Will you rehome your dog(s) once you have a baby?
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Before everyone says how my mom was a horrible parent, it obviously didn't hurt or traumatize us, as we've carried over the same mindset 
I honestly think that's why I think of my pets as my equals, because that what we were always taught. If the cats hissed or swatted at us, it was because we were doing something wrong, and we were the ones who got in trouble, not them.
I honestly think that's why I think of my pets as my equals, because that what we were always taught. If the cats hissed or swatted at us, it was because we were doing something wrong, and we were the ones who got in trouble, not them.
I plan on trying to have a kid in about 6 years (that sounds SO soon!) and depending on how long my dogs live, they might be around when the little being is born. They will teach that little baby why dogs are so amazing and condition the baby for the new dogs that will follow in their footsteps.
If for some reason the baby is cursed with allergies, I'll hope they'll grow out of it, or grow accustomed to our pets so they can live comfortably without medication. If that doesn't work, we'll do whatever it takes to MAKE it work. Rehoming would be the VERY last resort.
If my kid has disabilities, we'll utilize the pets in therapy.
Yeah we got Belle... and then one week later I found out I was pregnant lol
Teddy died when I was about 3 months along
and we got Beezer when i was about 5 months along. I really had no idea what they would be like with kids but i figured the time between Hannah's birth and when she becomes mobile would be enough time to figure it out with o ut her really being at risk of stumbling on them and then learning that they are freaked out by her.
Belle... she's a kid kind of dog. she loves anyone but especially kids. If she has had enough of Hannah she'll get up and leave
Beezer... he was never a huge fan of her but she didn't bother him so he didn't bother her. but it seems now as she gets older and is more aware of him and sneaks him food and will throw a ball for him... he's starting to realize this may not be such a bad set up lol. he still won't cuddle with her or anything and I doubt he ever will. but he's really come around. not that he was ever aggressive with her or anything but he wasn't sure it was a good thing lol
and since they have been around since Hannah was born it was easy to teach her what is and is not appropriate when it comes to the dogs. so she doesn't push their buttons... but they push hers sometimes LMAO. she has little patience for them when they do
luckily hannah is not allergic to dogs (although if belle is oily and really rubs herself up on her then Hannah will break out in a itchy little rash but claritin clears that right up.
She is allergic to cats though and while I haven't seen her around cats I have seen her around a rabbit and if the reaction is anything like THAT... then forget it lol. her eyes go beat red and swollen and runny and she's sneezing and has hives and ugh it's a mess. and the claritin that she takes for other allergies is not quite enough to take that away.
So... we won't be getting any cats anytime soon lol
Teddy died when I was about 3 months along
and we got Beezer when i was about 5 months along. I really had no idea what they would be like with kids but i figured the time between Hannah's birth and when she becomes mobile would be enough time to figure it out with o ut her really being at risk of stumbling on them and then learning that they are freaked out by her.
Belle... she's a kid kind of dog. she loves anyone but especially kids. If she has had enough of Hannah she'll get up and leave
Beezer... he was never a huge fan of her but she didn't bother him so he didn't bother her. but it seems now as she gets older and is more aware of him and sneaks him food and will throw a ball for him... he's starting to realize this may not be such a bad set up lol. he still won't cuddle with her or anything and I doubt he ever will. but he's really come around. not that he was ever aggressive with her or anything but he wasn't sure it was a good thing lol
and since they have been around since Hannah was born it was easy to teach her what is and is not appropriate when it comes to the dogs. so she doesn't push their buttons... but they push hers sometimes LMAO. she has little patience for them when they do
luckily hannah is not allergic to dogs (although if belle is oily and really rubs herself up on her then Hannah will break out in a itchy little rash but claritin clears that right up.
She is allergic to cats though and while I haven't seen her around cats I have seen her around a rabbit and if the reaction is anything like THAT... then forget it lol. her eyes go beat red and swollen and runny and she's sneezing and has hives and ugh it's a mess. and the claritin that she takes for other allergies is not quite enough to take that away.
So... we won't be getting any cats anytime soon lol
Every time we add a dog, my mom acts like I didn't think about how it will impact our family once we have a baby
The dogs are totally staying. If someone tried to make me get rid of them, I'd have to bite their heads off. As far as allergies go, if I can maintain Strider's coat in such a way that the 9 year old girl I used to take care of who was so allergic to dogs she needed an epi pen never reacted to him, then I could manage to bathe them often enough and keep things clean enough to keep all my dogs.
I don't have any plans for having children any time soon, but if I ever do have kids, the only reasons I would potentially give up my dogs because of my kids would be 1) if the dog is not trustworthy/aggressive toward kids, 2) if kids stress my dog out too much, or 3) if the child was severely allergic.
In the case of option one, I would do everything in my power to try and make it work, but if I had children, my child would have to be my number one priority (as much as I love my dogs). I would not put any child at risk because of my dog. In the case of option two, I would do absolutely anything and everything to try and get my dog to like children and relax around them, and I believe it would be possible to do that. If after exhausting all options, my dog still found a child to be too stressful, then it wouldn't be fair to the dog (IMO) to keep it in an environment where it isn't happy. And then option three... I'd be so heartbroken if I had a child with severe dog allergies. I'd try allergy medications first, but if those didn't work, then I guess I really wouldn't have a choice but to rehome my dogs.
But unless I was dealing with those three circumstances, there is no way I'd rehome my dogs because of a kid. No way. I need a dog in my life, and I believe it's also good for a child to grow up with a dog also. I've had dogs since the second I was born, and I can't imagine it any other way. I'm a dog person through and through, and eventhough they might drive me crazy sometimes, I can't imagine life without them!
