Well THAT'S good

[4dogs3cats]

Remember how I said that my boyfriends mom didnt like me?

Well yesterday he was on the phone with his grandma and he was telling her how his girlfriend was so nice and so pretty etc etc Well she said "Bring her over."

So yesterday we went to see his grandma lol.

She is sooo sweet. She has a little Lhasa Apso that I fell in love with, and Im not usually a HUGE fan of curly haired dogs but this dog was so soft and SO well behaved. His name was Sam and we really hit it off.

Long story short- Grandma LOVES me. Apparently he talks to her a lot and he talks about me all the time. She was a very very sweet lady, and said we can come back anytime. That made me feel very good.

What also made me feel good is that his mom doesn't even like his friends. Apparently she is very judgemental. But his best friend said his mom is the same way, they are both very religious, and only want the best for their sons.

In other news... I know I have only been with him for 2 months.. but he may be moving in. It makes sense financially. He would help me out and give me like $200 a month, and he is at my house all the time anyway. He is living with his friend right now, in a 10X10 laundry room with no air vents. Summer is coming up and it's going to get HOT in that room.

We still aren't sure because it hasn't been long at all. But if things didn't work out, he could go back with his friend, or stay with his grandma till he finds a place. I have just never hit it off with someone or got along with someone so good.

The only thing that worries us is that right now yeah he practically lives at my house, but pays rent at his. It's unofficial. If we OFFICIALLY move in together, we just don't want it to cause any problems. I know it's fast, but life is so short, and I like living on the edge these days! I guess we'll see what happens!

 

[bubbatd]

Is this his Mom's Mother ?? If so , I'm glad you hit it off ! It may cause family rifts moving in together so soon . Makes sense , but we oldsters have our hang ups !!! Maybe he could talk to his Grandmother ,as they are so close, and get a feeling as to her thoughts .

 

[4dogs3cats]

Is this his Mom's Mother ?? If so , I'm glad you hit it off ! It may cause family rifts moving in together so soon . Makes sense , but we oldsters have our hang ups !!! Maybe he could talk to his Grandmother ,as they are so close, and get a feeling as to her thoughts .

yeah exactly. It's his moms mom. His grandma was also saying she wishes that he and his mom had a better relationship. When they talk on the phone, and I have heard it, his mom is so judgemental and doesnt give him a chance to speak. he gets frustrated because he is 24 years old and is still being treated like a child, so they end up arguing.

His grandma was the one who said he seems so happy with me, and she doesnt know why hes paying rent to his friend still when he is always with me.

I still dont know what we're going to do. We have been together only 2 months, but apparently it's the longest he has been with someone. He said he usually doesn't do well in relationships but something about me just feels right. I agree, I really just want to spend every second with him!

 

[bubbatd]

Sounds like Grandma's in his and your corner . I'd say go for it but be careful !!!! This would be wrong time to get preggie !!! You may both completely change your minds in 6 months to a year ! I'm personally am very glad that none of my 3 had live- ins before marraige .... Each would have moved at least 3 times !!

 

[4dogs3cats]

Sounds like Grandma's in his and your corner . I'd say go for it but be careful !!!! This would be wrong time to get preggie !!! You may both completely change your minds in 6 months to a year ! I'm personally am very glad that none of my 3 had live- ins before marraige .... Each would have moved at least 3 times !!

haha definately! I dont want kids till I'm married so precautions are taken

I think it would be casual.. not gonna make him sign a lease... just move his stuff in and stop paying rent at the other place. It would help me out a LOT since I already have one roomate and my cousin is moving in April 3rd. I would end up paying $100.00 for rent instead of $970!!!

 

[milos_mommy]

Zach moved in for about two months very early, about two-three months into our relationship. It was basically because it was "convienient", my mother moved into her boyfriend's apartment during a midlife crisis after kicking my mom out, my house is much closer to his school, and I was having trouble caring for my 14 year old brother and all the pets alone. He moved out once my parents got back together and moved back in. Nothing terrible ever came out of it, though. It gave us a taste for living together...sharing chores, handling crisis, budgeting, etc.

The only thing is that I sort of felt like by moving so quickly we were missing out on some stuff. Even though he never stopped telling me I was beautiful and holding my hand and stuff, I missed out on the lingering at the front door saying goodnight to him, or sitting in his car after he drove me home from a date.

Glad his grandma likes you! Zach and I were only dating two weeks when his mom asked if he was thinking about marrying me and if I wanted kids and stuff. Then again, his past few girlfriends were really trashy and rude to them and horrible to Zach, so I had it easy.

 

[Dizzy]

Do what feels right, but yeah, be prepared for it to get "normal" more quickly.

Good things come to those who wait, it'll be exciting for the first few weeks/months, then it becomes routine - bills, smells in the toilet, dirty laundery, food shopping, who used the last of the toilet roll and didn't replace it, who didn't do the dishes.

Or it may be you're meant to fall blissfully in love forever and it'll be perfect

But just keep everything in mind.

