LOL. ALL THE TMI questions. I am a bit behind.
17 here, about halfway through the year. It wasn't a super pleasant experience, either. Some people are born being sexual, some people just aren't meant for it. Guy I was with was definitely one of those people, and never grew into it, either. It was just an awkward, sexually frustrating experience. And the sex never got better, either, even after we were married and together for 4+ years.
I somehow skipped over the "How Often" post, but I'm currently plenty active. Several times a week, often more than once a day. We usually have at least 2 Rounds. Round One gets the general itch satisfied, and Round Two is all fun.
To quote a normal conversation between us:
"I just started bleeding."
"Well, you know I don't care."
It isn't a kink, fetish, or anything like that, we just don't care or pay attention to it. I usually don't bleed heavily anyway and it generally stops completely during sex, but even if I do, he doesn't care. Oral during sex I am sorta meh about, but it isn't a huge turn off or anything. More of an issue of *I* don't want him to look up and I am covered in period blood mouth and downwards. But he's all like, "I DON'T CARE" so....eh.
Anything goes, anywhere, any how. We are definitely not vanilla people. At all. We are into everything from bondage, BDSM, violence, anal, dirty/filth, public sex, threesomes, pretty much all the things. Experimentation is fun to us. Sex isn't the primary focus of our relationship, but it is fun and something we take seriously as a couple and as individuals.
Violence is a big one, though. We destroy things. Bruises and bitemarks are sometimes so common/overlooked, I rarely cover them up unless they are very obvious and inappropriate (like at work or something). I've choked him out, he's put a belt around my neck, it's a whatever thing. He is never getting his back tattoo because of the scar tissue. Threesomes are something we seek out with Unicorns (bi women who are comfortable with threesomes with a couple on a purely sexual basis), but something we go back and forth on due to BeAu's desire to be fair since I am Bi and he is not and he will not do another guy(plastic doesn't count, toys are welcome). And party due to women being barsexuals and not actually bisexual. Or wanting in on BeAu and not me, or generally trying to cause trouble between us. It is a tapdance to find a FWB like that.
But on the same flip of the coin, we can be gentle and loving and completely into only each other for stretches of time, too. It's all about mood, really, and it isn't like we would be super forceful or particular about a Unicorn's taste's either. But we are open people willing to try anything.
Which is weird, because after my relationship with Jin, I was all about NO SEX EVAH. I wasn't into it, I didn't want it, I didn't like it, I was perfectly happy not having it. BeAu changed that, definitely, and at first a bit too drastically. We went through a period of indecisiveness where I wanted to go out and do my own thing, but we developed a relationship outside of sex. So we just stuck to each other.
LOL. Dork. Maybe I'll hit you up sometime. When $$ is available.
I get it. Girls are sexier and way more fun, but guys can be more satisfying. Girls are more trifling and less open to CASUAL sex, guys are easier. Totally get it. I've become so tired of the tapdancing, that I'm pretty straightforward from the beginning. Doesn't do us any favors, but at least we aren't wasting our time, either. I'd do casual sex with guys, but me and BeAu are very much a "both of us, or neither" couple, and he isn't to guys. So it's out the window.
I go back and forth on it, really. I like it, I'm meh, I like it, I'm meh.
Since we're doing TMI stuff, when did everyone lose their v-card? I was 17.
I somehow skipped over the "How Often" post, but I'm currently plenty active. Several times a week, often more than once a day. We usually have at least 2 Rounds. Round One gets the general itch satisfied, and Round Two is all fun.
Next TMI Q--- during menstruation - sex or no?
"I just started bleeding."
"Well, you know I don't care."
It isn't a kink, fetish, or anything like that, we just don't care or pay attention to it. I usually don't bleed heavily anyway and it generally stops completely during sex, but even if I do, he doesn't care. Oral during sex I am sorta meh about, but it isn't a huge turn off or anything. More of an issue of *I* don't want him to look up and I am covered in period blood mouth and downwards. But he's all like, "I DON'T CARE" so....eh.
Let's add to this 'TMI' question thing. What's your kink/fetishes?
Violence is a big one, though. We destroy things. Bruises and bitemarks are sometimes so common/overlooked, I rarely cover them up unless they are very obvious and inappropriate (like at work or something). I've choked him out, he's put a belt around my neck, it's a whatever thing. He is never getting his back tattoo because of the scar tissue. Threesomes are something we seek out with Unicorns (bi women who are comfortable with threesomes with a couple on a purely sexual basis), but something we go back and forth on due to BeAu's desire to be fair since I am Bi and he is not and he will not do another guy(plastic doesn't count, toys are welcome). And party due to women being barsexuals and not actually bisexual. Or wanting in on BeAu and not me, or generally trying to cause trouble between us. It is a tapdance to find a FWB like that.
But on the same flip of the coin, we can be gentle and loving and completely into only each other for stretches of time, too. It's all about mood, really, and it isn't like we would be super forceful or particular about a Unicorn's taste's either. But we are open people willing to try anything.
Which is weird, because after my relationship with Jin, I was all about NO SEX EVAH. I wasn't into it, I didn't want it, I didn't like it, I was perfectly happy not having it. BeAu changed that, definitely, and at first a bit too drastically. We went through a period of indecisiveness where I wanted to go out and do my own thing, but we developed a relationship outside of sex. So we just stuck to each other.
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HAHA. I was all like, **** this, I'm having sex with dudes. And then I tried to make that happen and now I'm thinking I get girls a little better and am more turned on by them. But I'm also SUPER straightforward and blunt - that usually makes girls think a bit. "What's your sexual history like?" "When was the last time you were STD tested?" "What were the results?" "How do you feel about vibrators/____/_____/_____?" "What do you like?" "What don't you like?"
In retrospect, this might be why I've been told that I'm intimidating.
In retrospect, this might be why I've been told that I'm intimidating.
Nope. It's a personal taste thing, Paige. Everyone has a different comfort zone and sometimes those change. ****, in the last few months I've decided I'm not comfortable with anyone going down on me. Attempts have been met with some resistance, in fact. :rofl1