Here is the situation, I am the one who mainly takes care of Grizzley, feed, train, clean and play so I don't know if this is true in doggie mentality but I feel that Grizz looks at me as more of a playmate and thats why I have a problem with discipline. When he wants to play he comes to me, not Todd. Todd will play sometimes but not often. So we are working on getting Grizzley to not jump on me. He mainly does when I am sitting on the couch. He will start mouthing my hand and as I tell him no he gets worse and worse by his pays coming up and biting harder (he is not allowed up on the furniture). Now Todd will be sitting right next to me and just watch. Eventually he will jump in, tell Grizzely no and to go lay down and all it takes is one time for my husband to say no for me I can say it hundreds of times and it doesn't work. I know why he waits to jump in, he wants the no from me to work. So....how long should he wait?
Also what is the best way to get thru to Todd that positive punishment is best? He gets very firm vocally with with grizz but will also slap him on the butt (which I dont like) if he does something bad. Like yesterday Todd left his sandwich on the coffee table to get something out of the Kitchen and when he came back...sandwhich was in Grizzlies mouth :lol-sign: . Now I say "duh, you shouldn't have left your sandwich where the dog could get it" but he says "Grizz knew he was doing something that he shouldn't so he got a slap on the butt."
I feel this is doing damage because you can see the submissiveness in Grizzley around Todd. It almost seems like he waits for approval from Todd before he goes over to him. And if Todd gets home before me to let Grizz out he pees on the floor. I don't know if this is excited pee cuz he had to hold it all day or submissive pee cuz Todd hits him every once in a while. Another time Todd left grizz in a room that was not puppy proofed cuz we had a contractor over and when he came back he grizz had gotten into a bunch of papers (he was bored) and tore them all up, big mess. I wasn't home when it happened and I don't know what Todd did but it looks like he peed a little in the room and that evening Grizz would just sit or lay down on the floor and look at Todd, like he was waiting for Todd to come over and make up with him.
I don't want him to be afraid of hands. I was playing Tug of war with him last night and I had the toy in one hand tugging and with the other I was just trying to play around and touch his back, just to get more into the game and the first couple times Grizz was still tugging but running so I couldn't get him and even though he doesn;t really have a tail it seemed like it was between his legs, then the 3rd time I tried it he actully let go of the toy and grabbed my arm with his mouth (bit me). I just have a couple scratches but I have to wonder if that is from Todd hitting him on the butt and he thought thats what I was going to do by going after his back with my hand.
Sorry for the long post....any advice?
Also what is the best way to get thru to Todd that positive punishment is best? He gets very firm vocally with with grizz but will also slap him on the butt (which I dont like) if he does something bad. Like yesterday Todd left his sandwich on the coffee table to get something out of the Kitchen and when he came back...sandwhich was in Grizzlies mouth :lol-sign: . Now I say "duh, you shouldn't have left your sandwich where the dog could get it" but he says "Grizz knew he was doing something that he shouldn't so he got a slap on the butt."
I feel this is doing damage because you can see the submissiveness in Grizzley around Todd. It almost seems like he waits for approval from Todd before he goes over to him. And if Todd gets home before me to let Grizz out he pees on the floor. I don't know if this is excited pee cuz he had to hold it all day or submissive pee cuz Todd hits him every once in a while. Another time Todd left grizz in a room that was not puppy proofed cuz we had a contractor over and when he came back he grizz had gotten into a bunch of papers (he was bored) and tore them all up, big mess. I wasn't home when it happened and I don't know what Todd did but it looks like he peed a little in the room and that evening Grizz would just sit or lay down on the floor and look at Todd, like he was waiting for Todd to come over and make up with him.
I don't want him to be afraid of hands. I was playing Tug of war with him last night and I had the toy in one hand tugging and with the other I was just trying to play around and touch his back, just to get more into the game and the first couple times Grizz was still tugging but running so I couldn't get him and even though he doesn;t really have a tail it seemed like it was between his legs, then the 3rd time I tried it he actully let go of the toy and grabbed my arm with his mouth (bit me). I just have a couple scratches but I have to wonder if that is from Todd hitting him on the butt and he thought thats what I was going to do by going after his back with my hand.
Sorry for the long post....any advice?