Keep the spark for as long as possible I'd say - move into Grannies - then he'll REALLY appreciate it when he comes to visit

 

[4dogs3cats]

Zach moved in for about two months very early, about two-three months into our relationship. It was basically because it was "convienient", my mother moved into her boyfriend's apartment during a midlife crisis after kicking my mom out, my house is much closer to his school, and I was having trouble caring for my 14 year old brother and all the pets alone. He moved out once my parents got back together and moved back in. Nothing terrible ever came out of it, though. It gave us a taste for living together...sharing chores, handling crisis, budgeting, etc.

The only thing is that I sort of felt like by moving so quickly we were missing out on some stuff. Even though he never stopped telling me I was beautiful and holding my hand and stuff, I missed out on the lingering at the front door saying goodnight to him, or sitting in his car after he drove me home from a date.

Glad his grandma likes you! Zach and I were only dating two weeks when his mom asked if he was thinking about marrying me and if I wanted kids and stuff. Then again, his past few girlfriends were really trashy and rude to them and horrible to Zach, so I had it easy.

Do what feels right, but yeah, be prepared for it to get "normal" more quickly.

Good things come to those who wait, it'll be exciting for the first few weeks/months, then it becomes routine - bills, smells in the toilet, dirty laundery, food shopping, who used the last of the toilet roll and didn't replace it, who didn't do the dishes.

Or it may be you're meant to fall blissfully in love forever and it'll be perfect

But just keep everything in mind.

Keep the spark for as long as possible I'd say - move into Grannies - then he'll REALLY appreciate it when he comes to visit

The thing is that he is already at my house 24-7. He was just there for the past 3 days straight. he sent me a text today when he left for work that said "Chance no go in crate." I said why not? he said.. i forgot. So I said "Ugh. You." And he said "Ugh. you! I took the trash out and made the bed." Its cute how he thinks doing that will erase any damage Chance may have done. the roomate got home 30 min after he left so it was all good.

We are worried about it actually being OFFICIAL that we live together. he likes having his place, but at the same time, hates that it is a laundry room that he lives in.

 

[bubbatd]

Living together means give and take . You'll know in 6 months !

 

[Criosphynx]

good luck Jen

.... Kev and I moved in quick too...bought our house after just a year or so....If it feels right, it feels right...At least its YOUR place and YOUR terms...so even if it goes bad, your likely not going to be a ruin!

 

[Zoom]

Hope it works out like you're hoping!

 

[Labyrinth]

My husband and I moved in together after only 3 months. That was seven years ago! I don't regret a thing

 

[4dogs3cats]

See I dont know if I am ready to like settle down again. I settled down with Erik for 5 years and it ended up crashing and burning.

We talked about it tonight, and he told his current roommate that he wants to help his gf out so he wont be paying water or electric there anymore and hes going to help me with the bills here. That way he still has his own place that he can retreat to if need be and we dont smother each other.

I think this way is PERFECT.

I dont want to ruin what we have because I honestly have NEVER been so happy.

Oh here we are by the way:

Ugh we're cute. lol

 

[ma-vie-en-vert]

My boyfriend and I moved in together after 2 months and that was 4 years ago! Trust your gut. I've found when it comes to love your gut is usually right, lol.

Aww you guys are cute!!

 

[4dogs3cats]

My boyfriend and I moved in together after 2 months and that was 4 years ago! Trust your gut. I've found when it comes to love your gut is usually right, lol.

Aww you guys are cute!!

haha thanks.

Thats the thing thought.. I JUST got out of a 5 year relationship being engaged for 2 years that ended HORRIBLY. My gut isnt thinking clearly right now. All I know is I would spend every second of every day with that boy if I could.

 

[ma-vie-en-vert]

haha thanks.

Thats the thing thought.. I JUST got out of a 5 year relationship being engaged for 2 years that ended HORRIBLY. My gut isnt thinking clearly right now. All I know is I would spend every second of every day with that boy if I could.

Well if you wanna spend every second with him then moving in together sounds pretty good!! lol

The only thing I don't like about moving in with someone really soon is you tend to lose the "spark" sooner and you miss out on the "cute" part of the relationship. IT's not always like that though. Even after 4 years my man still give me be butterflies in my tummy, lol.

 

[4dogs3cats]

Well if you wanna spend every second with him then moving in together sounds pretty good!! lol

The only thing I don't like about moving in with someone really soon is you tend to lose the "spark" sooner and you miss out on the "cute" part of the relationship. IT's not always like that though. Even after 4 years my man still give me be butterflies in my tummy, lol.

Thats awesome!

We decided against officially moving in. It's just too much for us too soon. Especially since I JUST got out of an engagement. I dont want to rush anything with him. Nothings changed, hes still there all the time lol but hes going to give me some money to help out with the utilities

 

[bubbatd]

Wise choice !

 

[4dogs3cats]

Wise choice !

I agree. The fact that I wasn't 100% gung ho about it makes me think that there is plenty of time to wait.

 

[ma-vie-en-vert]

Sounds like a good plan!!