What does your wedding ring mean to you?

[puppylover2007]

ok, so when i read over what Sam had posted about her hubby not wearing his ring, it got me thinking . for those of you who are married were married or what have you, how much did your wedding ring mean to you?

like in my case, i think the wedding ring is only a symbol to show others that you are "taken", in my marriage the ring is more of a society based symbol. we wear them on ocassions, to us the ring does not make the marriage, the LOVE between one another does. the little things ( and big things) the kisses at night and cuddles during the day, the conversations ( even heated ones), IMO, i think the ring is more or less turning it a " red carpet kinda thing.. Like, the bigger/ the more it shines, the more you paid kinda thing. I have a basic ring that is only a few karats or so, and my hubby has a basic band. and we are fine with it.

so, for those who are married ( or were) what role did the wedding ring play in your relationship?

 

[GlassOnion]

That I'm out 50 cents for the box of Cracker Jacks.

 

[ACooper]

I wear my engagement ring & wedding band all the time........rarely do I have it off (to make meatloaf or something I don't want smooshed into the diamonds)

Kevin's first wedding ring split the first year :yikes: I freaked out thinking that was a BAD sign! LOL.......I bought him a new one and he LOST it while doing construction on our house!! I bought him a THIRD one made of titanium and the size is just slightly too big..........titanium is cast and I was told it cannot be resized.

I give up! LOL..........he doesn't wear his and I am perfectly fine with it.

I think what really matters is your day to day life........not your ring, how much it did or did not cost, how big it is, or how much you choose to wear it. I wear mine because I like it and want to.

If I have to worry that someone is going to steal him because he doesn't have a wedding ring on then I doubt he is 'mine' anyway

 

[Samantha's pet]

I have a basic ring that is only a few karats or so, and my hubby has a basic band. and we are fine with it.

:yikes: I found that statement interesting. lol. you mean the DIAMOND is only a few carats or so? Wow, I want to see pics of YOUR ring.

I dont see the ring as any kind of measurement of our love or anything but mine really means a lot to me just like anything else he gives me.

He spent way too much on mine (its a 1 carat solitaire. more than he can really afford) but I had no say in that, His was only $100 bucks but its what eh wanted (a tungsten carbide band). It did bother me that he didnt wear it b/c I LOVE mine and its all still so new. Being married and all. I want everyone to know and plus the ring was a gift from him. He also lost a watch I gave him a few months ago as a gift and that bothers me as well. It makes me feel like he doesnt really like it enough to keep up w/ it. Ys know what I mean? I spent a lot of time picking out the PERFECT ring (and watch) just for him to carelessly discard it. Ooh, now I'm mad all over again. (about the watch, mostly) lol.

 

[Samantha's pet]

:yikes: I freaked out thinking that was a BAD sign! LOL

You think thats a bad sign. I had a mix up and the morning of my wedding I almost didnt find a Justice of the Peace to marry us (took me 2 hours) then it took us 3 tries to get our unity candle lit!!! (as in we gave up the first time, kissed and ended the ceremony. My dad took the candle away and scraped some wax off then brought it back and we tried again for the pics, mostly but it didnt work again so he had to take then candle and scrape off more wax around the wick and it worked!)

 

[sparks19]

Well.....

We really just wanted something to exchange when we got married (it was kind of spur of the moment)... my very first ring was the ONLY thing we could find in my size that did not have to be sent away to be resized lol... we didn't have time for that.... so my first ring was a plastic ring that I found in a department store... it was the only thing I could find that fit me lol... but that is OK with me... we just wanted to be able to exchange rings when the vows called for it. Brian used his wedding ring from his first marriage....

THEN we found a ring while cleaning out my dads house when he was moving... it was given to me by an ex and I didn't even realize I still had it.... we found it on the floor lol. So we decided I would take that as my "wedding ring". (I still wear it as my original wedding ring)

Then I lost that ring TWICE.... the second time we couldn't find it so he bought me a new ring that was a better fit... then we found the old ring... so I wear both rings.

So really.... the rings don't mean THAT much... although I was very upset that I had lost the ring because it was really the sentiment.

Actually I think the Sapphire ring he bought me for Christmas (Hannahs birthstone) is more precious to me. Our wedding ring does not equal love. it is just to show others that we are married.... it is just a symbol... but that doesn't mean that I wouldn't be sad if I were to lose it or damage it.

