We had to put Tinder to sleep. Just letting you guys know.

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I'm just keeping everyone updated.

He didn't have another seizure or anything but he wasn't doing good. He was sleeping constantly. He was either sleeping (or just laying there) and the only time he would get up would be to pee or to drink. And he'd drink a LOT when he did finally drink. His back legs were really weak..he'd sometimes fall into the sitting position when he was standing. He was being hand fed but still was picky about his food. And his cough went from dry to really wet. I was laying with him a lot today and he would sometimes cough this really wet cough. I had my hand on his back after he did it at one point, and I felt crackling.

I made a vet appointment but the soonest one I could get him was for saturday. I felt like that was way too far off, based on how bad he seemed. Then a few hours after my boyfriend got home from work, Tinder started acting strange. He'd get up to drink water but he'd only look at the water, not drink any. Which, based on how much water he'd been drinking lately, didn't seem normal to me. Then he was pacing around and panting. We were worried he might have another seizure so my boyfriend and I took him to the emergency vet.

The vet told us that he's extremely dehydrated but also it sounded like there might be water in his lungs. She said he was slightly blue. While we were there, his breathing got a lot worse. He was breathing so hard. She gave me all of my options, which were basically to drive him to another place that had more available to them, because she said getting him stable was going to be difficult. She said that is an option though, and if he can get stable, they can try to run other tests on him to figure out what's going on and why things are basically shutting down. The other tests included an MRI, which he would have to be put under for. Or our other option was to put him to sleep.

She had to leave and come back a few times because I just could NOT decide what to do. I guess I felt in my gut that the right thing to do was to put him out of his misery, but I felt like since I had other options, I'd be a bad owner not to take them. My boyfriend and I talked it out but he said ultimately, I had to decide.

Well, while we were in the room alone with him his breathing became really labored. My boyfriend went to get the vet and she said Tinder looked a lot more blue and asked if we should start him on oxygen. I said no, I think it's selfish to put him through all of this. I said that we should put him to sleep.

I've been second guessing myself a lot. I almost feel like a murderer I know that's an awful thing to say, but I feel like I had other options to still try :( He just seemed so...ugh. He hasn't been like himself in weeks now. But I feel like maybe I could've gotten him treatment and fixed him a little bit...

I'm a little upset about what happened at the vet. While we were spending some time with Tinder before he was put to sleep, the receptionist came in to talk about money with my boyfriend. I know that she needs to do her job, but gosh, can't she wait a little? And then after Tinder was gone (but still in the room with us..we were saying goodbye) the vet said they could make an impression of his paw for me if I wanted. I said that would be nice. But then this young girl came in and started moving him around kind of...harshly. She picked his head up and was moving him, and there was stuff coming out of his mouth Then she asked ME to push his paw into the clay. She said I have to push hard for it to make an imprint. It was just...really weird. She wasn't gentle with his body, really. She seemed too chipper and not to sound mean, but she didn't have much tact.

I know I was overly sensitive because of what had just happened, but the more I think about it, the more it bothers me. I didn't want to see him after she lifted his head up like that. His eyes were still open and he looked so...well, dead. I wasn't rude to her and I didn't say anything, but it's upsetting me now.

Anyway, I'm done venting I guess. I want to thank everyone for their help. I know I'm new, but you guys were good support when I needed it. Thank you.
 

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*hugs* Ultimately you know what was best for Tinder. You loved him more than anyone, and I'm sure he thanks you for freeing him from that pain. He's lucky to have such a caring and loyal friend in you, that could be so selfless when it was time to say goodbye.
 

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I'm sorry you had to go through this, and that it was so unpleasant because of the girl in the office. It sure sounds like you did the kind and loving thing for your dog. Just the fact that you are so torn makes it clear that you loved him very much and didn't want him to be miserable.

((((HUGS)))) to you.

And run free, Tinder.
 

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I am so sorry. It's never easy, even when we know it's the right choice. :(

RIP Tinder
 
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My deepest sympathies.

It is so obvious that was a very hard decision, made out of great love and care for Tinder.

((((hugs))))
 

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I'm so sorry for your loss. Please don't think you made a bad decision Tinder was sick and you did the best you could do for him.

I was in this situation and I made the wrong decision so I know what you did was right. I will keep you in my prayers. Rest In Peace Tinder.
 

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Rest in peace Tinder..
I am so sorry for your loss. Its never easy...{{{{{hugs}}}}
 

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(((((((((hugs))))))))))) it is the hardest kindness a pet owner can do.

I am very sorry the people in the vets office weren't more sensitive.
 

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I am so very sorry--it is never easy to make that decision. It was a kindness to Tinder as he was suffering.
 

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I'm very sorry for your loss. That's never an easy decision to make. Only you know when the time was right. Run Free Tinder... run free
 

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I'm so sorry. Tinder is at peace now. Tinder will be in your heart and memories forever.
 

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I think you did the right thing. And after all, you did it in his best interests, so don't feel guilty, you know that he had a good life with you and that's all that matters now.

And i totally understand why you were upset with the treatment of him afterwards, i would be too. But there's no point in fretting over that, forget it, and just cherish your memories of him :)

((Hugs))
 
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You did right by Tinder. You loved him enough to let him escape pain and confusion, even though it hurt you terribly.

You will always miss him. That won't stop, no matter how much time passes, but the missing him will become more sweet than bitter and the good memories and the love will become the focus over time.

Keep your heart open. Tinder will send you someone . . . not to take his place, but to help fill the empty places again.

Stay with us, too. :)
 

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My thoughts and prayers are with you. I know exactly how you feel - putting my "Fishy" down after 17 years with him was the hardest thing I have ever done in my whole life. It's been 4 years since he passed in my arms - but the sadness still overcomes me when I write or think about him. Hugs to you and may the angels in heaven take care of your precious Tinder.
 

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Thank you all so much. It truly means a lot to me.

It hasn't even been a week but it feels like it's been months. It's so surreal, you know?

:( I miss having a dog to take care of.
 

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