributed the word "Rape" to mean "Sexual Assualt" So you see, in reality its a slang term for an already defined thing.

 

[fillyone]

Well by definition law does not have a penalty for "Rape" The act of forcing sexual intercourse on an unwilling party is known as "Sexual Assualt" Though many have been misled and attributed the word "Rape" to mean "Sexual Assualt" So you see, in reality its a slang term for an already defined thing.

Huh?

 

[tessa_s212]

Well by definition law does not have a penalty for "Rape" The act of forcing sexual intercourse on an unwilling party is known as "Sexual Assualt" Though many have been misled and attributed the word "Rape" to mean "Sexual Assualt" So you see, in reality its a slang term for an already defined thing.

Exactly what I was trying to say!

 

[CanadianK9]

In other words the only reason that rape is used to describe forceful sexual intercourse is because of people using it to mean that, hence it is slang.

Defined properly, forceful sexual intercourse is "Sexual Assault"

 

[Saje]

Regardless of it's history many women find it offensive to use the word in any way other than what it is commonly referred to.

 

[fillyone]

I'll just let it lie.

I was simply expressing my opinion as the victim of a violent "rape".
I was hoping that perhaps, empathetic people might see that using a word, which for most, equal one of the most violent acts that can be perpetrated against another for non-violent acts can make it appear that the two acts are equal.

And believe me, they are not.

Barb

In other words the only reason that rape is used to describe forceful sexual intercourse is because of people using it to mean that, hence it is slang.

Defined properly, forceful sexual intercourse is "Sexual Assault"

 

[fillyone]

And it appears that in the state of Oregon it is Rape

"163.355 Rape in the third degree



(1) A person commits the crime of rape in the third degree if the person has sexual intercourse with another person under 16 years of age.

(2) Rape in the third degree is a Class C felony. [1971 c.743 §109; 1991 c.628 §1]


163.365 Rape in the second degree


(1) A person who has sexual intercourse with another person commits the crime of rape in the second degree if the other person is under 14 years of age.

(2) Rape in the second degree is a Class B felony. [1971 c.743 §110; 1989 c.359 §1; 1991 c.628 §2]


163.375 Rape in the first degree


(1) A person who has sexual intercourse with another person commits the crime of rape in the first degree if:
(a) The victim is subjected to forcible compulsion by the person;
(b) The victim is under 12 years of age;
(c) The victim is under 16 years of age and is the person’s sibling, of the whole or half blood, the person’s child or the person’s spouse’s child; or
(d) The victim is incapable of consent by reason of mental defect, mental incapacitation or physical helplessness.

(2) Rape in the first degree is a Class A felony. [1971 c.743 §111; 1989 c.359 §2; 1991 c.628 §3] "

Well by definition law does not have a penalty for "Rape" The act of forcing sexual intercourse on an unwilling party is known as "Sexual Assualt" Though many have been misled and attributed the word "Rape" to mean "Sexual Assualt" So you see, in reality its a slang term for an already defined thing.

 

[Zoom]

Regardless of it's history many women find it offensive to use the word in any way other than what it is commonly referred to.

Exactly. You can push definition all you want, but until you've sat up half the night holding your friend who was just raped (by her boyfriend no less), I don't think you can really grasp how mean and offensive that word can be.

 

[CanadianK9]

And it appears that in the state of Oregon it is Rape

"163.355 Rape in the third degree



(1) A person commits the crime of rape in the third degree if the person has sexual intercourse with another person under 16 years of age.

(2) Rape in the third degree is a Class C felony. [1971 c.743 §109; 1991 c.628 §1]


163.365 Rape in the second degree


(1) A person who has sexual intercourse with another person commits the crime of rape in the second degree if the other person is under 14 years of age.

(2) Rape in the second degree is a Class B felony. [1971 c.743 §110; 1989 c.359 §1; 1991 c.628 §2]


163.375 Rape in the first degree


(1) A person who has sexual intercourse with another person commits the crime of rape in the first degree if:
(a) The victim is subjected to forcible compulsion by the person;
(b) The victim is under 12 years of age;
(c) The victim is under 16 years of age and is the person’s sibling, of the whole or half blood, the person’s child or the person’s spouse’s child; or
(d) The victim is incapable of consent by reason of mental defect, mental incapacitation or physical helplessness.

(2) Rape in the first degree is a Class A felony. [1971 c.743 §111; 1989 c.359 §2; 1991 c.628 §3] "

In most other states or in the canadian criminal code its defined as "Sexual Assualt"

The actual roots of the word origionally had no intent on meaning the act of forced intercourse itself. Additionally here it is defined in 3 levels all of which are Indictable offenses

Level 1- Touching of a sexual manner that is not invited or consentual

Level 2- Sexual assualt involving weaponry, a 3rd party, or that uses weapons, threats, or causes physical injury

Level 3- Sexual assualt involving wounding, maiming, disfiguring, or endangering the life of the victim

Though it may be an offensive word to some, I think it has just been misinterpreted to have many meanings. And by common usage has found its way into everyday vocabulary to mean what it does now.

 

[mojozen]

i feel the same way as you do fillyone. I don't like to see rape used to mean anything but forced sexual intercourse. Hell, I don't even like rape jokes, and I have stopped talking to people due to them making such tasteless jokes in my presence -ESPECIALLY when they know about my history.

Thank you for posting this...

 

[Renee750il]

Actually, Canadian AND Filly are both correct. Different jurisdictions often use different terminology in their statutes.

I, too, wish that people would stop using the word "rape" casually. But then, I wish most people would develop their vocabularies to the point that would enable them to use words properly and to use the most appropriate words!

The word "rape" is a very, very old word. http://eserver.org/poetry/rape-of-the-lock.html

I do wish it - and many other words - were used in their rightful places so as not to dilute impact or meaning, but I wouldn't wish to see it conscripted to describe solely the act of forcible intercourse.

 

[PixieSticksandTricks]

It bothers me as well because well.......

 

[bubbatd]

I use the word only in a sexual way. I do think there will be a change soon, as too many gals have an evening of " fun", go too far , then cry rape ! Unless there's a date rape drug used, I personally feel sorry for some of the boys who are accused,when the girls led them on then had second thoughts. No is No ! But at some stage the boy only hears GO ! Just a Grammy thought.

 

[PixieSticksandTricks]

It bothers me as well because well.......

to clear this up I wasent raped it was someone else very close to me.