In the case of option one, I would do everything in my power to try and make it work, but if I had children, my child would have to be my number one priority (as much as I love my dogs). I would not put any child at risk because of my dog. In the case of option two, I would do absolutely anything and everything to try and get my dog to like children and relax around them, and I believe it would be possible to do that. If after exhausting all options, my dog still found a child to be too stressful, then it wouldn't be fair to the dog (IMO) to keep it in an environment where it isn't happy. And then option three... I'd be so heartbroken if I had a child with severe dog allergies. I'd try allergy medications first, but if those didn't work, then I guess I really wouldn't have a choice but to rehome my dogs.
But unless I was dealing with those three circumstances, there is no way I'd rehome my dogs because of a kid. No way. I need a dog in my life, and I believe it's also good for a child to grow up with a dog also. I've had dogs since the second I was born, and I can't imagine it any other way. I'm a dog person through and through, and eventhough they might drive me crazy sometimes, I can't imagine life without them!
well,since my kids are grown--I chose garlic taters. But I will say, that we did re-home our 3 cats when it turned out that my son was highly allergic and his asthma issues were compounded by the allergy. We were very sad to re-home them, and I STILL miss them --but it was the best thing we could have done for my son's health. He has a mild allergy to the dogs, but that is workable. The cats--there was no way he could breathe if the cats stayed. (although we DID consider re-homing our son instead...but there were no takers.... )
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I plan on this never being an issue for me...as I plan on never having children.
But if something drastic changed in my world and I found myself with a human infant, my dogs would not go anywhere. I have a spare crate the baby can go in while the malis are out, I can muster up an extra collar and leash for walking the child, and if the dogs or child end up overly aggressive or allergic, I'd be more than willing to rehome the baby.
As long as we can continue to judge and belittle you for all the current reasons, we will leave your spiritual pregnancy unjudged.
But if something drastic changed in my world and I found myself with a human infant, my dogs would not go anywhere. I have a spare crate the baby can go in while the malis are out, I can muster up an extra collar and leash for walking the child, and if the dogs or child end up overly aggressive or allergic, I'd be more than willing to rehome the baby.
The problem with spiritual pregnancies is that people will judge me and belittle me because they wont believe that my pregnancy is real. I just don't think I can handle that.
I'm not having kids, but if I was...nope. No way, no how.
This probably has to do with how my mom raised us. Her cats were here before us, so we had to adjust to them rather than the other way around.
Before everyone says how my mom was a horrible parent, it obviously didn't hurt or traumatize us, as we've carried over the same mindset I honestly think that's why I think of my pets as my equals, because that what we were always taught. If the cats hissed or swatted at us, it was because we were doing something wrong, and we were the ones who got in trouble, not them.
Of course, my family is the rare, insane minority, and I'm not expecting anyone on here to agree
This probably has to do with how my mom raised us. Her cats were here before us, so we had to adjust to them rather than the other way around.
Before everyone says how my mom was a horrible parent, it obviously didn't hurt or traumatize us, as we've carried over the same mindset
I honestly think that's why I think of my pets as my equals, because that what we were always taught. If the cats hissed or swatted at us, it was because we were doing something wrong, and we were the ones who got in trouble, not them. Of course, my family is the rare, insane minority, and I'm not expecting anyone on here to agree
That might not be to your advantage though :rofl1:
So you guys just made me so happy. Thank you for being awesome chaz people like always.
Anyways, I 'might' under EXTREME circumstances. Like, if the kid was severely allergic, I would look into medicine, ways to keep dander down, anything I could to keep my dog. However, if the issue was for some reason money, and there would be a choice of the dog or kid, I would have to choose the kid.
I am going to make sure there is almost NO chance of that happening though, by planning for kids when we have enough to support.
Anyways, I 'might' under EXTREME circumstances. Like, if the kid was severely allergic, I would look into medicine, ways to keep dander down, anything I could to keep my dog. However, if the issue was for some reason money, and there would be a choice of the dog or kid, I would have to choose the kid.
I am going to make sure there is almost NO chance of that happening though, by planning for kids when we have enough to support.
That is just sad. I mean, I love my animals like they are my children...but they are not children. If I had to pick between the wellbeing of a daughter or son of mine or rehoming a cherished dog (after all other options had been exhausted)...I'd rehome the dog, hands down. I'd be upset about it, sure, but I'd do it.
That being said, perhaps if that woman was idiotic enough to get pregnant three times in a row and then give up her children for adoption because of a dog that will live to be ten years old and would be just as happy in another home, they are probably better off without her.
I mean, I love my animals like they are my children...but they are not children. If I had to pick between the wellbeing of a daughter or son of mine or rehoming a cherished dog (after all other options had been exhausted)...I'd rehome the dog, hands down. I'd be upset about it, sure, but I'd do it. That being said, perhaps if that woman was idiotic enough to get pregnant three times in a row and then give up her children for adoption because of a dog that will live to be ten years old and would be just as happy in another home, they are probably better off without her.
That is just sad. I mean, I love my animals like they are my children...but they are not children. If I had to pick between the wellbeing of a daughter or son of mine or rehoming a cherished dog (after all other options had been exhausted)...I'd rehome the dog, hands down. I'd be upset about it, sure, but I'd do it.
That being said, perhaps if that woman was idiotic enough to get pregnant three times in a row and then give up her children for adoption because of a dog that will live to be ten years old and would be just as happy in another home, they are probably better off without her.
I mean, I love my animals like they are my children...but they are not children. If I had to pick between the wellbeing of a daughter or son of mine or rehoming a cherished dog (after all other options had been exhausted)...I'd rehome the dog, hands down. I'd be upset about it, sure, but I'd do it. That being said, perhaps if that woman was idiotic enough to get pregnant three times in a row and then give up her children for adoption because of a dog that will live to be ten years old and would be just as happy in another home, they are probably better off without her.