 

[adojrts]

My ring means a bunch to me.
First it was my grandmother's and they were married for 69 years. My Dad gave it to me, as he bought it out of the estate for me. My parents were married for 59 years until Dad died 3 years ago.
So it means that I am in this marriage for the long haul.
I only remove my rings when I am foaling mares or whelping out a girl.
I cut my ring finger badly a few years ago and the Dr said he was going to cut my rings off........not on your bloody life I told him, that wedding band has never been broken, just stitch the finger up.

Lynn

 

[puppylover2007]

:yikes: I found that statement interesting. lol. you mean the DIAMOND is only a few carats or so? Wow, I want to see pics of YOUR ring.



here it is ( sorry for the glare dang flash anyways, hope you can see it LOL i am only wearing it today because it is Christmas and it went with my outfit LOL, if you can not see it let me know thanks.

also, do NOT mind the HUGE hands, they are starting to swell because i am retaining WATER!!! dang preggers anyways LOL..

 

[Samantha's pet]

Wow! Thats a rock. I would never take it off! lol. Seriously, though. Its a lovely ring.

 

[puppylover2007]

Wow! Thats a rock. I would never take it off! lol. Seriously, though. Its a lovely ring.

LOL, you would think i wouldn't but, it is such a pain to keep clean and stuff so i just keep it in a box and take it out for occasions,

thanks i have had this one for over 6 years, never once lost it, i MISplaced it once.. and my hubby never ever let me forget it...

 

[Debi]

I love my rings...my diamond is gorgeous. but...I don't like wearing them. neither of us are into the 'rings show you're married' thing, so it's not a problem. we're not into jewelry, but can still understand the meaning of the never ending circle of love that a ring symbolizes. so...I think it's a great ceremonial symbol, but otherwise it's just not a huge part of our lives. at a point, I will have my diamond set into a necklace and give it to my daughter. that way I will be certain she got it, because I'd leave it to her when I'm gone. I want to do something for my son....maybe use the gold in the band in some other way? a tie clip?? it's a thought.......

 

[RD]

My dad doesn't wear a wedding ring. I think he has one but he works on so many things with his hands that the ring would be ruined or hurt his fingers. My mom doesn't care that he doesn't wear one. She wears hers often as well as the engagement ring he gave her, but she loves jewelry.

I honestly don't know if I could wear a valuable ring all the time. I'm cursed when it comes to jewelry and should probably be given cubic zirconia and plastic hardware just in case I lose it. lol

 

[HoundedByHounds]

ok, so when i read over what Sam had posted about her hubby not wearing his ring, it got me thinking . for those of you who are married were married or what have you, how much did your wedding ring mean to you?

Means to others that I am married. I take my vows to mean a whole lot more. But if I lost this ring...I'd want another. It also means my husband cared enough about me to listen to what I wanted and obtain it for me.

The ring means a lot to me because it is an antique...it would be something I could not replace...I could find something similar but not identical. It wasn't expensive by any means...but he knew I wanted it and he got it for me.

 

[puppylover2007]

wow, so it looks like for those who responded, that the ring or more or less just a symbol to others that you are married. but for the most part it looks like the ring is just that, no matter how much or how little you spend ( on either party), it is the meaning behind it, the reason you are married is because of the LOVE you have between you.

RD i love your plastic idea, LOL, i tend to lose alot of things as well, LOL, that is why when my hubby gave me this ring i thought OMG i am gonna loose it, so to be safe i wear it on ocassion, and when i get that single guy ( or married guy) to hit on me, i just tell them i am married to a wonderful man, and when he asks "where is your ring?" i tell them it is in my heart!" and they go away.. to me love is more than the peice of paper, or the ring, but, the vows you take ( which we made ourselves) and i hold them dear to my heart everyday.

thanks to those who shared your thoughts.

 

[Buddy'sParents]

It's merely a symbol, has no bearing on the relationship itself.

Hubby refuses to take his off.. he has NEVER taken either of his rings off- ever.

I take mine off when cleaning and showering, etc. because I like to keep the diamonds in a nice condition.

 

[bubbatd]

I had to have my original wedding band cut off years ago when I dislocated my finger and it was cutting off my circulation . Then hubby wanted a new set , so got me a new band and redid my diamond ring to add his mother's stone . It really never was " Me " I only wore it on dress up occasions . The Christmas before our 50th we designed a gold band with my original blue diamond mounted like it was floating ....for more sparkle . I rarely remove it ....especially as he died in February before our 5oth .